What the fuck are you thinking?  We have all had that moment in our relationship, a time or two, that makes you wonder why your relationship isn’t as good as it used to be. But I am starting to believe that men are simple and they forget about the four F’s.





Not necessarily in that order…

Okay, I contend that the same effing things hold true for women.  Depending on which F is the most significant determines what things we are willing to compromise on and when.  I admit in my secret heart of hearts that I may or may not always place FAMILY at the top.  In my defense, the way that I think — if I’m good with the other three F’s, then my family will be taken care of and my house will be in order.


Family first and Family over everything, right? Well, sometimes.  You want to make sure that you aren’t in a relationship with a momma’s boy or someone who has an already made family that they are extremely attached to.  Where would that leave you?  Find out in the early stages of dating where this person stands when it comes to their romantic life and whether or not they are able to include you.


Have you heard the phrase, “no romance without finance”? Well nowadays, that’s even more applicable.  It’s all about the money, honey.  Don’t let anyone tell you that cash isn’t king.  You need money for everything.  Bills need to be paid, and every so often, you should enjoy a date night with your partner.  Now for all of the hopeless romantics out there, fuhgettabout living off of love.  I simply cannot function well if my money is not right.


Feed my soul and my body.  The old adage is true,– the way to a (wo)man’s heart is through the stomach. I need enough to fuel my body.  But the food you present to me must look good, smell great, and taste amazing.  Quite simply, I am not happy if my hunger isn’t satisfied. Don’t even think about trying to order some dollar menu meal and think it’s okay.  Who wants to fuck while your belly growls from hunger?


I cannot think straight if I am not regularly loved.  The human body is perfectly designed for pleasure as it is equipped with many erogenous zones for sensual arousal. Not to mention the fact that, when performed vigorously, sexual activity burns calories and releases happy, happy endorphins that we all need to get through this thing called life.

In essence, when it comes to the four F’s, men and women are pretty much the same creatures with different stripes. Embrace your own needs, so you can embrace your partner’s as well.