With most couples sex is a very important part of the relationship, as well as where the sex takes place. Many people like to be adventurous and try new things and new places. That was great before careers, cameras, and kids came into the picture. Now, in our adult reality, we all know the most intercourse between couples takes place in the bedroom. So get ready to be a better lover, because we are about to help you get rid of the clutter!
Your bedroom should be an inviting playroom for sex.
When you look at your bedroom what do you see? Exercise equipment that has turned into a coat rack? Children’s toy’s and other clutter that is preventing you from being the best lover .
What about that brand new flat screen tv? While all of these things may seem like creature comforts, they are actually mental distractions to what could be amazing, mind blowing sex!
If clothes make the man, then his living space should also be indicative of who he is as well. If you’ve ever visited a potential lover’s house, only to discover that the place is a mess, guess what…Big Turn Off! Dirty dishes in the sink, clothes on the floor, or worse, critters — roaches, rodents, even the occasional filthy roommate is a big no no.
Your(potential) lover could be the sexiest man alive (Hi Idris Elba), but if that living space is a wreck, you’ve just ruined your chance at intimacy.
There really is something sexy about visiting someone’s home for the first time in anticipation of getting laid.
But, your partner can’t relax in a messy place.
A few tips to tidy up your place to make sure you are the best lover possible.
Fumigate – If you know that those crawling, disgustingly unwelcome guests (we’re not talking about your roommate) in your house always make an appearance when you are trying to get lucky, and if time time permits, call an exterminator – or just do it yourself
Dust – Believe it or not, dust collects EVERY day. Dust the baseboards, TV’s, counters and your dresser. it will make a huge difference.
Organize – Put away all of your clothes. If they don’t fit in your closetor dresser where the doors/drawers can close, invest in storage containers to fit your adult lifestlye.
Aromatics – We are visual creatures, yes, but there is nothing more stimulating to the senses than the olfactory delight of a sophisticated and seductive scent to tantalize and entice your lover. Light a candle and set the mood. Inhale the sensual bouquet and watch the mesmerizing flicker of the flame as your guest warms up to you even more.
We want to hear from you! Tell us in the comments how you make your room attractive to a potential lover.
You are what you eat. At least that is what has been hammered in our brains since the food pyramid became popular. But the good news is that the healthy foods your body takes in, eventually come out. But not in a way you may think.
Both male and female ejaculate contains carbs, amino acids, and proteins. When the ejaculate fluid dries, it will dry yellowish depending on the amount of protein in the secretion. The higher the protein found in the secretions of the ejaculate, the more yellow it will dry
Life is a lot like toilet paper. You’re either on a roll, or taking shit from some asshole
The pressure is on, I fear I might leak.
A bush or toilet is what I seek.
Don’t make me laugh or sit on my belly,
And having to hold it makes my legs jelly.
Don’t make sounds of water or don’t even tickle
Or I may dance in pain or let out a trickle.
As necessary as going to the bathroom to relieve yourself may be, you may be disturbed to know that almost all toilet paper has formaldehyde and chlorine residue on them.
Do you want your bottom to smell like formaldehyde, the chemical that is used in some funeral homes to embalm the deceased? We don’t.
Is there anything more intoxicating than the heady scent coming from a woman? I dare say no. Ok, usually not. But in order to enjoy that perfume that spreads from our legs to tickle the senses, we must be clean. Not just cleaning our ladybits, but also the panties we wear.
When washing our undies, we should use a mild, unscented detergent that is free of perfumes and dyes. Think baby detergent. It’s gentle enough not to irritate a baby’s new, and delicate skin, so it will be gentle enough on our most intimate areas.
After washing your undies, use the extra rinse cycle on your machine if available.
Avoid using fabric dryer sheets – they leave residue on the fabric and when it come in contact with your delicate areas, it can rub off and cause skin irritation. (If you want your panties to smell like a garden or some other heavenly body, use potpourri or drawer sachets instead).
So we’ve been asked this question by more than one person and realized that it needed an answer. While we are not psychiatrists, nor are we psychologists, we do have a bit of experience in relationships.
You can always open up with us.
Q: I’m a woman in her mid twenties and was asked by this guy that I just started seeing (we haven’t even had sex yet but he had the nerve to ask) how many sexual partners have I had. I thought that was an inappropriate and invasive question and I stop talking to him. Am I overreacting? I don’t think that is any of his business.
A: In this day and age of increasing cases of H.I.V., and other STI’s on the rise, it is important to have the discussion of previous partners and past sexual activity. That being said, disclosure of past exposures or contractions of STI’s should be a conversation to have with any potential partner before you become intimate. It is the responsible thing to do.
Tell us what you think this woman should do. Is she being immature for cutting this guy off?
You’ve heard of it existing. Maybe you believe you have one. But men already know of the power of the V and how it can bring a lover to their knees in ecstasy and in some instances, the poor house.
It’s that moment when your kitty is being stroked, and you hear him moan, “mmm, this is some good pussy” Bamm! That’s your confirmation right there that you have that good good. Sorry to tell you, ladies, but… No, it isn’t.
Men put on verbal performances too (yes, men fake pleasure sounds) so, ladies we must pay attention to their body language as well as what we hear.
Read on to discover more ways to make him mean it when he tells you that your pussy is good.
While having intercourse, squeeze, really squeeze those kegel muscles! Squeeze on every up stroke if you can. If you’re too wet or feels too loose, change positions. Make your vagina the victorious one.
There is no such thing as sex just happening. Every morning that you wake up is an opportunity to be sexually active.
Make sure you shower and groom yourself every day in anticipation of an impromptu romp.
If your daily routine includes the gym after work, keep a fresh pack of cleansing wipes designed specifically for a woman’s delicate and most sensitive area.
Give him a sweet treat to eat. Keep some edible dusting powder stored discreetly in a small zippered plastic bag or a stylish compact case. We prefer a small compact case with two compartments, one for our edible powders and the other side for our condoms.
Go for pussy power! Train your pelvic walls. Do kegel exercises every day, every hour (ok, that may not be possible for some, but on your way to work, in a meeting, during lunch – you get the idea). If you need more resistance for your vaginal walls, purchase pelvic floor exercise tools. They come in different shapes, from eggs to wands, and in a variety of weights.
Keep that kitty pretty. There is no better feeling than undressing and showing off a beautifully adorned kitty cat. As part of your grooming process, consider changing your hair color down there, or trimming your hair in special designs or shapes.
For the woman who loves glitz and glamour, add some sparkling crystals to your pubic area. Don’t worry about the crystals they have adhesive backings so you can reposition them when they get moved around (and they will) during sex.
Claim your victory for your vagina and you too can have power in your pussy.
Most mothers teach their little girls how to clean their lady bits. Always wipe from front to back. Some lessons, she probably forgot to tell you because she didn’t know herself.
Besides simply wiping from front to back after using the bathroom, there are other equally important things a woman must do to keep her kitty clean?
Keep those body scrubs, soaps, and feminine washes away from the vajajay. Yes, they may smell amazing, but the chemicals used in producing them actually promote yeast infections and other skin irritations. Who wants to make monthly visits to the gyn, because of soap irritation when you can avoid the cause of the problem yourself?
If you feel the need to clean your self-cleaning poonanny, be gentle with her. Never use regular soap inside of your vagina. Use a gentle, low pH soap like Basis, Pears, Cetaphil, or SebaMed for the inner labia. Allow your p-ssy, to smell like a p-ssy. Treat her right, and you will reap the benefits.
When in the shower cleaning that good good, use your freshly washed bare hands as washcloths may contain dust or other germs from the air. Better yet, use a handheld shower head. You will not only hit your sweet spot during your alone time in the shower, but you can use the force of the water to clean out your most intimate area.
When you’re all done, pat yourself dry – don’t rub your skin with the towel.