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Shop the Perfect Gifts – 14 Unique Gifts this Holiday Season

It’s that time of year when you want to buy that special someone something extraordinary. Shop our most popular and exciting gifts of the season and receive complimentary holiday shipping this season.

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Looking to Reconnect With Your Mate? Try Using Your Senses

If you’ve been with your partner for years, then you know how easy it is to fall out of like (or even love) with them.  You probably fell into the same old mundane routine that most long-term committed couples go through:

Wake up, go to work, come home, eat (maybe you have dinner together, maybe not).  It’s easy to feel disconnected from your partner after you have put in time together.

Look inside of your soul for the person you loved.  Reconnect with your partner, and remember how pleasurable they once were, just by using your senses.

When it comes to reconnecting with your mate you want to:

  • Start with a gentle touch.  Caress your lover with long sensual strokes up and down the curves of their body. Feel how wonderful their skin feels against tips of your fingers.
  • Embrace your partner as if it is the first time the two of you have been together.  Pull your lover closer to you, as if you never want to let them go.
  • Use your tongue and taste their flesh.  Allow your lips to ever so gently graze theirs, while you drink in the sweet saltiness of their essence.
  • Inhale your partners fragrance.  Burrow your nose deeply into them and enjoy their aura.  Your love is better than the fragrance of your perfume.
  • Look at how beautiful you are in your lovers’ eyes! Gaze at your partner.  Look into their soul and be reminded of how you once felt and relax knowing that the fire is still there for you.

Always remember…Love is patient

Has the Passion Fizzled in Your Relationship? Don’t Let it Happen to You. Put the SIZZLE Back TONIGHT!

Pleasure Your Mate Month

When it comes to satisfying your mate, their pleasure should be your #1 priority. No need to wait for February to display love and affection on Valentine’s day when you automatically get more days in September.  Celebrate Pleasure Your Mate Month in September, for more time to bump and grind.

We, at embracedesires.com want to make sure that you have what you need to give your mate as much pleasure as they can enjoy, not just for a month, but all year round.

New Positions

sex positions Bronzed reverse cowgirl embracedesiresMissionary style sex positions have been performed since you first lost your virginity; at least that is true for us. Break away from ordinary vanilla sex: Try a new position to reignite passion. Embrace the sensual creature that is within you. It is easy to add mystery and intrigue into your bedroom romp. Get some position inspiration from Cosmo’s 28 Mind-Blowing Lesbian Sex Positions, or simply climb on top of your lover, and just as he gazes into your beautiful eyes thinking that he will be entering you while you eyes are locked on each other, turn your body facing away from him giving him a full and wondrous view of all of that junk in your trunk – yes, show off your Badonk! He’ll enjoy a handful of your booty as you ride him Reverse Cowgirl style. Yee Haw!

Talk That Talk

SextingTechnology has made it challenging to engage in stimulating conversations. Use the advancements that are already at your fingertips. Send a flirty text, “I’m thinking of you..guess what I’m doing” or for a more dirty text, send the following, “I need to fuck you“, to your partner.  If time and opportunity allows, Face Time your mate, Android users will have to go for video chat, in the nude and let them watch you fondle yourself or perform a strip tease.  Don’t have the time to chat?  Send them a sultry picture message, don’t worry about prying eyes, there are plenty of apps that can delete your picture and message after it’s sent.

Different Locations

The bedroom is usually the most convenient location to make love. You wake up horny, roll over and jump on your partner.  Change the ambiance if the bedroom is your only option. Do something out of the ordinary. Pleasure your partner with the lights on if the lights are usually off. Notice the sweat dripping from your partner’s skin. ooh, yes…You did that! How’s that for arousal?

Be Aware of Your Surroundings

When you are ready and able to try different locations for your sexual encounters, release your inhibitions and accept your adventurous self (be mindful of any local indecency laws in your area). Try this: Go out for a nice evening –sans panties of course, seize the opportunity for a quick scandalous tryst in a public bathroom, outside, alongside a building, on an empty train car, or a park.Be adventurous

If you are more of an indoors type of lover, ride your mate once you park your car in the garage, or other safe location. But hurry before the parking attendant comes checking on you. If you have a garage attached to your home, you are in luck, because you can just get it in your own garage.

When you finally make it home, you can engage in coitus UN-interruptus right there on the stairs. If you live in an apartment building, you have the heightened adrenaline rush of your neighbors walking up or down the stairs and getting a glimpse of you mid stroke.

Car

Damn those comfy bucket seats that cradles you oh so nicely! They are not the most sex friendly, we know. No one likes having the gearshift pressing so hard against their flesh that it leaves you numb, or your ass honking the horn when it gets sooo good. So it’s climbing into the backseat you two go. (That’s why pick-up trucks were really made).

Because Toys, ARE Us!

“Love has no limits (but it does have a safe word)”.

Sensual restraintsForget sending roses to turn on your partner. Surprise your loved one with a set of sexy restraints made from luxurious sensual silk. The decadent feel of soft, smooth fabric against her skin as you bind her hands is intoxicating. Make your lover your sex slave, even if it is only for the night. Remember your safe word. Once you have your partner tied up, reach for a powerful, yet quiet vibrator and stimulate her clitoris, varying the intensity. Ladies, you can blindfold you man and slip a comfortable ring on his (no, not his finger) already stiffening manhood and enjoy his cockiness.

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Open Up – Advice

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So we’ve been asked this question by more than one person and realized that it needed an answer.  While we are not psychiatrists, nor are we psychologists, we do have a bit of experience in relationships.

You can always open up with us.

Q: I’m a woman in her mid twenties and was asked by this guy that I just started seeing (we haven’t even had sex yet but he had the nerve to ask)  how many sexual partners have I had. I thought that was an inappropriate and invasive question and I stop talking to him. Am I  overreacting? I don’t think that is any of his business.

A:  In this day and age of increasing cases of H.I.V., and other STI’s on the rise, it is important to have the discussion of previous partners and past sexual activity.  That being said, disclosure of past exposures or contractions of STI’s should be a conversation to have with any potential partner before you become intimate.  It is the responsible thing to do.

Tell us what you think this woman should do.  Is she being immature for cutting this guy off?

Discover the Mystery of the Female Orgasm

Pressed or caressed the right way, a woman can be transported to such ecstasy, that for a few seconds, the rest of the world ceases to exist. But get it wrong and pain, frustration, or dull nothingness can ensue. It’s a stark contrast to a man’s experience; so long as they can get an erection, a few minutes of vigorous stimulation generally results in ejaculation.

The big O!  The great climax moment that you hear about, read about, and sometimes, dream about.  The Mystery of the Female Orgasm doesn’t have to be out of your reach any longer.

When trying to bring her to her peak of climax, pay attention to little tell tale signs about her body.  When pleasuring your woman ask yourself these questions.  Is she becoming more relaxed and tense at the same time?  Is she becoming more vocal?  Chances are, as long as you are someone that she knows and is interested in, she is about to have an orgasm.

Floggers vs Whips – Which One is Right?

flog [flog, flawg]
verb (used with object), flogged, flogging.

To beat with a whip, stick, etc., usually in the BDSM lifestyle as punishment; whip; scourge.

We’ve been asked, “if they do the same thing, what is the difference between whips and floggers and how do I know which one is right for me”?

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In a nutshell, a whip is a general, umbrella term that covers many sub- categories: Canes, floggers, crops, paddles, and whips. The main difference in these subcategories is in their flexibility.  Canes , crops, and paddles are typically inflexible objects made from solid materials like wood,  steel, or even bamboo,  but floggers and whips are much more flexible.

They are all designed to strike or inflict pain upon the recipient.  Both floggers and whips come in a wide variety of materials: leather, faux leather, chains, rubber, fake fur, pretty much any material that can move freely with a flick of your arm.

Keep in mind, that floggers typically have multiple tails or strands  (usually more than nine). And whips generally have a single tail or strand.

The main difference between being flogged and whipped is in your stance.

The sound achieved from flogging can sound  like a thud and you can enjoy a stinging sensation which can be described as being as soft as a feather  to being as sharp as a knife cutting your skin.

Whichever striking method you choose, always remember to have a safe word so your partner can go as intense as you can handle and a safe word to know when to ease back.

4 Simple Steps for Attracting and Keeping Love (before and after Valentine’s Day)

Ahh, Valentines Day; a day devoted to displays of affection. Yet it can be a depressingly heart-wrenching day of the year if  you are not in a passionate relationship. Uggh. You wish there was a magic spell to cast for finding true love and happiness.

“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.” — Ann Landers

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You’ve done it all. Blind dates, supermarket stakeouts, and the online dating scene, yet you still strike out when it comes to finding l’amour.  We go to extremes trying to attract the perfect mate: tucking things, plucking thing, taping things, dying and frying things to get that special someone to notice you.  It’s frustrating to say the least. What’s worse is that even the mean cross-eyed receptionist in the doctors office is now engaged.

Your last resort would be to try and conjure up a love spell. Do they work?  Who knows.

Take heart.  Love requires planning and maneuvering.   Now is the time that you take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself, what signals am I sending out?

But before you cross the enchanted bridge and begin to entice the divine powers, envision the person you want to become in order to attract the love that you want.

  • Light a soft pink candle.
  • Relax in a tub filled with sea salt and essential oils, like chamomile, Jasmine, lavender, rosemary, or rose.
  • Visualize white light surrounding you and begin meditating on how you can improve yourself.
  • Cover your bed in red or pink petals, and enjoy all of you, that you have to offer.

We’ve done crazy things to invoke the love goddess and did everything we could to welcome Cupid into our life.  What have you done to attract love?  Tell us:

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Blow Job 101 – A Beginners Guide to Performing Like a Pro.

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People, people, people!  When you are trying to figure out how to give a man a blow job like a pro, there are some basic techniques that you want to follow. Too many people get caught up in the act of giving head that they forget that they can use the ENTIRE MOUTH: tongue, lips and teeth (only gently).  Become familiar with your man’s entire shaft.  Massage him completely with your tongue.  Hold his penis with a firm grip starting from the base and begin to really show it some attention.  Lick and kiss all over your man, tracing the full length of his manhood with your lips and tongue.

But that’s not all, there is more to expertly giving head than just holding your man in your mouth and sucking.  Discover some important how to tips on how to satisfy your man with an impressive oral sex performance.

Watch your attitude! It’s blow job basics to love a cheerful giver, so be generous and get into the spirit of giving when you’re about to give a man a blow job.

Offer to give head – Be warned:  You must be confident to do this.  Confidence is sexy.  Although this may seem simple enough to do, a lot of men say that they lose interest in a woman if they have to ask for oral pleasure.  So, step up to the mic and tell your man, “drop your pants and gimme 10!” (inches, that is). Besides, when you’re exceptional at your talents, show off! Who can turn down a great offer.

Watch your mouth! Most men don’t  like to have their sensitive skin scraped by sharp teeth when they are in the throes of passion.  Here’s a tip to prevent grinding against your partners magic stick.  Let your mouth fill with spit (yes the wetter, the better).
Really stretch your mouth open as if to make a big O with your lips. Take him inside of your mouth and suck him in. Use your cheek muscles to get the perfect suction and go down, down baby.

Take it to the top – The head of the penis is extremely sensitive.  Use your tongue to firmly caress the entire bulbous mound, then take him in and give him your best wet oral performance.  Unlike some women who prefer a gentle approach, men tend to prefer a more vigorous touch.

Bouncing Balls – Be easy on his balls (the nut sack or scrotum).  The testes are very sensitive.  Tenderly, squeeze his testicles either with your mouth or your hands by cupping them.  Gently, and we cannot stress this enough, gently massage his balls, but too much and you may find your aggressive attempt at seduction leaving your partner quivering in pain.

When you have the skill to delicately massage his balls in your mouth, remember to stroke the shaft.  Keep your well lubricated hands all over him. He’s going to be more receptive to you at this time.

Send a bing-bong to his ding dong.  Once you have him inside the depth of your mouth, send him a message via sound and vibration. Make some Noise!!!!  No, not any kind of noise.  Don’t worry about what your mother said about making noise while you have something in your mouth. Savor the flavor of your partner.  Make a delicious sound of slurping and humming and moaning while you are licking and sucking.  Wait, we need a break… Ok, what were we talking about?  Oh yeah, you want your partner into it, so you need to be into it as well.  A nice hum from your mouth while performing oral sex can simulate the gentle vibration he would get from a mini vibrator.

Go for a happy ending.  Put it in your mouth.  Not into swallowing your partner’s load? Play with his cum in your mouth.  Blow big semen filled bubbles.  Or let him release himself on you.  Embrace the milky shower your partner shared with you.
BONUS:  Rub it in.  Go on, rub his semen on you.  Using his semi erect penis, massage all of his creamy semen all over your face.  This bold seductive act shows him that you love every inch of him.  If you’re daring, you can even lightly tap your face if he is still leaking to get every last drop

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New Year. New You. Why You Should Plan For Healthier Relationships

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Cherry blossoms – a symbol of new beginnings, feminine dominance and beauty

It’s that time again and with the New Year upon us, the New Year brings new things! So many people say “new year, new me” because you get 365 new days to reset the clock and live the life you have always wanted to live! For the New Year, remember to include resolutions to improve your relationship.

Don’t waste another day–in fact, don’t waist another moment! It isn’t necessary to wait for the beginning of the year to start afresh. As a matter of fact, start now!  Decide that today is the day and now is the time to focus on enhancing the best you that there is to make you happy and your relationship thrive.

Starting a new workout regimen is great for the new year.  When incorporating your workout schedule into your daily life, consider ways to  plan for a  sex-sational New Year and New You! While you’re pushing yourself to go harder in the gym, think about how much sexier you will look during your orgasms. Yes, yes, and oh yes! More orgasms can improve your physical, mental and emotional health! When you embrace your passionate self, you open the door to undiscovered desires.

Set aside some quiet time to connect with the intellectual beauty that you are, either alone or with your partner.  Meditation is great to relieve stress while allowing you to experience a more intimate connection with your lover without penetration.

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While lying in bed together, face each other and entwine your legs so the legs are resting scissor style with one another and allow his genitals to rest on her genitals.  Relax, breathe deep, and focus on the space the two of you are sharing for a few moments.

Make your workout, part of foreplay

It’s the beginning of the New Year! Let your inhibitions down and like the athletic giant says, “Just Do It”, but do it together!  Look at that body! See how hard your partner is working on developing strength and muscles?  Yes, now imagine those ripped abs and muscular chest sweating all over your body.  Shoot a few knowing glances at your partner.  Let him know that after this workout, there will be a post workout at home (unless you can sneak a tryst in on the way). According to Dr. Laura Berman, a leading sex and relationship therapist on OWN, the Oprah Winfrey Network, make a resolution to stay open to the promise of sex even if you aren’t immediately in the mood. Kiss your partner, enjoy his touches, and let your mind delve into fantasy. Stay open to sex and tune into the pleasure of being touched and kissed. You will likely find that your body responds and that you are in the mood after all!

Have more sex, more often. Depending on your sex position, experts say 30 minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. (Ladies, you will burn more calories during sex when you are on top). It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Wow! Orgasm plus weight loss!  Yeah, that is a workout by itself!

Spice things up

February is the shortest month to try something new! Think of the freakiest thing you’ve ever wanted to try and go for it! Try a new sex toy – Need a bit of inspiration? Check out Embracedesires.com to get started. Do you want to be restrained? Has the book series 50 Shades of Grey left you wanting to channel your inner Anastasia? You must tell your partner what interests you! Say, “Spank Me”. Be bold and daring, either way, tell your partner. Write it down and leave it as a little love note or, if you can’t leave an actual note, send a text message. Life is too short.  Be as uninhibited as you desire with your lover! And oh, have fun with it!

As an added bonus, having sex may be good for your heart. A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex twice or more a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month.

Spend Time Getting to Know What YOU Like

As the old saying goes, “how are you going to love someone if you can’t love yourself” – ok so we paraphrased a bit.  Really get to know the one person you’ve been with your entire life!  Self-stimulation is a normal, healthy and a wonderful way to get in touch with your hot spots. Be sure to have clean hands and  use a high quality lube when pleasuring yourself to make each stroke wonderful. Once you’ve become familiar with what you like, go for mutual masturbation. Simultaneously, stimulate each other.  For a unique and erotic experience, stimulate each other without penetration and see who comes to climax first. Winner gets to dominate. For stimulation without risk of a fatigued hand, use vibrating toys just grab the batteries or make sure everything is clean and charged, for clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Men can benefit from the use of a onacup (male masturbation sleeve) with a vibrating bullet. If you don’t know how to love yourself, nobody else will…

What better way to reduce stress than making yourself happy.  Natural endorphins released during self-stimulating pleasure can improve your overall mood by improved circulation and relieving stress.

Be Bold and Daring in the Bedroom

Let’s get to the bottom of anal sex and straight men. Many straight guys have preconceived notions about anal play. Mainly, if you derive pleasure from anal stimulation, you must somehow be gay. Guys, you can still have the raging heterosexuality of an NFL offensive line and explore your all of your erogenous zones. The anus is full of sensitive nerve tissue that, when stimulated can bring immense pleasure. Sexual orientation doesn’t change based on pleasure zones. We recommend that you start by experimenting with a well silicone –  lubed finger.  If you are worried about residue, wear sterile gloves, and then lube your finger with a quality silicone lube.  When you and your partner are ready, then you can graduate to anal plugs. Anal plugs with a flare at the end are best if you want to avoid a trip to the ER…”uh, Doc, I was reading this blog a few hours ago and…, well you get the idea.  We highly suggest the use of silicone-based lubricants for pleasure during anal sex. The silicone will not be absorbed into your skin as would water-based lubes thus reducing friction and increasing pleasure. Word to the wise – START OFF SLOW! Your ass isn’t going anywhere!  If it hurts, take a break.

Having sex, whether anal or vaginal, boosts your immunity. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.

But, What Does That Mouth Do?

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Give your partner mind-blowing pleasure throughout the year. Dedicate a time to perfecting your oral skills. Oral sex is one of the most delightful ways couples can give each other pleasure without saying a word. Many men are fans of blow jobs as it gives them intense sexual sensations and can bring him to a pretty intense orgasm. To make him go weak at the knees, when giving him a blow job linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive – the tip of his penis, his testicles and his perineum – the secret spot between the testicles and the anus. To really turn him on, include a quiet, yet powerful vibrating toy in your oral play.  Then, blindfold him and tie him up.  Gently place the toy under his scrotum (the balls) before you go down on him, then deep throat your man. Ladies, this make him moan with pleasure!

Some studies suggest that women love receiving oral sex also. We have to agree.  In fact, 30 to 50 percent of women say they can’t reach an orgasm through intercourse alone. A woman’s clitoris is the most pleasure-sensitive part of her vagina and that’s where you’ll want to devote your attention. In fact, the tiny little clitoris has more sensory nerve endings than the entire penis! Stimulating your partner’s vulva, clitoris and entrance to the vagina using your tongue, lips and mouth will drive her wild, resulting in a super intense orgasm! So, relax and share the pleasure – both giving and receiving to experience a new dimension of sensuality…mmh, mmmh, good!

Why Not Improve Your Mood

Orgasms increase estrogen and endorphin levels which makes you feel good and naturally improves your mood.

 

 

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