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World AIDS Day 2014


Focus, Partner, Achieve: An AIDS-Free Generation

On December 1, people throughout the world observe World AIDS Day, an opportunity for the global community to honor those living with HIV; the families, friends, caregivers, and communities who support them; and those who have lost their lives to AIDS.

The theme for 2014 – “Focus, Partner, Achieve: An AIDS-Free Generation” – reflects the drive to focus on interventions that work and partner with a broad range of stakeholders to achieve control of the epidemic and move closer to an AIDS-free generation.

Currently, an estimated 34 million people around the globe are living with AIDS, and 35 million have died from the virus.

“World AIDS Day is a day dedicated to raising awareness of the AIDS pandemic caused by the HIV virus through education on its prevention and control.”

It was the the brain child of two public information officers for the Global Programme at the World Health Organization in Geneva Switzerlan, James W. Bunn and Thomas Netter. They presented heir idea to the Director of the Global Programme of AIDS (UNAIDS in August 1987 who approved it and agreed with Mr. Bunn’s recommendation that the first observance should be December 1. 1988. The date was chosen to maximize coverage of World AIDS Day by western media as it was long enough after the US elections and far enough in advance of the Christmas holidays.


On November 25, 2014, the United States Centers for Disease Control released its latest report on the HIV Continuum of Care in a new edition of Vital Signs, which includes a Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report (MMWR), Vital Signs: HIV Diagnosis, Care, and Treatment Among Persons Living with HIV — United States, 2011, and an accompanying fact sheet, HIV Care Saves Lives, Viral Suppression is Key. Visit the Vital Signs website to learn more. According to the Vital Signs report, of the 1.2 million Americans living with HIV in 2011, less than a third had their virus under control through effective care and treatment.
To find out more about the CDC and it’s efforts,  in the fight against AIDS, click here

Initially the theme of World AIDS Day was on children and young people to help remove some of the stigma surrounding AIDS and boost recognition of it as a family disease. It has been very effective in doing just that. In 1997 UNAIDS began a campaign to focus on year round communications, prevention and education.  The campaigns have been so effective that Popes John II and Benedict XVI have each released greeting message for patients and doctors on World AIDS Day.

Since 2007, The United States White House has been observing the day with a 28 foot red ribbon, the symbol AIDS, displayed on  the buidings’ North Portico.  Read and share the U.S Presidential Proclamation recognizing World AIDS Day 2014.


The red ribbon, the familiar symbol of AIDS, was created by a New York based group of artist and AIDS Activists called Visual AIDS Artists Caucus. Their goal was to create a symbol that would demonstrate compassion for people both those who were living with AIDS and their caregivers. Red was chosen because of its “connection to blood and the idea of passion”  – anger and love.

Each year the World AIDS Campaign chooses  World AIDS Day theme.  In 2012 a four year theme was adopted for Worlds Aids Day; Getting To Zero; Zero new HIV infections, Zero deaths from AIDS-related illness, Zero discrimination. The themes are used year long to further awareness and become better educated about this disease.  It been very effective as different organizations, governments and individuals are rethinking their idea and treatment of AIDS,  AIDS patients and their families.

An example of the Getting to Zero theme being applied is seen in “90-90-90 Initiative” launched by UNAIDS in September of this year to end the AIDS epidemic. The “90-90-90” initiative sets global goals for countries to increase HIV testing so that 90% of all people in that country living with HIV know their status, 90% of those who are HIV positive are offered treatment and 90% of those on antiretoviral medicine are virally suppressed by 2020.

We are so grateful for their efforts and hope that soon, because of their efforts AIDS will be cured.
To find out how you can get more information, including where to get tested and treatment, visit


You woke up this morning and realized….it’s over.  There’s no going back. You are no longer half of a couple, you are now single.

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Single.. in a world of couples.   While it may seem like the end of the world,  IT.  IS. NOT. THE. END. OF. THE. WORLD.

But how would anyone know how to move on after the relationship is over?

First don’t play the blame game. It wasn’t either one’s fault. You simply weren’t meant to be each others ‘forever’ person.  It doesn’t’ matter if one was faithful and the other wasn’t, if one was abusive or abused (and abuse occurs whenever a person is made to feel less than of human by another person), or if the relationship stopped ‘feeling’  like a relationship.  The simple truth is.. IT’S OVER.

What do you do now?  Accept the fact that you haven’t YET met your soulmate. Work on improving YOU so you will be ready when you do meet your ‘forever” person.

Secondly, do not speak negatively to anyone about your ex.

Third, do not wallow in self pity and hurt.

Fourth, do not play the coulda, woulda, shoulda game. There is NOTHING you ‘coulda’ done, ‘woulda’ done or ‘shoulda’ done that would have changed the ultimate demise of the relationship.   Most importantly, do not play any games at all. That only hurts and stagnates your emotional and mental growth.

Lastly, do not hold onto every last memento you ever received from your ex.  Getting rid of some things helps in the healing process. It is a process where you alone determine the length of the process and its success.

You see, the power is in you to change and grow beyond the raw emotion you feel now.

Avoid emotional suicide; you need time to recover from this temporary situation. Do NOT under any circumstances, jump into another relationship right away!  Resist the desire to replace your partner with another until you are emotionally prepared.

Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

So what do you do? You set a goal for yourself.

YOUR goal is growth – a deeper more powerful positive growth mentally, physically and emotionally.

♥ Take an honest, objective 20/20 hindsight look at the relationship, recognize the good parts of it and if necessary take notes on a legal pad. Embrace the wonderfully cathartic release of emotions this can be.

♥ Think kindly of your ex and all that was brought into the relationship by her/him. These are traits that are dominant in your future soulmate. Learn to appreciate those qualities. But don’t romanticize your ex. After all if it was that good, your ex wouldn’t be your ex right?

♥ Take a deep breath and realize that it is okay to be single. Recognize that you really need the time to recharge your emotional batteries as well as readjust your focus on life. This way you can better equip yourself for your beautiful future.

♥ Work on improving YOU in order for your soulmate to recognize you.

♥ Make changes in your lifestyle.

  • Paint your living space or add some accent fixtures.
  • Take a yoga class, go to a gym, modify your wardrobe (you’ve heard of ‘dress for success’, now all you need to do is ‘dress the way you want to be addressed’)
  • Educate your palate by taking wine and cooking classes
  • Learn a foreign language
  • Audit some college courses or go back to college and get your degree
  • Try something strange and different for yourself.

It’s never too late to make you a better you.  And you deserve it, you wonderful person you.

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Celebrate Love Before Valentine’s Day

September is Pleasure Your Mate Month


When it comes to satisfying your mate, their pleasure should be your #1 priority. No need to wait for Valentine’s day in February to display love and affection when September is Pleasure Your Mate Month. We, at, want to make sure that you have what you need to give your mate as much erotic pleasure as they can enjoy — not just for a month, but all year round.

New Positions

Missionary style sex positions have been performed since you first started having intercourse. Break away from ordinary vanilla sex. Try a new position to reignite passion. Embrace the sensual creature that is within you. It is easy to add mystery and intrigue into your bedroom romp. Get some inspiration from Cosmo’s 28 Mind-Blowing Lesbian Sex Positions. Or simply climb on top of your lover, and just as he thinks he will be entering you as he gazes into your beautiful eyes, turn your body facing away from him giving him a full and wondrous view of all of that junk in your trunk – yes, girl, show off your Badonk! He’ll enjoy a handful of your booty as you ride him sex positions Bronzed reverse cowgirl embracedesires Reverse Cowgirl style. Yee Haw

Different Locations

Talk That Talk

Technology has made it challenging to engage in stimulating conversations. Use the advancements that are at your fingertips. Send a flirty (or dirty!) text message to your partner.  While you are in the nude, FaceTime your mate, Android users will have to go for video chat, and let them watch you fondle yourself.  Don’t have the time to chat?  Send them a sultry picture message, don’t worry about prying eyes, there are plenty of apps that can delete your message and your picture after it’s sent.

The bedroom is usually the most convenient location to make love. Change the ambiance is the bedroom is your only option. Pleasure your partner with the lights on if the lights are usually off. Notice the sweat dripping from your partner’s skin. How’s that for arousal?



Be Aware of Your Surroundings

When you are ready and able to try different locations for your sexual encounters, release your inhibitions and accept your adventurous self (be mindful of any local indecency laws in your area). Try this: Go out for a nice evening –sans panties of course, seize the opportunity for a quick scandalous tryst in the bathroom, alongside a building, on an empty train car, or a park.


If you are more of an indoors type of girl, ride your mate once you park your car in the garage. But hurry before the parking attendant comes checking on you. If you have a garage attached to your home, you are in luck, because you can just have coitus un-interruptus in your own garage.


When you finally make it home, you can have sex right there on the stairs. If you live in an apartment building, you have the heightened adrenaline rush of your neighbors walking up or down the stairs and getting a glimpse of you mid stroke.



Damn those comfy bucket seats that cradles you oh so nicely! They are not the most sex friendly, we know. No one likes having the gearshift pressing so hard against their flesh that it leaves you numb, or your ass honking the horn when it gets soooo good. So it’s climbing into the backseat you two go.


Because Toys, ARE Us!

“Love has no limits (but it does have a safe word)”.

Forget sending her roses to turn her on. Surprise her with a set of sexy restraints made from sensual silk. The decadent feel of soft, smooth fabric against her skin as you bind her hands is intoxicating. Make your lover your sex slave, even if it is only for the night. Once you have your partner tied up, reach for a powerful, yet quiet vibrator and stimulate her clitoris, varying the intensity. Ladies, you can blindfold you man and slip a comfortable ring on his (no, not his finger) already stiffening manhood and enjoy his cockiness.

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Passing the Torch. How One Man Taught His Son To Be a Gentleman.

“To be a gentleman does not depend upon the tailor or the toilet. Good clothes are not good habits. A gentleman is just a gentle – man, — no more, no less; a diamond polished, that was first a diamond in the rough” —  William Croswell Doane

How to be a gentleman



When I became a husband, showing affection and treating my wife with kid gloves were things that came naturally. I never realized that my father had planted those ideas in my head years ago. At least I didn’t until my son has started paying attention to the way I treat, not only my wife, but any person of the opposite persuasion.

My son is 9 years old. I first noticed that he was paying attention last year when my wife tore her Achilles. I came home from work and he was tirelessly putting pillows under her ankle and waiting on her every need. I asked him if he was in trouble. Nope. I asked him if he was pushing for an addition to his allowance. Nope. Then why? “Because that’s what you do”, he said. Now I notice when we are out in public that my son regularly opens doors for women. And he will readily note when his kindness is not returned with a thank you.

It makes me Rules to become a gentlemanwonder when I see some of the intolerable behavior men display towards women. And, sadly, I wonder why women put up with it. I’m not just talking about giving flowers on Valentine’s Day. Or picking up the towels after you take a shower. But I mean things like having a candlelight dinner ready before she comes home from work, kids or not. Sneaking little displays of affection like stealing a kiss in the kitchen or a little pat on the backside when you think no one is watching. But that’s the thing. They are. I was. And I loved it. And I’m assuming my son does, too. I see him around other people, especially girls, and he is kind and gentle and almost bashful. And I’m proud of that! He doesn’t need to be a chest thumping macho stud. Just be yourself little man.


Now let’s talk about flowers. I’m not a dozen roses kinda guy. But I will explain one example of how I like to give flowers. My wife was in grad school a few years ago. She had some math problems to do about cows for some kind of research. It was time for her exams so I thought some flowers might make her day. So I went to the florist which was in a strip mall. Next door was a toy store and in the window was the most adorable little stuffed cow. Now I had my wow factor. I went to the florist and told her my idea to see if she could help. No problem. So I went to a book store and found a math word problem about a cow. I went to a gift store and found a greeting card with a cow on it. I made a copy of the cow word problem and pasted it in the cow greeting card. I bought the little toy cow and took it and the card to the florist. She put the cow in a country style basket with daisies and different wildflowers. She had found a little yellow ribbon and put around its neck with a little bell. My wife melted. That basket of flowers with the little cow, which we still have today, meant more to her than any dozen roses for Valentine’s. The long story is, go the extra mile to make it personal.

I have no doubt that my son is watching my actions at home. As I get older, I think about the same thing when my father was alive and how he was with my mom. And I’m thankful that I grew up in that environment. And I’m thankful that my son is watching me. And now that I know he is, my wife is reaping the rewards! Because I’m sure that when my son becomes old enough to start dating, he will know how to treat his girl. Right now the most important thing in his life is his FIFA 14 Xbox game. I tell him to treat Mommy like he treats that video game. I told him you’re always gentle so it doesn’t get broken, you always keep it safe and secure, and you would do anything not to lose it. Yeah, he’s got it.
I wonder about the generations of young men who weren’t so lucky as to learn from their fathers. Because who else are they going to learn from? And I see some of the fathers today with their sons and the behavior or lack thereof. And I say a quiet “thanks, Dad.”

These Stylish and Luxurious Sex Toys Are Made to be Seen in Public

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Luxurious and stylish sexy accessories to enjoy in and out of the bedroom.

Gone are the days of hiding your sex toys. Innovative and forward-thinking companies have designed sex toys and accessories that are made to be viewed and enjoyed out in public.

Now when you get ready for your evening out, you don’t have to hide all of your sexy accoutrements.

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Temporary Tattoos

We know that temporary tattoos aren’t necessarily a sex toy, but they certainly are sexy!

Desir Metallic – Gold Collar

When Bijoux Indiscrets came onto the scene years ago, we knew they were going to be a hit.  This  provocative and sophisticated brand of erotic products from Spain has many luxe looking and affordable pieces for women.

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BELLA Couture Lingerie Ladies Harness

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No rendezvous is complete without a little bit of role play. Let the fantasy become a reality with Christian Grey’s Tie. Made from luxurious silver and grey quilting, it’s a soft and versatile accessory that can be enjoyed both in and out of the bedroom.




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Summer Sex Tips to Beat the Heat

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Together. Forget about turning up the water temperature for this one. Join your partner in the water and exchange sensual soapy strokes along the curves of each other bodies.

Skip the alcoholic beverages.

Skip Alcoholic BeveragesAs tempting to have a nice cocktail with your partner to relax.  Skip the alcohol.  Alcohol and spirits raise your blood pressure and body temperature. Instead, feed juicy sweet summer fruits to each other and if you’re feeling adventurous,  eat some off of each other.

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This may seem like a no – brainer here, but staying hydrated is easy to forget about in the heat of passion.  Keep water or your favorite summer drink near the bed (or wherever you find yourself making love) to keep your internal temperatures at a safe level.

Crank up the Air Conditioner

Or put the fan on its highest setting.

Get blown away summer sex tips high tech vibratorsBecause you and your partner are going to turn things up!

Try sensation play.  Sensation Play - fill a bowl with ice cubes to cool things down

Now is the time to raid the freezer.  Grab a nice sized deep bowl and fill it with ice cubes.  Put your favorite glass dildo,  vibrator or restraints into the ice and get them nice and chilled.    In the meantime,  let an an ice cube melt from your fingers to chill your partners hottest spot.




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6 Seductively Simple Ways To Make Love Exciting, Again.

6 Ways to Make Love ExcitingYou wake up one day and realize that you have been with the same partner for months and the sex is starting to seem routine.  How did that happen?  You became comfortable.  It’s ok if you didn’t plan on it. Now what? You’re in a relationship and are looking for simple ways to make love exciting again.

It’s too easy to fall into the same routine when you’ve been with your partner for any extended length of time.  But we want you to explore six seductive, yet simple ways to make love exciting for you and your partner.

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We don’t know what it is about reading a dirty message from our lover that turns us on so much.  All we know is that it works.

Play seductive music.

Before you turn the music on to your favorite station or select your preferred playlist, make sure your partner feels the same way about those tunes the two of you are about to hear.   Choose a variety of songs that will probably coincide with your bodies pulsating and gyrating motions. Start off with slow melodies and then work in some heart pounding beats.

Act out fantasy/Role play.

Role Play for LoversActing out fantasies don’t require much planning (unless you want to see your partner dressed up in full costume).  Use your imagination.  Close your eyes.  Become the character you want to be.  Act out the scene with your partner.  Let the moment take over.  Take turns in being in control.

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Using sensual products like sex toys can add some spice to your lovemaking session.  Sex toys as well as all of the other sensual products and intimate accessories have come a long way in the advancement of materials they are made from and have benefited from leading technology enhancements (stronger, quieter motors). Sex toys can be your best friend (or hers) when you are exhausted from pleasing her.  Grab a vibrator,  or dildo and she can continue the fun while you catch your breath.

Record yourselves making love. 

Couples Role PlayingUsing either audio recordings or video,  creating a keepsake and then listening to and or watching your previous lovemaking session will certainly spark a flame for another round.

Change scenarios.

Change your lovemaking sounds. Moan a little longer.  Change positions, even if it means having sex up against a wall or in a closet.   If you normally make love in the bedroom perhaps due to roommates or fear that the kiddies might catch you, don’t start on the bed.  Start of by making love up against on a chair, grab hold of the closet rod/dresser, or hold on to the window sill.  Whatever, just don’t start off on the bed.  If there are no roommates or children to worry about, indulge your passions and embrace your desires… The house is your lovemaking paradise.

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Pucker Up Buttercup – The Art of Kissing

The Art of Kissing

Get ready to pucker up and show off your kissing skills.  We are not recommending that you set up your own kissing booth outside of your office, (that would probably be frowned upon in H.R) but if you want to really leave a lasting impression on your love interest, you only have one shot at it, and that one shot is with a kiss.

Why do we kiss? There are many reasons for someone to give another a kiss. Kissing can be a flirtatious gesture. A mother could give her child a kiss on the head or it could be a kiss given as a sign of respect like that of a religious ceremonial kiss. Kisses are exchanged every day by those greeting each other or saying goodbye. We want to know about the art of kissing.  We want to know about the kiss that every movie wants to capture and every young couple wants to prove they are best at, the big passionate, tongue tickling kiss that says “I love you”!

First things first, you need to ensure that before you embark on the journey of kissing your loved one that you are ready.  So pucker up buttercup, here are a few tips to perfect your pout and make you a great kisser;

Art of KissingMake sure your lips are soft. Exfoliate with a soft, damp toothbrush or washcloth. Moisten your lips – use a lip balm that is unscented if you can, you can’t guarantee that your kissing partner won’t take offense to your cherry scented lip balm.

  • Ensure you have clean teeth and fresh breath; no one wants to kiss a mouth full of ‘just devoured lunch’, which reeks of garlic or onion!  Don’t be so bold and go for one of those curiously strong mints, you’re going for a kiss, not a job interview.  Maintain regular dental hygiene — brush, floss and rinse.  If you need a quick breath booster, opt for a lemon drop.
  • Art of KissingClose that mouth! Please do not try to devour the person you are trying to kiss right away.  Always start with a closed mouth when kissing, you will certainly be invited by your partner to continue into a more passionate, open mouthed, kiss if you are polite and don’t push too hard.

This is where the fun really starts!

  • Slowly lean in towards your partners lips

Art of KissingDon’t forget that a kiss isn’t just about your mouth. Use your hands to embrace your partner gently. Hold them close to your body if they allow and enjoy the feeling of closeness that come from a truly loving and passionate kiss.

  • Swallow- don’t forget to swallow during a long kiss, it may be best to rest for second or two, allowing you both the time to swallow the build up of saliva that will undoubtedly happen. It will also give you a moment to enjoy each other before continuing.

If you use these few tips to kiss you’re sure to get it right. Enjoy each kiss as a moment to embrace your partner’s soul and share your own with them.

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Are you in the mood for Love? Five Tips for Finding Love

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The holidays are upon us and there seems to be love everywhere.  Are you ready?  Are you in the mood for love?  If you’re not in a relationship don’t despair, there is plenty of time to meet someone and get those love juices flowing well in advance with these five tips to get ready for love.  So take down your inhibitions and get in the mood for love.

Soooo, tell me what you want, what you really, really want!  I’ll tell you what you want… well, you get the idea. We want to be loved, and we want our partner to take notice! First of all you have to want the whole kit and caboodle that finding love entails.  You have to want to love someone and have someone love you back.

The way to attract love is to FlirtvectorSmileyWinkIf you want to pull in anyone and everyone so that you can find THE ONE, then start flirting like mad.  And there’s no time like the present!!

Flirting can be subtle or blatant; it all depends on the situation.  And to perfect your technique there’s nothing like practice, practice and more practice.  My suggestion is to just have fun with it.  Make this your mindset and go about your day taking advantage of every opportunity.  Don’t get hung up on the idea that you’ll look foolish, love is a fool’s game and you got to get in the game!!

Use Eye Contact

Have you ever noticed that when you look at someone long enough, even if they’re facing away from you, they’ll turn and look at you within a minute or so?  Well it’s because you’ve sent out your vibe, they feel your stare.  So pick your target, and gaze (not stare – that’s just creepy) away until they turn around.  And when they do you’ve got to flash your pearly whites and give a huge smile, looking them straight in the eye.  What you do next is up to you.  If you’re the guy, and they’re alone and smiling back, it’s time to make your move.  But if you’re the gal and he’s alone and smiling back, then let him approach you.  If he doesn’t then move on, he’s not in the game.

Have Fun

meetup icon_embracedesiresJoin a “MEETUP” type group in your local area that fits your interests.  Sometimes, when we think we just need to go out and be around other like-minded folks.  Be ready!  Love shows up in the most unusual places.

Go Out on a Date


If I am looking for love, how do you go out on a date if you’re single, you may ask?  Easy!  There is no set rule on the number of people who can go out on a date.  Schedule a “Me” date.  Treat yourself, you deserve to look nice and be seen on the scene.  You need to show yourself some love to be ready to receive the love that you are looking for.  Get dressed up and take yourself to out to that restaurant or movie that you wanted to check out.  Lavish in all the attention you will get for being brave and confident enough to fly solo.  If you need company around you, call up a few of your single friends (male or female) who can hang at a moments’ notice and enjoy your spontaneous outing.  (Just take lots of pictures and tag us in them).

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Be bold and be daring.  Just be safe! Find an online dating site and create a fun, realistic profile of who you are.  You are, after all looking for love.  Show off that beautiful smile and those gorgeous eyes (leave something to the imagination in your outfit and poses please). When you find a person who interests you and after you have exchanged messages and phone numbers, select a very public place to meet where security cameras are present and hopefully working (just kidding, but not really) Choose a spot for a late lunch or early dinner.  Just try not to schedule during a hectic week at work where your focus will be, un-focused.

Most importantly, enjoy yourself.  You have one life to live and you should live it to the fullest.

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