In the movie, Trainwreck, Amy Schumer’s character is having sex with the very sexy John Cena.  Amy wants her lover to talk dirty to her to help her get more in the mood.

Unfortunately, what happens to a lot of people, he doesn’t know what to say, so he starts rambling off things off the top of his head that are sexy to him (men really are wired differently).  But that isn’t what his lover wants to hear.  I’ve been there a time or two myself.

Whenever I found myself having to train a new partner in the art of making me feel satisfied, I discovered that I had to be very specific in instructions.  His perception of sexy, dirty talk wasn’t always what my ears and brain needed.

Talking Dirty with Your Partner, Even if You Don’t Know How

 Beautiful young girl in kimono hiding behind the red curtains in the interior near window. Sexy shy lady.Dirty talk can be a valuable tool in the bedroom, but many people shy away from being vocal in the act or expressing desires before things heat up physically. If you have always avoided talking dirty as part of your foreplay routine, you might find that you’ve been missing out on some great opportunities to build intimacy with your partner and become in tune with your own fantasies.  With a trusted partner, you might feel comfortable beginning to indulge in dirty talk, which can take some getting used to, but has the potential for some serious benefits.



Unlock the benefits of dirty talk.


It’s been said many times that the brain is the largest erogenous zone in the body, and this is true for a number of reasons. Chemical impulses in the brain drive the biological desire to have sex, but there is much more to arousal than hormone production. When you bring dirty talk into the mix, you can amplify your partner’s and your own arousal by triggering more parts of the brain as you become intimate. This creates a stronger mind-body connection that can heighten the sense of closeness and pleasure you feel. For women, dirty talk might be particularly helpful in building heat before getting physical, because women take much longer to become aroused than men do. While in the act, talking dirty can give your partner more accurate feedback of what he or she is doing right, and this will further increase your fun.


Explore your fantasies.

Dirty talk can be a pleasant surprise for your partner, particularly when you divulge some of your previously unspoken fantasies. In fact, the easiest way to get started when talking dirty is by simply expressing how you want to touch and be touched by your partner. If you are on the shy side, sending a naughty text or leaving a sexy note might do the trick in getting your partner started with the dirty talk in person.

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Send a naughty text message if you’re on the shy side

Regardless of how you plan your approach, you might find that a few naughty sentiments are just what you need to bring new pleasure products and intimacy enhancers into your relationship.


Embrace the awkward moments.

It can be difficult to find just the right words to say to your partner—especially in the heat of the moment.

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Repeat after me, and say exactly what I tell you

As a result, there may be some less than flattering moments when you land on a phrase that just doesn’t sound as good as it did in your head. Learning to find the humor in the awkwardness can actually build a stronger bond with your partner and help you feel more comfortable while exploring some of your more hidden desires.


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