Improving Relationships, One Fucking Couple at a Time

Improving Relationships, One Fucking Couple at a Time



4 Simple Steps for Attracting and Keeping Love (before and after Valentine’s Day)

Ahh, Valentines Day; a day devoted to displays of affection. Yet it can be a depressingly heart-wrenching day of the year if  you are not in a passionate relationship. Uggh. You wish there was a magic spell to cast for finding true love and happiness.

“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.” — Ann Landers

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You’ve done it all. Blind dates, supermarket stakeouts, and the online dating scene, yet you still strike out when it comes to finding l’amour.  We go to extremes trying to attract the perfect mate: tucking things, plucking thing, taping things, dying and frying things to get that special someone to notice you.  It’s frustrating to say the least. What’s worse is that even the mean cross-eyed receptionist in the doctors office is now engaged.

Your last resort would be to try and conjure up a love spell. Do they work?  Who knows.

Take heart.  Love requires planning and maneuvering.   Now is the time that you take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself, what signals am I sending out?

But before you cross the enchanted bridge and begin to entice the divine powers, envision the person you want to become in order to attract the love that you want.

  • Light a soft pink candle.
  • Relax in a tub filled with sea salt and essential oils, like chamomile, Jasmine, lavender, rosemary, or rose.
  • Visualize white light surrounding you and begin meditating on how you can improve yourself.
  • Cover your bed in red or pink petals, and enjoy all of you, that you have to offer.

We’ve done crazy things to invoke the love goddess and did everything we could to welcome Cupid into our life.  What have you done to attract love?  Tell us:




Celebrate Love Before Valentine’s Day

September is Pleasure Your Mate Month


When it comes to satisfying your mate, their pleasure should be your #1 priority. No need to wait for Valentine’s day in February to display love and affection when September is Pleasure Your Mate Month. We, at, want to make sure that you have what you need to give your mate as much erotic pleasure as they can enjoy — not just for a month, but all year round.

New Positions

Missionary style sex positions have been performed since you first started having intercourse. Break away from ordinary vanilla sex. Try a new position to reignite passion. Embrace the sensual creature that is within you. It is easy to add mystery and intrigue into your bedroom romp. Get some inspiration from Cosmo’s 28 Mind-Blowing Lesbian Sex Positions. Or simply climb on top of your lover, and just as he thinks he will be entering you as he gazes into your beautiful eyes, turn your body facing away from him giving him a full and wondrous view of all of that junk in your trunk – yes, girl, show off your Badonk! He’ll enjoy a handful of your booty as you ride him sex positions Bronzed reverse cowgirl embracedesires Reverse Cowgirl style. Yee Haw

Different Locations

Talk That Talk

Technology has made it challenging to engage in stimulating conversations. Use the advancements that are at your fingertips. Send a flirty (or dirty!) text message to your partner.  While you are in the nude, FaceTime your mate, Android users will have to go for video chat, and let them watch you fondle yourself.  Don’t have the time to chat?  Send them a sultry picture message, don’t worry about prying eyes, there are plenty of apps that can delete your message and your picture after it’s sent.

The bedroom is usually the most convenient location to make love. Change the ambiance is the bedroom is your only option. Pleasure your partner with the lights on if the lights are usually off. Notice the sweat dripping from your partner’s skin. How’s that for arousal?



Be Aware of Your Surroundings

When you are ready and able to try different locations for your sexual encounters, release your inhibitions and accept your adventurous self (be mindful of any local indecency laws in your area). Try this: Go out for a nice evening –sans panties of course, seize the opportunity for a quick scandalous tryst in the bathroom, alongside a building, on an empty train car, or a park.


If you are more of an indoors type of girl, ride your mate once you park your car in the garage. But hurry before the parking attendant comes checking on you. If you have a garage attached to your home, you are in luck, because you can just have coitus un-interruptus in your own garage.


When you finally make it home, you can have sex right there on the stairs. If you live in an apartment building, you have the heightened adrenaline rush of your neighbors walking up or down the stairs and getting a glimpse of you mid stroke.



Damn those comfy bucket seats that cradles you oh so nicely! They are not the most sex friendly, we know. No one likes having the gearshift pressing so hard against their flesh that it leaves you numb, or your ass honking the horn when it gets soooo good. So it’s climbing into the backseat you two go.


Because Toys, ARE Us!

“Love has no limits (but it does have a safe word)”.

Forget sending her roses to turn her on. Surprise her with a set of sexy restraints made from sensual silk. The decadent feel of soft, smooth fabric against her skin as you bind her hands is intoxicating. Make your lover your sex slave, even if it is only for the night. Once you have your partner tied up, reach for a powerful, yet quiet vibrator and stimulate her clitoris, varying the intensity. Ladies, you can blindfold you man and slip a comfortable ring on his (no, not his finger) already stiffening manhood and enjoy his cockiness.

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Passing the Torch. How One Man Taught His Son To Be a Gentleman.

“To be a gentleman does not depend upon the tailor or the toilet. Good clothes are not good habits. A gentleman is just a gentle – man, — no more, no less; a diamond polished, that was first a diamond in the rough” —  William Croswell Doane

How to be a gentleman



When I became a husband, showing affection and treating my wife with kid gloves were things that came naturally. I never realized that my father had planted those ideas in my head years ago. At least I didn’t until my son has started paying attention to the way I treat, not only my wife, but any person of the opposite persuasion.

My son is 9 years old. I first noticed that he was paying attention last year when my wife tore her Achilles. I came home from work and he was tirelessly putting pillows under her ankle and waiting on her every need. I asked him if he was in trouble. Nope. I asked him if he was pushing for an addition to his allowance. Nope. Then why? “Because that’s what you do”, he said. Now I notice when we are out in public that my son regularly opens doors for women. And he will readily note when his kindness is not returned with a thank you.

It makes me Rules to become a gentlemanwonder when I see some of the intolerable behavior men display towards women. And, sadly, I wonder why women put up with it. I’m not just talking about giving flowers on Valentine’s Day. Or picking up the towels after you take a shower. But I mean things like having a candlelight dinner ready before she comes home from work, kids or not. Sneaking little displays of affection like stealing a kiss in the kitchen or a little pat on the backside when you think no one is watching. But that’s the thing. They are. I was. And I loved it. And I’m assuming my son does, too. I see him around other people, especially girls, and he is kind and gentle and almost bashful. And I’m proud of that! He doesn’t need to be a chest thumping macho stud. Just be yourself little man.


Now let’s talk about flowers. I’m not a dozen roses kinda guy. But I will explain one example of how I like to give flowers. My wife was in grad school a few years ago. She had some math problems to do about cows for some kind of research. It was time for her exams so I thought some flowers might make her day. So I went to the florist which was in a strip mall. Next door was a toy store and in the window was the most adorable little stuffed cow. Now I had my wow factor. I went to the florist and told her my idea to see if she could help. No problem. So I went to a book store and found a math word problem about a cow. I went to a gift store and found a greeting card with a cow on it. I made a copy of the cow word problem and pasted it in the cow greeting card. I bought the little toy cow and took it and the card to the florist. She put the cow in a country style basket with daisies and different wildflowers. She had found a little yellow ribbon and put around its neck with a little bell. My wife melted. That basket of flowers with the little cow, which we still have today, meant more to her than any dozen roses for Valentine’s. The long story is, go the extra mile to make it personal.

I have no doubt that my son is watching my actions at home. As I get older, I think about the same thing when my father was alive and how he was with my mom. And I’m thankful that I grew up in that environment. And I’m thankful that my son is watching me. And now that I know he is, my wife is reaping the rewards! Because I’m sure that when my son becomes old enough to start dating, he will know how to treat his girl. Right now the most important thing in his life is his FIFA 14 Xbox game. I tell him to treat Mommy like he treats that video game. I told him you’re always gentle so it doesn’t get broken, you always keep it safe and secure, and you would do anything not to lose it. Yeah, he’s got it.
I wonder about the generations of young men who weren’t so lucky as to learn from their fathers. Because who else are they going to learn from? And I see some of the fathers today with their sons and the behavior or lack thereof. And I say a quiet “thanks, Dad.”

6 Seductively Simple Ways To Make Love Exciting, Again.

6 Ways to Make Love ExcitingYou wake up one day and realize that you have been with the same partner for months and the sex is starting to seem routine.  How did that happen?  You became comfortable.  It’s ok if you didn’t plan on it. Now what? You’re in a relationship and are looking for simple ways to make love exciting again.

It’s too easy to fall into the same routine when you’ve been with your partner for any extended length of time.  But we want you to explore six seductive, yet simple ways to make love exciting for you and your partner.

Send dirty text messages.Sexting

We don’t know what it is about reading a dirty message from our lover that turns us on so much.  All we know is that it works.

Play seductive music.

Before you turn the music on to your favorite station or select your preferred playlist, make sure your partner feels the same way about those tunes the two of you are about to hear.   Choose a variety of songs that will probably coincide with your bodies pulsating and gyrating motions. Start off with slow melodies and then work in some heart pounding beats.

Act out fantasy/Role play.

Role Play for LoversActing out fantasies don’t require much planning (unless you want to see your partner dressed up in full costume).  Use your imagination.  Close your eyes.  Become the character you want to be.  Act out the scene with your partner.  Let the moment take over.  Take turns in being in control.

Use Sex toys.  sensual products intimate accessories embrace desires

Using sensual products like sex toys can add some spice to your lovemaking session.  Sex toys as well as all of the other sensual products and intimate accessories have come a long way in the advancement of materials they are made from and have benefited from leading technology enhancements (stronger, quieter motors). Sex toys can be your best friend (or hers) when you are exhausted from pleasing her.  Grab a vibrator,  or dildo and she can continue the fun while you catch your breath.

Record yourselves making love. 

Couples Role PlayingUsing either audio recordings or video,  creating a keepsake and then listening to and or watching your previous lovemaking session will certainly spark a flame for another round.

Change scenarios.

Change your lovemaking sounds. Moan a little longer.  Change positions, even if it means having sex up against a wall or in a closet.   If you normally make love in the bedroom perhaps due to roommates or fear that the kiddies might catch you, don’t start on the bed.  Start of by making love up against on a chair, grab hold of the closet rod/dresser, or hold on to the window sill.  Whatever, just don’t start off on the bed.  If there are no roommates or children to worry about, indulge your passions and embrace your desires… The house is your lovemaking paradise.

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10 Aphrodisiac Foods To Make Yummy Libido Boosting Dishes

Exotic, Erotic Romantic Dishes

The next time you are in the supermarket, think about what types of aphrodisiac foods to add to your cart so you could turn ordinary dinner into finger licking libido boosting sexy dishes.

Say goodbye to plain ol’ meatloaf and say hello to exotic dishes to get your blood and your partner pumping.

Maybe you can make a meal of each other…

The Dish: Badam KheerLibido Boosting Recipe
The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Almonds and Cardamom

This is a nutritious Indian sweet served with a meal as a sweet or as a dessert.

It has all the goodness of almonds and the milk and the flavor of saffron and the cardamom. It is also a very easy to make among the almond recipes.

Almonds provide you Vitamin E and help you look younger and to keep fit. They are also good for your skin, reduce cholesterol and boost immunity. It is believed that the aroma stimulates passion.  So much so, that it has been reported that Samson enticed Delilah with these testicular looking nuts, and word also has it that Cleopatra dined on an Almond based drink.

Cardamom is a nicely aromatic spice. In many cultures and mystic circles it is viewed as an intensely powerful aphrodisiac, used to cast love spells and also beneficial in treating impotency (mix with maca, Peru’s natural Viagra, for some ‘interesting results’). Maca is high in cineole, which can increase blood flow in certain important areas!


  • Raw Almonds – 1 cup
  • sugar – 1 cup
  • saffron – few strands
  • cardamom powder – 1/2 teaspoon
  • water – 1/2 cup
  • Ghee (or clarified butter) – 1 tablespoon
  • Milk – 1 quart

Soak almonds in water for about 1 hour.

Peel almonds and grind them to paste using the water. Do not add any extra water.

Cooking Method 
1 Heat ghee in a thick bottomed pan. Add almond paste and fry on low flame for 4-5 minutes stirring all the while.

2 Add sugar. Mix well and cook for 5 minutes.

3  Add milk and boil for 15 minutes. Add cardamom powder and saffron strands. It will enhance flavor and color too.
Serve hot or chilled. Enjoy this in the hot summer afternoons, as a cool snack, or as a dessert.



The Dish: Marinated Shrimp in Avocado HalvesLibido boosting foods

The Libido Boosting Ingredient:  Avocado
High in B6 – said to increase male hormone production.  The Mayans and Aztecs called the avocado tree, the Testicle tree because they  believed the avocados hang in pairs and resembled testicles hanging from the tree.  Avocado’s nutrition actually delivers a mash up of nutrients essential to sexual health, including beta carotene, magnesium and vitamin E, (which is sometimes called the “sex vitamin“).  It’s been reported to have been a traditional remedy for erectile dysfunction.  As if that isn’t enough for you to grab a nice big avocado the next time you are in the grocery,  it also delivers more potassium than a raw banana.  Offering 2.4 grams of protein for every 1/2 cup of fruit, an essential ingredient for a successful late night powwow.


1 lb small shrimp, poached and peeled
1/2 cup fresh tomato juice
3 Tbsp cilantro, chopped
2 clove garlic, minced
3 slices sweet onion, finely diced
1 small jicama, diced
1 Jalapeno pepper, seeded, finely diced (optional)
2 lime, juiced
salt and pepper to taste
2 ripe Avocados


-Thoroughly mix together all ingredients except the avocados. Refrigerate 30 minutes.
-Just before serving, cut each avocado into halves and take out the seed.
-Spoon marinated shrimp into the avocado halves and serve

The Dish:  Pineapple Puffs

Libido Boosting Ingredient:  Pineapples libido boosting foods

Pineapples not only improves the taste of semen (Yum!), but it is a good source of manganese and vitamin C, and has been historically used to cure impotence.  But the unique gift the majestic, pineapple boasts of is its protein digestive enzyme Bromelaine which thins the blood and improves circulation to improve sexual performance.

Prep Time: 10 Mins
Cook Time: 20 Mins
Ready In: 30 Mins


  • 1/2 cup butter, softened
  • 1 cup white sugar
  • 1 egg
  • 1 (8 ounce) can crushed pineapple
  • 2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1 teaspoon baking powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon


1  Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease muffin cups or line with paper muffin liners.

2. In a large bowl, cream together the butter and sugar until light and fluffy. Add the egg; beat well. Stir in the crushed pineapple and its juice. In a large mixing bowl, mix together the flour, salt, baking soda, baking powder and cinnamon. Add this mixture to the pineapple mixture; stir well. Scoop batter into prepared muffin cups.

3  Bake 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for 20 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into the center of a muffin comes out clean. Cool for 10 minutes in the pans before removing to a wire rack to cool completely.

The Dish: Pressure Cooker Chili

             The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Chili Libido boosting foods

Chili peppers are aphrodisiacs of choice when you are looking to really spice things up because of the its ability to release endorphins from the chemical Capsaicin.  Capsaisin stimulates the nerve endings and increases your pulse, makes you sweat and increases sensitivity.  Because it mimics what you experience during a stimulating lovemaking session. Besides the spicy taste, chili peppers release endorphins and gives the body a natural high – think of how elated you feel after you’ve climaxed. (on a separate note, you can snack on pineapples sprinkled with chili as a snack for a supercharged boost).

Prep Time: 10 Mins

Cook Time: 20 Mins

Ready In: 35 Mins


  • 1 pound ground beef
  • 2 teaspoons olive oil
  • 1 sweet onion, chopped
  • 1 small green bell pepper, finely chopped
  • 1 jalapeno pepper, seeded and finely chopped
  • 2 cloves garlic, minced
  • 2 (14.5 ounce) cans dark red kidney beans, drained and rinsed
  • 2 (14.5 ounce) cans diced tomatoes, undrained
  • 3 tablespoons tomato paste
  • 1 tablespoon dark brown sugar
  • 2 teaspoons unsweetened cocoa powder
  • 1/4 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes, or to taste
  • 2 tablespoons chili powder
  • 2 teaspoons ground cumin
  • 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt, or to taste
  • 2 cups water


1.  Place the ground beef in the pressure cooker over medium high heat; cook until brown and crumbly, 8 to 10 minutes. Remove the ground beef, and drain off the excess fat.

2.  Return the open pressure cooker to the burner over medium heat, pour in the olive oil, and stir in the onion, green pepper, and jalapeno pepper. Cook and stir for 3 to 4 minutes, until the onion is translucent. Add the garlic, and cook and stir for about 30 more seconds. Return the meat to the pressure cooker; mix in the kidney beans, diced tomatoes, tomato paste, brown sugar, cocoa powder, red pepper flakes, chili powder, cumin, salt, and water.

3.  Lock the lid, bring the cooker up to pressure, reduce heat to maintain pressure, and cook for 8 minutes. Remove cooker from the heat, and let the pressure reduce on its own, 5 to 10 minutes.

4. When the pressure is fully released, remove the lid, stir the chili, and serve

The Dish: Soft Gingersnaps

              The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Ginger and Nutmeg GINGER libido boosting food

Ginger improves circulation and is believed by some to be an aphrodisiac food because of its intoxicating scent.

Nutmeg has been known for its intoxicating, and hallucinogenic properties in Europe.  Studies were conducted on male rodents using the aphrodisiac spice nutmeg and recorded an increase of the males attempting to mount the female rodents.  Gives new meaning to the term, “ooh you dirty rat”.

Prep Time: 30 Mins

Cook Time: 10 Mins

Ready In: 40 Mins


  • 1 1/2 cups butter (no substitutes), softened
  • 2 cups sugar
  • 2 eggs
  • 1/2 cup molasses
  • 4 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 3 teaspoons baking soda
  • 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
  • 1 teaspoon ground ginger
  • 1 teaspoon ground cloves
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg
  • Additional sugar


1.  In a mixing bowl, cream butter and sugar. Add eggs, one at a time, beating well after each addition. Beat in molasses. Combine the flour, baking soda, cinnamon, ginger, cloves, salt and nutmeg; gradually add to creamed mixture. Refrigerate for 1 hour or until dough is easy to handle.

2. Roll into 1-in. balls; roll in sugar. Place 2 in. apart on ungreased baking sheets. Bake at 350 degrees F for 8-12 minutes or until puffy and lightly browned. Cool for 1 minute before removing to wire racks.

The Dish: Spiced Figs

The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Figs  fig-libido boosting foodThis  sweet, purple fruit is already a sexy ass fruit in appearance and texture.  Plump, succulent looking, and velvety skin. When sliced open, its luscious flesh drips with a floral honey scent, revealing a juicy resemblance to the female sex organ.  It has been rumored that the fig  has been regarded highly as a  sexual stimulant for ages.

Note: This dish is not for a quick fix-me-up, if you want ’em fresh, you’ll have to wait for summer or early Fall.

  • 2 cups white wine vinegar
  • 1 inch (2.5 cm) piece fresh ginger
  • 3 tablespoons allspice
  • 4 blades of mace or 4 teaspoons ground mace
  • 2 cups sugar
  • Cloves (one per fig)
  • 2 1/2 pounds (1 kg) fresh figs
  • Juice of one lemon
Bring vinegar, ginger, allspice, mace and sugar to a boil, and simmer for 5 minutes. Push one clove into each fig and add figs to syrup. Return to the boil, then remove from heat. Allow to stand overnight.
Using a slotted spoon, transfer figs to sterilized jars. Reserve syrup.
Return syrup to the boil, add lemon juice, mix well and strain over figs to completely cover. Seal while hot.
You may use Balsamic vinegar if you don’t have lemons.

The Dish: Strawberry Bruschetta

                                                  The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Strawberries    strawberries libido boosting food     

There’s a good reason strawberries are a popular aphrodisiac food.  High in Vitamin C –  lush, fragrant strawberries’ have long had a place in romance literature.  it is a symbol of sensuality, representing a female nipple, the French used to give newlywed couples strawberry soup to increase their sexual desire.  Who knows more about love than the French?

Prep Time: 10 Mins
Cook Time: 5 mins
Ready In: 15 Mins


  • 24 slices French baguette
  • 1 tablespoon butter, softened
  • 2 cups chopped fresh strawberries
  • 1/4 cup white sugar, or as needed


1. Preheat your oven’s broiler. Spread a thin layer of butter on each slice of bread. Arrange bread slices in a single layer on a large baking sheet.

2. Place bread under the broiler for 1 to 2 minutes, just until lightly toasted. Spoon some chopped strawberries onto each piece of toast, then sprinkle sugar over the strawberries.

3. Place under the broiler again until sugar is caramelized, 3 to 5 minutes. Serve immediately.

The Dish: Stuffed Bell Peppers

                                      The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Garlic and Pine Nuts aphrodisiac foods peppers libido foods

This dish has a double whammy of ingredients, the Pine Nuts are rich in Zinc, and the garlic contains high levels of Allicin, a compound that can improve blood flow to the sexual organs. But note – just don’t munch on big cloves of raw garlic! Allicin is only produced once garlic has been chopped as it is produced through an enzyme reaction.  According to Session Magazine, garlic is the third most powerful aphrodisiac in the world.

Use different colored peppers with this stuffing flavored with onion, garlic, anchovies, raisins, pine nuts, and olives. It is a tantalizing mixture of salty, sweet, savory, and crunchy ingredients. It is served lukewarm, at room temperature.

Prep Time: 15 minutes

Cook Time: 50 minutes

Total Time: 65 minutes


•4 bell peppers of different colors

•4 Tablespoons, plus 2 Tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil (divided use)

•1 medium white onion, finely diced

•2 garlic cloves, finely chopped

•1 Tablespoon Italian parsley, finely chopped

•4 anchovies, finely chopped

•1 Tablespoon raisins

•1 Tablespoon pine nuts

•2 ounces olives, pitted, drained, and finely ground

•6 Tablespoons bread crumbs

•Salt and pepper

Preparation:Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 C).

Wash the bell peppers, cut them in half, and remove the seeds.

In a skillet, pour 4 tablespoons of the extra-virgin olive oil and turn heat to medium.

Saute the onion and garlic, until onion is soft and translucent. Remove the skillet from the heat. Stir in the parsley, anchovies, raisins, pine nuts, ground olives, bread crumbs, salt, and pepper. Drizzle with remaining 2 tablespoons of extra-virgin olive oil. Mix all the ingredients thoroughly.

Fill the bell peppers with the mixture. Place the filled bell peppers side by side in an oiled oven pan. Bake for about 40 minutes, or until the surface is golden.

Remove pan from the oven and let the stuffed peppers cool at room temperature. Serve lukewarm.

The Dish: Vanilla Slice    

The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Vanilla Vanilla-Bean-Bundle-beanilla-aphrodisiac foods

There is nothing plain about vanilla as a flavoring.  The aroma is reported to soothe and stimulate the female libido.  The Aztecs and Mayans knew about the euphoric effects on the brain.  It was believed that vanilla made you hot, and ready for sex.

Prep Time: 10 Mins

Cook Time: 20 Mins

Ready In: 30 Mins


  • 1 (17.25 ounce) package frozen puff pastry, thawed
  • 1 cup white sugar
  • 1/2 cup custard powder
  • 3/4 cup cornstarch
  • 5 1/4 cups milk
  • 1/4 cup butter
  • 2 egg yolks
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 1 cup confectioners’ sugar
  • 1 tablespoon milk
  • 1 dash vanilla extract


1.  Preheat the oven to 400 degrees F (200 degrees C). Unfold puff pastry sheets, and place flat onto baking sheets. Bake for 10 to 15 minutes, or until lightly browned and puffed. Set aside.

2.  Combine the sugar, custard powder and cornstarch in a large saucepan. Mix in just enough milk to form a paste, then gradually mix in the rest. This will prevent lumps from forming. Add the butter. Cook over medium heat, stirring frequently until thick. You may need to use a whisk to ensure a smooth consistency. When the mixture comes to a simmer, cook stirring constantly for 2 minutes. Remove from the heat, and stir in the egg yolks and vanilla.

3.  Line a 9 inch baking dish with aluminum foil. Place one of the baked pastry sheets in the bottom of the dish. Spread the custard filling in an even layer over the pastry, and top with the other sheet.

4. Mix the confectioners’ sugar with 1 tablespoon of milk, and a dash of vanilla to make an icing. Spread over the top of the pastry. Refrigerate until the custard layer is firm. Remove from the pan and slice.

 The Dish: Watermelon and Feta Salad with Arugula and Spinach

                           The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Arugula and Watermelon watermelon arugula libido boosting aphrodisiac boosting food

Arugula, called the rocket seed has been used as far back as the first century A.D to improve male performance. This love drug contains trace minerals and antioxidants to  keep everything nice and tight from the inside out.  Keeping anti libido bad guys from blocking your mojo.

Watermelon has the power of Viagra in its phytonutrients, citrulline.  When citrulline converts to argenine, watch out!.  The effects are a cheaper, healthier method to boost nitric oxide which relaxes blood vessels.

One note: citrulline is actually found in higher concentrations in watermelon rind than in the flesh, but there’s still plenty citrulline in the delicious flesh to make eating it worthwhile.

Prep Time: 20 Mins

Ready In: 20 Mins


  • 3 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
  • 2 teaspoons white balsamic vinegar
  • 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
  • 2 cups arugula
  • 2 cups baby spinach leaves
  • 1 cup thinly sliced red onion
  • 1 cup grape tomatoes, halved
  • 1/2 cup crumbled feta cheese
  • 2 cups bite sized watermelon chunks


1. Whisk the olive oil, white balsamic vinegar, and salt together in a small bowl; set aside.

2. Combine the arugula, spinach, onions, and tomatoes in a large salad bowl. Drizzle the vinaigrette over the salad mixture; toss to coat. Add the feta cheese and watermelon to serve. 

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Pucker Up Buttercup – The Art of Kissing

The Art of Kissing

Get ready to pucker up and show off your kissing skills.  We are not recommending that you set up your own kissing booth outside of your office, (that would probably be frowned upon in H.R) but if you want to really leave a lasting impression on your love interest, you only have one shot at it, and that one shot is with a kiss.

Why do we kiss? There are many reasons for someone to give another a kiss. Kissing can be a flirtatious gesture. A mother could give her child a kiss on the head or it could be a kiss given as a sign of respect like that of a religious ceremonial kiss. Kisses are exchanged every day by those greeting each other or saying goodbye. We want to know about the art of kissing.  We want to know about the kiss that every movie wants to capture and every young couple wants to prove they are best at, the big passionate, tongue tickling kiss that says “I love you”!

First things first, you need to ensure that before you embark on the journey of kissing your loved one that you are ready.  So pucker up buttercup, here are a few tips to perfect your pout and make you a great kisser;

Art of KissingMake sure your lips are soft. Exfoliate with a soft, damp toothbrush or washcloth. Moisten your lips – use a lip balm that is unscented if you can, you can’t guarantee that your kissing partner won’t take offense to your cherry scented lip balm.

  • Ensure you have clean teeth and fresh breath; no one wants to kiss a mouth full of ‘just devoured lunch’, which reeks of garlic or onion!  Don’t be so bold and go for one of those curiously strong mints, you’re going for a kiss, not a job interview.  Maintain regular dental hygiene — brush, floss and rinse.  If you need a quick breath booster, opt for a lemon drop.
  • Art of KissingClose that mouth! Please do not try to devour the person you are trying to kiss right away.  Always start with a closed mouth when kissing, you will certainly be invited by your partner to continue into a more passionate, open mouthed, kiss if you are polite and don’t push too hard.

This is where the fun really starts!

  • Slowly lean in towards your partners lips

Art of KissingDon’t forget that a kiss isn’t just about your mouth. Use your hands to embrace your partner gently. Hold them close to your body if they allow and enjoy the feeling of closeness that come from a truly loving and passionate kiss.

  • Swallow- don’t forget to swallow during a long kiss, it may be best to rest for second or two, allowing you both the time to swallow the build up of saliva that will undoubtedly happen. It will also give you a moment to enjoy each other before continuing.

If you use these few tips to kiss you’re sure to get it right. Enjoy each kiss as a moment to embrace your partner’s soul and share your own with them.

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Are you in the mood for Love? Five Tips for Finding Love

Five tips to get ready for love

The holidays are upon us and there seems to be love everywhere.  Are you ready?  Are you in the mood for love?  If you’re not in a relationship don’t despair, there is plenty of time to meet someone and get those love juices flowing well in advance with these five tips to get ready for love.  So take down your inhibitions and get in the mood for love.

Soooo, tell me what you want, what you really, really want!  I’ll tell you what you want… well, you get the idea. We want to be loved, and we want our partner to take notice! First of all you have to want the whole kit and caboodle that finding love entails.  You have to want to love someone and have someone love you back.

The way to attract love is to FlirtvectorSmileyWinkIf you want to pull in anyone and everyone so that you can find THE ONE, then start flirting like mad.  And there’s no time like the present!!

Flirting can be subtle or blatant; it all depends on the situation.  And to perfect your technique there’s nothing like practice, practice and more practice.  My suggestion is to just have fun with it.  Make this your mindset and go about your day taking advantage of every opportunity.  Don’t get hung up on the idea that you’ll look foolish, love is a fool’s game and you got to get in the game!!

Use Eye Contact

Have you ever noticed that when you look at someone long enough, even if they’re facing away from you, they’ll turn and look at you within a minute or so?  Well it’s because you’ve sent out your vibe, they feel your stare.  So pick your target, and gaze (not stare – that’s just creepy) away until they turn around.  And when they do you’ve got to flash your pearly whites and give a huge smile, looking them straight in the eye.  What you do next is up to you.  If you’re the guy, and they’re alone and smiling back, it’s time to make your move.  But if you’re the gal and he’s alone and smiling back, then let him approach you.  If he doesn’t then move on, he’s not in the game.

Have Fun

meetup icon_embracedesiresJoin a “MEETUP” type group in your local area that fits your interests.  Sometimes, when we think we just need to go out and be around other like-minded folks.  Be ready!  Love shows up in the most unusual places.

Go Out on a Date


If I am looking for love, how do you go out on a date if you’re single, you may ask?  Easy!  There is no set rule on the number of people who can go out on a date.  Schedule a “Me” date.  Treat yourself, you deserve to look nice and be seen on the scene.  You need to show yourself some love to be ready to receive the love that you are looking for.  Get dressed up and take yourself to out to that restaurant or movie that you wanted to check out.  Lavish in all the attention you will get for being brave and confident enough to fly solo.  If you need company around you, call up a few of your single friends (male or female) who can hang at a moments’ notice and enjoy your spontaneous outing.  (Just take lots of pictures and tag us in them).

Create an Online Dating profileonline-dating

Be bold and be daring.  Just be safe! Find an online dating site and create a fun, realistic profile of who you are.  You are, after all looking for love.  Show off that beautiful smile and those gorgeous eyes (leave something to the imagination in your outfit and poses please). When you find a person who interests you and after you have exchanged messages and phone numbers, select a very public place to meet where security cameras are present and hopefully working (just kidding, but not really) Choose a spot for a late lunch or early dinner.  Just try not to schedule during a hectic week at work where your focus will be, un-focused.

Most importantly, enjoy yourself.  You have one life to live and you should live it to the fullest.

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Valentine’s Day Checklist

Valentine’s Day Checklist

Ok, admit it.  You lost track of time.  It seems as if just last week you were celebrating the New Year.  Now Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching and you have no idea if you will have everything ready for your sweetheart.  No fear, we’ve created a Valentine’s Day checklist for you so you can come off looking amazing.

♥ Candles

Light Your Lover’s Fire with Candles

Nothing quite sets the mood like candles.  The flickering of the flame, the sensual aromas coming from it, is guaranteed to have your honey already thinking of what they will do to you.

Tip:  Set up a row of small tea candles along the path to your bedroom.

Align candles on the bathroom counter.

Light some candles and have dinner by candlelight.

♥ Music

Let’s Get It On with Sultry Music

It has been said that music calms the savage beast (this works especially well if you have been naughty), play some seductive, sultry music.  Create a sensual playlist for your lover, and let it play (make sure you have it on repeat so the music continuously loops and you don’t need to stop enjoying each others’ company

♥ Lingerie

Put on Something to be Taken Off

Hopefully you have enough time to order something sexy, but if not, take YOUR favorite piece of lingerie that you enjoy seeing your partner in, CLEAN it, and tell your lucky lover how much you enjoy seeing them in it….and then slooooowly remove it (be daring and try doing this with your teeth!!)

♥ Flowers

Roses are Red, Violets are Blue, Use Flowers to say, “I Love You”.

If you don’t have the time, or space, to grow your own roses, go to your nearest supermarket, and buy a bunch.  No need to concern yourself about the quality of the petals, you are going to pick the petals off and either place them in a warm, relaxing bath for two, mark the way to your favorite place to make love (it doesn’t always have to be the bedroom) or simply make a heart out of them on top of a freshly made bed.

♥ Massage

Rub Each Other the Right Way

This is where the fun starts.  First, grab a large plush towel; you will get a bit messy here.  Then reach for your favorite massage oil, or create your own.  All you need to create your own massage oil is either: Almond, Virgin Coconut, or Olive Oil (you can find these at your local supermarket) and add some scented fragrance to it. Finally, in slow sensual motions, glide your hands all over each other to your heart’s desire.

♥ Poetry

Say I Love You

You are going for a home run, a touchdown, a knock out with this!  Read your lover a verse or two from an erotic novel, poetry or write your own.  You are looking for ways to tell your lover in a unique way, that you love them.  Of course, you tell them, “I love you” throughout the year, but make the words you say on this day special.

Edible Aphrodisiacs

Boost your libido and sweeten your love life

 valentines day cinnamon embrace desiresCinnamon – Scent your bed with spices.  Cinnamon has been around since the ancient times.  An oil blend of cinnamon was reportedly used by the Queen of Sheba to seduce King Solomon. Cinnamon has also been reportedly used to perfume a lover’s bed.  It has worked since biblical times, so give it a try – no more than a teaspoon.  Ingesting too much cinnamon is NOT a good thing may cause vomiting and vomiting is not sexy at all).

 valentines day cherries embracedesiresCherries Ever heard of men seeking younger brides with lips like cherries? So go on, and Pop that cherry right into your lover’s mouth! (Just have a bowl nearby so you can spit out the pits). Aside from the sexy reference to virginity cherries are delicious, especially when paired with chocolate. Certain cherries have musky scents and contain potassium, necessary to stimulate pheromones (the hormone, essential for sexual attraction). Cherries also contain an antihistamine component that aids in physical exertion.

chocolate valentines day embracedesiresChocolate – How could we give you a list without including some sensual chocolate?  Chocolate has a richness to its color and a smooth silkiness to its texture that is soooo sexy.   Liquid chocolate has a seductive fluidity to it that invites you to put it in your mouth.  Chocolate contains both Tryptophan the building block of Serotonin and Phenylethylamine –like an amphetamine, released when the body is aroused. These mood enhancing chemicals are found in the brain. The Aztec emperor Montezuma, reportedly had over 600 wives used to drink “copious” amounts of chocolate to keep them satisfied.  If you need any more reasons to include chocolate in your Valentine seduction think of Lover extraordinaire, Cassanova, who is said to have given up drinking wine in favor of chocolate before his trysts with his many lovers.

“Twill Make Old Women Young and Fresh

Create New Motions of the Flesh.

And Cause them long for you know what,

If they but taste of chocolate.”

A History of the Nature and Quality of Chocolate

James Wadworth (1768-1844)

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Simple and Easy Steps to Make Chocolate Vodka Infused Strawberries

Chocolate Vodka Infused Strawberries

“Do Not Arouse or Awaken Love until it so Desires”

One of the sweetest things about Valentine’s day is our desire to indulge in some of nature’s greatest gifts: Chocolate, Strawberries and Cream.

Strawberry dripping cream off spoon_embracedesiresAh, you’ve seen them in store windows, and you’ve drooled over the shiny chocolate that envelops the juicy, succulent berry.  Perhaps you thought about making your own version.  This is where we come in.  Instead of trying to make the perfect blend of oil and chocolate to cover your strawberry, savor the flavor with each bite of the chocolate INSIDE of the fruit.  This is a simple five step process to make and enjoy chocolate soaked strawberries.

You will need:

  • Strawberries
  • Fork
  • Large clean jar with lid
  • Favorite chocolate infused vodka
  • Cream (either whipped or fresh)
  1. Grab a carton of strawberries and wash.  You will need enough to taste along the way.  Strawberries are a delicate fruit, so be careful when washing them.
  2. Gently Poke a few holes in the strawberries to allow the vodka to soak in quicker (yummy).
  3. Place the strawberries in the large clean jar and pour as much of the chocolate infused vodka over the strawberries to cover them.  Place lid on jar.
  4. Refrigerate anywhere from 1 – 24 hours (the longer they soak, the stronger the taste – but sample a berry after an hour or so).
  5. When you are ready to surprise your partner (or indulge in your own decadent treat), remove from refrigerator, drain the strawberries over a coffee liner or strainer and pat dry.

Enjoy with fresh or whipped cream.

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