You get together for your first sexual encounter and… Hmm, the performance wasn’t that great and you excuse it, thinking maybe it’s nerves, first time jitters.
Again, they disappoint you. Maybe they weren’t feeling well and possibly tired. Whatever the case may be, each time the sex just doesn’t live up to your standards. You continue seeing the person, perhaps they fill a different void, but how do you improve their performance with you?
All in all, people are visual creatures and they’re very hands on, so teach by doing and showing. Place your hand over his and guide him in the ways you liked to be handled. Give him a little vocal encouragement by throwing in some of these: ”Ooh I like how THAT feels” or ”I like it better when you do it like THIS” and if he is willing to pleasure you, he’ll make sure to follow your instructions.