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I am opening up because I need an answer. Where are the good men?  I meet a potential mate, but then somewhere, early on, things don’t seem to work.  Help me figure this one out.

Q:  I keep falling for the same type of guy? I’m educated, I have a great career, but I still find myself with the same type of man who loves me, then leaves me.  I have a college degree, am established in my career and I know what I want in a man.  A man who is educated, single, no drama, earns more than I do, and knows how to pamper a woman. What is wrong with me? Am I asking for too much?

A:  Man! oh man, are we all too familiar with THIS scenario.  First off, the good men ARE out there.  It’s how you present yourself initially that determines how you will be treated. You sometimes have to fall back in your interactions with men.  Men don’t always want an independent woman who not only knows that she is independent, but embraces her independence.  What would he be needed for if a woman touts her accomplishments but doesn’t allow the man to lead, in the traditional sense. If all you want is attention, you don’t need a man, you need a pet.