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Why Your Relationship Isn’t As Good As it Used to Be (the 4th one is BIG)

What the fuck are you thinking? We have all had that moment in our relationship, a time or two, that makes you wonder why your relationship isn’t as good as it used to be. But I am starting to believe that men are simple and they forget about the four F’s.

FAMILY

FOOD

FINANCES

FUCKING

Not necessarily in that order…

Okay, I contend that the same effing things hold true for women. Depending on which F is the most significant determines what things we are willing to compromise on and when. I admit in my secret heart of hearts that I may or may not always place FAMILY at the top. In my defense, the way that I think — if I’m good with the other three F’s, then my family will be taken care of and my house will be in order.

Family

Family first and Family over everything, right? Well, sometimes. You want to make sure that you aren’t in a relationship with a momma’s boy or someone who has an already made family that they are extremely attached to. Where would that leave you? Find out in the early stages of dating where this person stands when it comes to their romantic life and whether or not they are able to include you.

Finances

Have you heard the phrase, “no romance without finance”? Well nowadays, that’s even more applicable. It’s all about the money, honey. Don’t let anyone tell you that cash isn’t king. You need money for everything. Bills need to be paid, and every so often, you should enjoy a date night with your partner. Now for all of the hopeless romantics out there, fuhgettabout living off of love. I simply cannot function well if my money is not right.

Food

Feed my soul and my body. The old adage is true,– the way to a (wo)man’s heart is through the stomach. I need enough to fuel my body. But the food you present to me must look good, smell great, and taste amazing. Quite simply, I am not happy if my hunger isn’t satisfied. Don’t even think about trying to order some dollar menu meal and think it’s okay. Who wants to fuck while your belly growls from hunger?

Fornication

I cannot think straight if I am not regularly loved. The human body is perfectly designed for pleasure as it is equipped with many erogenous zones for sensual arousal. Not to mention the fact that, when performed vigorously, sexual activity burns calories and releases happy, happy endorphins that we all need to get through this thing called life.

In essence, when it comes to the four F’s, men and women are pretty much the same creatures with different stripes. Embrace your own needs, so you can embrace your partner’s as well.

September 7, 2016 2

Cum Again? These Sex Toys are Made for Women but are Better for Men

While sex toys are often synonymous with female pleasure, there is plenty of fun to be had by men looking to spice things up during solo play or amidst intimate moments with a partner. In fact, it can be easy to add a little adventure to your love life with provocative pleasure products that your partner already uses herself. Here are some universal favorites that women already love and men may find quite appealing as well.

Mini Massagers

Bullet or mini-egg vibrators are often a great place to start for men who do not have much experience with provocative products. With a non-intimidating size, these powerful vibrators can be an amazing addition to foreplay or intercourse with mind-blowing prostate stimulation.

Magic Wand Vibrator

Magic wand style vibrators are not the most compact in size, but they are incredibly versatile for any type of intimacy. You might start out with some deep tissue massage to relieve soreness and tension for more uninhibited bedroom activities, or you can get creative and explore more sensitive areas. Just remember to start out with a low setting to get the feel for things before unleashing the power of these toys.

Hello Touch Stimulator

The Hello Touch is a unique stimulating toy that utilizes small finger pads to enhance your own touch. From self-stimulation to partners’ massage sessions to anal and testicular stimulation, the Hello Touch can provide any man with an unforgettable pleasure experience. If you’re feeling particularly adventurous, you might add a blindfold to the mix as your partner explores all the most sensitive parts of your body.

July 20, 2016 0

How to Talk Dirty to Your Partner (Even if you don’t know how)

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In the movie, Trainwreck, Amy Schumer’s character is having sex with the very sexy John Cena. Amy wants her lover to talk dirty to her to help her get more in the mood.

Unfortunately, what happens to a lot of people, he doesn’t know what to say, so he starts rambling off things off the top of his head that are sexy to him (men really are wired differently). But that isn’t what his lover wants to hear. I’ve been there a time or two myself.

Whenever I found myself having to train a new partner in the art of making me feel satisfied, I discovered that I had to be very specific in instructions. His perception of sexy, dirty talk wasn’t always what my ears and brain needed.

Talking Dirty with Your Partner, Even if You Don’t Know How

Dirty talk can be a valuable tool in the bedroom, but many people shy away from being vocal in the act or expressing desires before things heat up physically. If you have always avoided talking dirty as part of your foreplay routine, you might find that you’ve been missing out on some great opportunities to build intimacy with your partner and become in tune with your own fantasies. With a trusted partner, you might feel comfortable beginning to indulge in dirty talk, which can take some getting used to, but has the potential for some serious benefits.

Unlock the benefits of dirty talk.

It’s been said many times that the brain is the largest erogenous zone in the body, and this is true for a number of reasons. Chemical impulses in the brain drive the biological desire to have sex, but there is much more to arousal than hormone production. When you bring dirty talk into the mix, you can amplify your partner’s and your own arousal by triggering more parts of the brain as you become intimate. This creates a stronger mind-body connection that can heighten the sense of closeness and pleasure you feel. For women, dirty talk might be particularly helpful in building heat before getting physical, because women take much longer to become aroused than men do. While in the act, talking dirty can give your partner more accurate feedback of what he or she is doing right, and this will further increase your fun.

Explore your fantasies.

Dirty talk can be a pleasant surprise for your partner, particularly when you divulge some of your previously unspoken fantasies. In fact, the easiest way to get started when talking dirty is by simply expressing how you want to touch and be touched by your partner. If you are on the shy side, sending a naughty text or leaving a sexy note might do the trick in getting your partner started with the dirty talk in person.

young woman using a smartphone in bed — Send a naughty text message if you’re on the shy side

Regardless of how you plan your approach, you might find that a few naughty sentiments are just what you need to bring new pleasure products and intimacy enhancers into your relationship.

Embrace the awkward moments.

It can be difficult to find just the right words to say to your partner—especially in the heat of the moment.

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As a result, there may be some less than flattering moments when you land on a phrase that just doesn’t sound as good as it did in your head. Learning to find the humor in the awkwardness can actually build a stronger bond with your partner and help you feel more comfortable while exploring some of your more hidden desires.

As you discover the pleasure that communicating with dirty talk can bring, let Embracedesires.com bring your fantasies to your front door with discreet packaging on our full line of pleasure products and intimate accessories. Browse our website for a complete look at our collections of couple’s toys, gifts, and bath and body products.

June 15, 2016 1

Want to Be a Better Lover? Get Rid of Bedroom Clutter in 4 Easy Steps

With most couples sex is a very important part of the relationship, as well as where the sex takes place. Many people like to be adventurous and try new things and new places. That was great before careers, cameras, and kids came into the picture. Now, in our adult reality, we all know the most intercourse between couples takes place in the bedroom. So get ready to be a better lover, because we are about to help you get rid of the clutter!

Your bedroom should be an inviting playroom for sex.

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When you look at your bedroom what do you see? Exercise equipment that has turned into a coat rack? Children’s toy’s and other clutter that is preventing you from being the best lover .

What about that brand new flat screen tv? While all of these things may seem like creature comforts, they are actually mental distractions to what could be amazing, mind blowing sex!

The wonderful design experts at IBB Design Fine Furnishings have some great tips to start a bedroom makeover.

If clothes make the man, then his living space should also be indicative of who he is as well. If you’ve ever visited a potential lover’s house, only to discover that the place is a mess, guess what…Big Turn Off! Dirty dishes in the sink, clothes on the floor, or worse, critters — roaches, rodents, even the occasional filthy roommate is a big no no.

Your(potential) lover could be the sexiest man alive (Hi Idris Elba), but if that living space is a wreck, you’ve just ruined your chance at intimacy.

There really is something sexy about visiting someone’s home for the first time in anticipation of getting laid.

But, your partner can’t relax in a messy place.

A few tips to tidy up your place to make sure you are the best lover possible.

Fumigate – If you know that those crawling, disgustingly unwelcome guests (we’re not talking about your roommate) in your house always make an appearance when you are trying to get lucky, and if time time permits, call an exterminator – or just do it yourself
Dust – Believe it or not, dust collects EVERY day. Dust the baseboards, TV’s, counters and your dresser. it will make a huge difference.
Organize – Put away all of your clothes. If they don’t fit in your closetor dresser where the doors/drawers can close, invest in storage containers to fit your adult lifestlye.
Aromatics – We are visual creatures, yes, but there is nothing more stimulating to the senses than the olfactory delight of a sophisticated and seductive scent to tantalize and entice your lover. Light a candle and set the mood. Inhale the sensual bouquet and watch the mesmerizing flicker of the flame as your guest warms up to you even more.

We want to hear from you! Tell us in the comments how you make your room attractive to a potential lover.

February 17, 2016 0

Open Up – When you need to get something off your chest, but your BF is the judge-y type

WTF is going on

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I am opening up because I need an answer. Where are the good men? I meet a potential mate, but then somewhere, early on, things don’t seem to work. Help me figure this one out.

Q: I keep falling for the same type of guy? I’m educated, I have a great career, but I still find myself with the same type of man who loves me, then leaves me. I have a college degree, am established in my career and I know what I want in a man. A man who is educated, single, no drama, earns more than I do, and knows how to pamper a woman. What is wrong with me? Am I asking for too much?

A: Man! oh man, are we all too familiar with THIS scenario. First off, the good men ARE out there. It’s how you present yourself initially that determines how you will be treated. You sometimes have to fall back in your interactions with men. Men don’t always want an independent woman who not only knows that she is independent, but embraces her independence. What would he be needed for if a woman touts her accomplishments but doesn’t allow the man to lead, in the traditional sense. If all you want is attention, you don’t need a man, you need a pet.

November 18, 2015 3

Did You Know – What is in Ejaculate?

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You are what you eat. At least that is what has been hammered in our brains since the food pyramid became popular. But the good news is that the healthy foods your body takes in, eventually come out. But not in a way you may think.

Both male and female ejaculate contains carbs, amino acids, and proteins. When the ejaculate fluid dries, it will dry yellowish depending on the amount of protein in the secretion. The higher the protein found in the secretions of the ejaculate, the more yellow it will dry

November 10, 2015 0

Did You Know?

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Life is a lot like toilet paper. You’re either on a roll, or taking shit from some asshole

The pressure is on, I fear I might leak.
A bush or toilet is what I seek.
Don’t make me laugh or sit on my belly,
And having to hold it makes my legs jelly.
Don’t make sounds of water or don’t even tickle
Or I may dance in pain or let out a trickle.

As necessary as going to the bathroom to relieve yourself may be, you may be disturbed to know that almost all toilet paper has formaldehyde and chlorine residue on them.

Do you want your bottom to smell like formaldehyde, the chemical that is used in some funeral homes to embalm the deceased? We don’t.

October 21, 2015 0

Did You Know? You are washing your panties the wrong way

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“Pleasing is the fragrance of your fruit”

Is there anything more intoxicating than the heady scent coming from a woman? I dare say no. Ok, usually not. But in order to enjoy that perfume that spreads from our legs to tickle the senses, we must be clean. Not just cleaning our ladybits, but also the panties we wear.

When washing our undies, we should use a mild, unscented detergent that is free of perfumes and dyes. Think baby detergent. It’s gentle enough not to irritate a baby’s new, and delicate skin, so it will be gentle enough on our most intimate areas.

After washing your undies, use the extra rinse cycle on your machine if available.
Avoid using fabric dryer sheets – they leave residue on the fabric and when it come in contact with your delicate areas, it can rub off and cause skin irritation. (If you want your panties to smell like a garden or some other heavenly body, use potpourri or drawer sachets instead).

September 16, 2015 2

Has the Passion Fizzled in Your Relationship? Don’t Let it Happen to You. Put the SIZZLE Back TONIGHT!

Keep Passion Alive

Pleasure Your Mate Month

When it comes to satisfying your mate, their pleasure should be your #1 priority. No need to wait for February to display love and affection on Valentine’s day when you automatically get more days in September. Celebrate Pleasure Your Mate Month in September, for more time to bump and grind.

We, at embracedesires.com want to make sure that you have what you need to give your mate as much pleasure as they can enjoy, not just for a month, but all year round.

New Positions

Missionary style sex positions have been performed since you first lost your virginity; at least that is true for us. Break away from ordinary vanilla sex: Try a new position to reignite passion. Embrace the sensual creature that is within you. It is easy to add mystery and intrigue into your bedroom romp. Get some position inspiration from Cosmo’s 28 Mind-Blowing Lesbian Sex Positions, or simply climb on top of your lover, and just as he gazes into your beautiful eyes thinking that he will be entering you while you eyes are locked on each other, turn your body facing away from him giving him a full and wondrous view of all of that junk in your trunk – yes, show off your Badonk! He’ll enjoy a handful of your booty as you ride him Reverse Cowgirl style. Yee Haw!

Talk That Talk

Technology has made it challenging to engage in stimulating conversations. Use the advancements that are already at your fingertips. Send a flirty text, “I’m thinking of you..guess what I’m doing” or for a more dirty text, send the following, “I need to fuck you“, to your partner. If time and opportunity allows, Face Time your mate, Android users will have to go for video chat, in the nude and let them watch you fondle yourself or perform a strip tease. Don’t have the time to chat? Send them a sultry picture message, don’t worry about prying eyes, there are plenty of apps that can delete your picture and message after it’s sent.

Different Locations

The bedroom is usually the most convenient location to make love. You wake up horny, roll over and jump on your partner. Change the ambiance if the bedroom is your only option. Do something out of the ordinary. Pleasure your partner with the lights on if the lights are usually off. Notice the sweat dripping from your partner’s skin. ooh, yes…You did that! How’s that for arousal?

Be Aware of Your Surroundings

When you are ready and able to try different locations for your sexual encounters, release your inhibitions and accept your adventurous self (be mindful of any local indecency laws in your area). Try this: Go out for a nice evening –sans panties of course, seize the opportunity for a quick scandalous tryst in a public bathroom, outside, alongside a building, on an empty train car, or a park.

If you are more of an indoors type of lover, ride your mate once you park your car in the garage, or other safe location. But hurry before the parking attendant comes checking on you. If you have a garage attached to your home, you are in luck, because you can just get it in your own garage.

When you finally make it home, you can engage in coitus UN-interruptus right there on the stairs. If you live in an apartment building, you have the heightened adrenaline rush of your neighbors walking up or down the stairs and getting a glimpse of you mid stroke.

Car

Damn those comfy bucket seats that cradles you oh so nicely! They are not the most sex friendly, we know. No one likes having the gearshift pressing so hard against their flesh that it leaves you numb, or your ass honking the horn when it gets sooo good. So it’s climbing into the backseat you two go. (That’s why pick-up trucks were really made).

Because Toys, ARE Us!

“Love has no limits (but it does have a safe word)”.

Forget sending roses to turn on your partner. Surprise your loved one with a set of sexy restraints made from luxurious sensual silk. The decadent feel of soft, smooth fabric against her skin as you bind her hands is intoxicating. Make your lover your sex slave, even if it is only for the night. Remember your safe word. Once you have your partner tied up, reach for a powerful, yet quiet vibrator and stimulate her clitoris, varying the intensity. Ladies, you can blindfold you man and slip a comfortable ring on his (no, not his finger) already stiffening manhood and enjoy his cockiness.

Pleasuring your partner made easy, by embracedesires.com 😉

September 2, 2015 0

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