Yes.  We know.

Every year, it happens.  Without fail I want to bring in the new year with someone to love, who loves me back with the same fervor, who am I kidding, I want someone who loves me more than I love them.

When you are in a committed relationship, things don’t always play out the way you imagined it should in your head.

You get comfortable.  Very comfortable.  I am talking about wearing grungy clothes comfy.  That isn’t always a bad thing, but sometimes you have to get dressed and remind your significant other WHY they were interested in you in the first place.


Every year when it’s time to ring in the new beginning, I am the one to fall asleep.  How can you celebrate the concept of new beginnings when you are doing the same thing over and over?  It isn’t an easy task.  We should want to celebrate a new love interest, even if that love interest has been in your life longer than your favorite shoes.

It’s time to regain the love.  I want to fall in love with my partner and myself again.Loving couple outside

I find myself asking these questions: “How did we fall in love the first place?”  “How and did we actually fall out of love?”

In this New Year, I am taking control.  It’s time to stop the internal arguments and really listen to my significant other. I am renewing my vow to take time out to appreciate their point of view, even if it is one that I don’t agree with.

Life is too short. Will I really be better of without them? Or do I just need some time to be alone and reflect – I read somewhere that every once in a while, certain personality types really need to unplug and be alone.  Sometimes, (brace yourselves because this might sound morbid) when things get really intense between my dear partner, I plan funerals, widow crying at funeralI am talking about complete services including who will sing and what will I wear.  I even plan out my new life.  And the thought being without this person hits – HARD.  I imagine how lonely I would be. I know the heartache would be unbearable.   Feeling that I alienated myself, intentionally just for a moment of solitude just seems self- serving. Then I stop to make myself remember why I decided to be with this incredible person who has been with me and all of my crazy and realize that I really am better with them, than without.

It’s a new year.  Time to try something new to embrace all that is waiting in 2017.

How do you handle your long-term relationship?  Do you feel like you are stuck sometimes, but still love your partner?

Let us know in the comments.