With most couples sex is a very important part of the relationship, as well as where the sex takes place. Many people like to be adventurous and try new things and new places. That was great before careers, cameras, and kids came into the picture. Now, in our adult reality, we all know the most intercourse between couples takes place in the bedroom. So get ready to be a better lover, because we are about to help you get rid of the clutter!
Your bedroom should be an inviting playroom for sex.
When you look at your bedroom what do you see? Exercise equipment that has turned into a coat rack? Children’s toy’s and other clutter that is preventing you from being the best lover .
What about that brand new flat screen tv? While all of these things may seem like creature comforts, they are actually mental distractions to what could be amazing, mind blowing sex!
If clothes make the man, then his living space should also be indicative of who he is as well. If you’ve ever visited a potential lover’s house, only to discover that the place is a mess, guess what…Big Turn Off! Dirty dishes in the sink, clothes on the floor, or worse, critters — roaches, rodents, even the occasional filthy roommate is a big no no.
Your(potential) lover could be the sexiest man alive (Hi Idris Elba), but if that living space is a wreck, you’ve just ruined your chance at intimacy.
There really is something sexy about visiting someone’s home for the first time in anticipation of getting laid.
But, your partner can’t relax in a messy place.
A few tips to tidy up your place to make sure you are the best lover possible.
Fumigate – If you know that those crawling, disgustingly unwelcome guests (we’re not talking about your roommate) in your house always make an appearance when you are trying to get lucky, and if time time permits, call an exterminator – or just do it yourself
Dust – Believe it or not, dust collects EVERY day. Dust the baseboards, TV’s, counters and your dresser. it will make a huge difference.
Organize – Put away all of your clothes. If they don’t fit in your closetor dresser where the doors/drawers can close, invest in storage containers to fit your adult lifestlye.
Aromatics – We are visual creatures, yes, but there is nothing more stimulating to the senses than the olfactory delight of a sophisticated and seductive scent to tantalize and entice your lover. Light a candle and set the mood. Inhale the sensual bouquet and watch the mesmerizing flicker of the flame as your guest warms up to you even more.
We want to hear from you! Tell us in the comments how you make your room attractive to a potential lover.
Ahh, Valentines Day; a day devoted to displays of affection. Yet it can be a depressingly heart-wrenching day of the year if you are not in a passionate relationship. Uggh. You wish there was a magic spell to cast for finding true love and happiness.
“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.” — Ann Landers
You’ve done it all. Blind dates, supermarket stakeouts, and the online dating scene, yet you still strike out when it comes to finding l’amour. We go to extremes trying to attract the perfect mate: tucking things, plucking thing, taping things, dying and frying things to get that special someone to notice you. It’s frustrating to say the least. What’s worse is that even the mean cross-eyed receptionist in the doctors office is now engaged.
Your last resort would be to try and conjure up a love spell. Do they work? Who knows.
Take heart. Love requires planning and maneuvering. Now is the time that you take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself, what signals am I sending out?
But before you cross the enchanted bridge and begin to entice the divine powers, envision the person you want to become in order to attract the love that you want.
Light a soft pink candle.
Relax in a tub filled with sea salt and essential oils, like chamomile, Jasmine, lavender, rosemary, or rose.
Visualize white light surrounding you and begin meditating on how you can improve yourself.
Cover your bed in red or pink petals, and enjoy all of you, that you have to offer.
We’ve done crazy things to invoke the love goddess and did everything we could to welcome Cupid into our life. What have you done to attract love? Tell us:
People, people, people! When you are trying to figure out how to give a man a blow job like a pro, there are some basic techniques that you want to follow. Too many people get caught up in the act of giving head that they forget that they can use the ENTIRE MOUTH: tongue, lips and teeth (only gently). Become familiar with your man’s entire shaft. Massage him completely with your tongue. Hold his penis with a firm grip starting from the base and begin to really show it some attention. Lick and kiss all over your man, tracing the full length of his manhood with your lips and tongue.
But that’s not all, there is more to expertly giving head than just holding your man in your mouth and sucking. Discover some important how to tips on how to satisfy your man with an impressive oral sex performance.
Watch your attitude! It’s blow job basics to love a cheerful giver, so be generous and get into the spirit of giving when you’re about to give a man a blow job.
Offer to give head – Be warned: You must be confident to do this. Confidence is sexy. Although this may seem simple enough to do, a lot of men say that they lose interest in a woman if they have to ask for oral pleasure. So, step up to the mic and tell your man, “drop your pants and gimme 10!” (inches, that is). Besides, when you’re exceptional at your talents, show off! Who can turn down a great offer.
Watch your mouth! Most men don’t like to have their sensitive skin scraped by sharp teeth when they are in the throes of passion. Here’s a tip to prevent grinding against your partners magic stick. Let your mouth fill with spit (yes the wetter, the better).
Really stretch your mouth open as if to make a big O with your lips. Take him inside of your mouth and suck him in. Use your cheek muscles to get the perfect suction and go down, down baby.
Take it to the top – The head of the penis is extremely sensitive. Use your tongue to firmly caress the entire bulbous mound, then take him in and give him your best wet oral performance. Unlike some women who prefer a gentle approach, men tend to prefer a more vigorous touch.
Bouncing Balls – Be easy on his balls (the nut sack or scrotum). The testes are very sensitive. Tenderly, squeeze his testicles either with your mouth or your hands by cupping them. Gently, and we cannot stress this enough, gently massage his balls, but too much and you may find your aggressive attempt at seduction leaving your partner quivering in pain.
When you have the skill to delicately massage his balls in your mouth, remember to stroke the shaft. Keep your well lubricated hands all over him. He’s going to be more receptive to you at this time.
Send a bing-bong to his ding dong. Once you have him inside the depth of your mouth, send him a message via sound and vibration. Make some Noise!!!! No, not any kind of noise. Don’t worry about what your mother said about making noise while you have something in your mouth. Savor the flavor of your partner. Make a delicious sound of slurping and humming and moaning while you are licking and sucking. Wait, we need a break… Ok, what were we talking about? Oh yeah, you want your partner into it, so you need to be into it as well. A nice hum from your mouth while performing oral sex can simulate the gentle vibration he would get from a mini vibrator.
Go for a happy ending. Put it in your mouth. Not into swallowing your partner’s load? Play with his cum in your mouth. Blow big semen filled bubbles. Or let him release himself on you. Embrace the milky shower your partner shared with you.
BONUS: Rub it in. Go on, rub his semen on you. Using his semi erect penis, massage all of his creamy semen all over your face. This bold seductive act shows him that you love every inch of him. If you’re daring, you can even lightly tap your face if he is still leaking to get every last drop
Cherry blossoms – a symbol of new beginnings, feminine dominance and beauty
It’s that time again and with the New Year upon us, the New Year brings new things! So many people say “new year, new me” because you get 365 new days to reset the clock and live the life you have always wanted to live! For the New Year, remember to include resolutions to improve your relationship.
Don’t waste another day–in fact, don’t waist another moment! It isn’t necessary to wait for the beginning of the year to start afresh. As a matter of fact, start now! Decide that today is the day and now is the time to focus on enhancing the best you that there is to make you happy and your relationship thrive.
Starting a new workout regimen is great for the new year. When incorporating your workout schedule into your daily life, consider ways to plan for a sex-sational New Year and New You! While you’re pushing yourself to go harder in the gym, think about how much sexier you will look during your orgasms. Yes, yes, and oh yes! More orgasms can improve your physical, mental and emotional health! When you embrace your passionate self, you open the door to undiscovered desires.
Set aside some quiet time to connect with the intellectual beauty that you are, either alone or with your partner. Meditation is great to relieve stress while allowing you to experience a more intimate connection with your lover without penetration.
While lying in bed together, face each other and entwine your legs so the legs are resting scissor style with one another and allow his genitals to rest on her genitals. Relax, breathe deep, and focus on the space the two of you are sharing for a few moments.
Make your workout, part of foreplay
It’s the beginning of the New Year! Let your inhibitions down and like the athletic giant says, “Just Do It”, but do it together! Look at that body! See how hard your partner is working on developing strength and muscles? Yes, now imagine those ripped abs and muscular chest sweating all over your body. Shoot a few knowing glances at your partner. Let him know that after this workout, there will be a post workout at home (unless you can sneak a tryst in on the way). According to Dr. Laura Berman, a leading sex and relationship therapist on OWN, the Oprah Winfrey Network, make a resolution to stay open to the promise of sex even if you aren’t immediately in the mood. Kiss your partner, enjoy his touches, and let your mind delve into fantasy. Stay open to sex and tune into the pleasure of being touched and kissed. You will likely find that your body responds and that you are in the mood after all!
Have more sex, more often. Depending on your sex position, experts say 30 minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. (Ladies, you will burn more calories during sex when you are on top). It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Wow! Orgasm plus weight loss! Yeah, that is a workout by itself!
Spice things up
February is the shortest month to try something new! Think of the freakiest thing you’ve ever wanted to try and go for it! Try a new sex toy – Need a bit of inspiration? Check out Embracedesires.comto get started. Do you want to be restrained? Has the book series50 Shades of Grey left you wanting to channel your inner Anastasia? You must tell your partner what interests you! Say, “Spank Me”. Be bold and daring, either way, tell your partner. Write it down and leave it as a little love note or, if you can’t leave an actual note, send a text message. Life is too short. Be as uninhibited as you desire with your lover! And oh, have fun with it!
As an added bonus, having sex may be good for your heart. A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex twice or more a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month.
Spend Time Getting to Know What YOU Like
As the old saying goes, “how are you going to love someone if you can’t love yourself” – ok so we paraphrased a bit. Really get to know the one person you’ve been with your entire life! Self-stimulation is a normal, healthy and a wonderful way to get in touch with your hot spots. Be sure to have clean hands and use a high quality lube when pleasuring yourself to make each stroke wonderful. Once you’ve become familiar with what you like, go for mutual masturbation. Simultaneously, stimulate each other. For a unique and erotic experience, stimulate each other without penetration and see who comes to climax first. Winner gets to dominate. For stimulation without risk of a fatigued hand, use vibrating toys just grab the batteries or make sure everything is clean and charged, for clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Men can benefit from the use of a onacup (male masturbation sleeve) with a vibrating bullet. If you don’t know how to love yourself, nobody else will…
What better way to reduce stress than making yourself happy. Natural endorphins released during self-stimulating pleasure can improve your overall mood by improved circulation and relieving stress.
Be Bold and Daring in the Bedroom
Let’s get to the bottom of anal sex and straight men. Many straight guys have preconceived notions about anal play. Mainly, if you derive pleasure from anal stimulation, you must somehow be gay. Guys, you can still have the raging heterosexuality of an NFL offensive line and explore your all of your erogenous zones. The anus is full of sensitive nerve tissue that, when stimulated can bring immense pleasure. Sexual orientation doesn’t change based on pleasure zones. We recommend that you start by experimenting with a well silicone – lubed finger. If you are worried about residue, wear sterile gloves, and then lube your finger with a quality silicone lube. When you and your partner are ready, then you can graduate to anal plugs. Anal plugs with a flare at the end are best if you want to avoid a trip to the ER…”uh, Doc, I was reading this blog a few hours ago and…, well you get the idea. We highly suggest the use of silicone-based lubricants for pleasure during anal sex. The silicone will not be absorbed into your skin as would water-based lubes thus reducing friction and increasing pleasure. Word to the wise – START OFF SLOW! Your ass isn’t going anywhere! If it hurts, take a break.
Having sex, whether anal or vaginal, boosts your immunity. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.
But, What Does That Mouth Do?
Give your partner mind-blowing pleasure throughout the year. Dedicate a time to perfecting your oral skills. Oral sex is one of the most delightful ways couples can give each other pleasure without saying a word. Many men are fans of blow jobs as it gives them intense sexual sensations and can bring him to a pretty intense orgasm. To make him go weak at the knees, when giving him a blow job linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive – the tip of his penis, his testicles and his perineum – the secret spot between the testicles and the anus. To really turn him on, include a quiet, yet powerful vibrating toy in your oral play. Then, blindfold him and tie him up. Gently place the toy under his scrotum (the balls) before you go down on him, then deep throat your man. Ladies, this make him moan with pleasure!
Some studies suggest that women love receiving oral sex also. We have to agree. In fact, 30 to 50 percent of women say they can’t reach an orgasm through intercourse alone. A woman’s clitoris is the most pleasure-sensitive part of her vagina and that’s where you’ll want to devote your attention. In fact, the tiny little clitoris has more sensory nerve endings than the entire penis! Stimulating your partner’s vulva, clitoris and entrance to the vagina using your tongue, lips and mouth will drive her wild, resulting in a super intense orgasm! So, relax and share the pleasure – both giving and receiving to experience a new dimension of sensuality…mmh, mmmh, good!
Why Not Improve Your Mood
Orgasms increase estrogen and endorphin levels which makes you feel good and naturally improves your mood.
She doesn’t really like him that much. To be truthful, when they were together as an exclusive couple during their college years, they were incompatible, to say the least.
The rekindling of their “relationship” quickly turned them into becoming sex buddies. It was the typical “I will call you when I want sex from you”. It has worked for them many years after their exclusive relationship ended.
He wasn’t all that bad. He did have one remarkable thing about him. He knew how to go down on her, and he was great at it. There’s nothing wrong with just wanting a man because he can eat good pussy is it? Her thoughts are, men keep women around for similar reasons so why shouldn’t she be able to as well. Anyway, they’ve known each other a long time, four years to be exact and even though they hardly speak on the phone, they manage to remain friendly towards one another.
Their sex buddy agreement was she gets to decide when, how, where, and how, he was simply there for her pleasure.
Earlier in the week, they agreed to meet, she was horny and he was in willing. He missed her taste. Her curves. He missed her scent. Suffice it to say that he anticipated her visit as much as she anticipated his. She took her hot bubble bath to get the seductive scent she knew turned him on, to soak into her skin, swallowed her Sweeten69 secretion sweetener pills so her juices taste sweeter,
(after all, he was coming for a meal) had a couple glasses of wine to mellow out, (the thought of looking at him required her to be a bit less than sober) the red vines were firmly in place (a sexy trick she picked up) and for once was on time and headed out of the door.
Once inside of the car, she called and told him that she was on her way and an approximate time that she expected to be there.
All of the traffic lights were green (a good sign from the Universe, she thought), made it to his house in record time AND found parking close to their designated meeting.
She gets out, of the car, takes extra care in how she struts to the door – he always enjoyed watching her breasts jiggle when she walked besides, you never know who is watching – there could be a potential suitor looking, then discovers…. The fucking door is Locked!!!!
After all the time that you have been waiting and wanting her, get her to agree to come over and you leave the door locked?
Since when does he lock the damn door?!?!? The door has never been locked for any of their other meetups. Why now? Do you expect her to stand out there ringing the bell like some desperate teenager? This is a grown ass Woman! What does she do?
She does what any woman would do.
She left. She turned around, with her head held high, walked confidently back to her car and drove off.
Selfies! Those wonderful pictures you take of yourself to show just how good you look. You take special care in your outward appearance and how well you are posed and groomed. When you take selfies of your pussyCat, you want to take extra care to make sure your kitty is picture perfect and looks to be performance ready.
Your vagina is probably the most important part of a woman’s body to seduce a partner. It sends out pheromones, naturally occurring chemicals excreted from our bodies, to attract a mate. The trick is once we get the object of our desire, we must make sure it not only looks good enough to eat but is in picture perfect shape!
Keep your pubic hairs soft to the touch. While in the shower, apply some hair conditioner to your hairs to get your hair touchably soft.
Trim the wild hairs , cut it low or go completely bare with a professional wax. We like a combination.
Not even a cat likes hair balls, so ladies make sure you tame any wild, stray hairs with any of the following methods:
You can shave (OUCH!) which will usually last a few days but then you have to deal with the unbearable feeling when those stubbly hairs grow back
Use a depilatory cream (pee eww) which lasts a bit longer, usually a couple of weeks and doesn’t come with as much of an annoyance when the hair grows back
Opt for a professional wax (OWWWW!!!!) which can last from a month to six to eight weeks and the hair grows in finer each time you wax. Either choice you make will come with some type of hair regrowth sacrifice.
Be performance ready with a gentle cleanser, NOT soap (soap is too drying). Clean the outside of your lips (labia majora), not the inside (labia minora) (introducing any cleansing product to the inside of your lips especially soap will cause an unbalance in the natural healthy bacteria in your vagina – no one wants that!)
Include fresh fruits, vegetables and fiber to your diet. It will naturally eliminate waste from your body, giving your pretty kitty a delectable flavor and scent. (recommended flavor and scent enhancers to include into your diet: Mint, parsley, kiwi, pineapple, blueberry, cucumbers and strawberry).
Drink water and PLENTY OF IT! Water not only is great for flushing out your system, but in doing so, it eliminates toxins from your skin, keeping it beautiful and supple.
We all like to slather on our favorite body lotion, but it is not recommended for use near your genitalia. Instead, use natural moisturizers like Shea butter or organic coconut oil to massage into your outer lips and between your thighs.
Go on and grab a mirror and see how pretty your kitty cat looks! Be Proud! So show off your picture perfect and performance ready pussy cat.
People are having more and more sex. According to a recent Trojan condoms survey, the average American is having sex 151 times this year, compared to 120 times last year. With so many people having so much sex, somebody is definitely a jump off.
What is a jump off?
A jump off is a person whose sole purpose is to bring sexual gratification to another person with little effort and little money spent. A jump off is usually a woman, sometimes a man who only sees their “partner” when the partner expresses interest.
How do you know you are a jumpoff?
You don’t have sex with this person regularly. You rarely go out on any dates. You appear at their house or other designated places to have sex at when they are horny. You arrive at odd hours and leave before the neighbors know of your presence.
Were you asked to send any naked pictures of yourself? (you were already considered jump off material).
Consider under what circumstances you two met. Was there drinking? Was it an online meeting, or in a club or bar? and think of how you two ended up in bed. Did this person offer to take you out? (movies don’t count, all you do is sit in the dark and feel each other while the movie is playing – an indication of the fucking that comes later) did anyone Buy you dinner at a real restaurant?
You are told that the person you are jumping off with is single. New flash: Most people are technically single. If they are not married, then they are legally SINGLE. You should ask if there is anyone else in the picture that they are fucking or somehow involved with. Don’t make assumptions that being single means they are alone. What do you think they were doing before you came along?
Once you realize or even suspect that you are a jump off, here are some rules to follow if you want to continue this sexual relationship.
Never beg/ask to be kept. If your sex partner tells you out of the blue that they can’t see you, accept that you were a jump off and move on. Asking if there is something you can do to make them stay is worthless unless you can turn yourself into the person they really want to be with.
If you are fucking Multiple other people… Let the other person know.
Honesty doesn’t apply to you, the jump off. You are not entitled to anything but the occasional fuck. You will be told any story so you can be fucked and tossed.
Accept the occasional calls/texts during normal business hours. Be grateful if you get any outside of that and when that communication stops, chances are your jump off status is done.
Social media is great, but don’t go posting ‘woe is me’ status updates on Facebook and Twitter about how you are hurt over being dumped. Just move on to the next. Lesson learned.
Never leave any personal items.
Keep it to yourself unless you’re promoting a threesome with an even better looking person.
There can’t be any babies, so stay on birth control.
Do not plan on staying over two hours (cleanup time included).
Do not try to tongue kiss.
If you two should ever meet in public while with another, ignore them as if you don’t know them, unless they come to you first.
If you are not interested in being someone’s jump off, simply take your time and get to know a person. Follow a rule of five. Five Real DATES to see where this persons thinking head is at. If they are only interested in having sex with you, they won’t make it through the rule of five. If sex is the one thing that attracted you to this person, and you have sex with them soon after the two of you meet, chances are likely that you will be the jump off.
There you have it, in plain english. Theses are the rules– no exceptions– so know your role and play your part.
You’ve heard of it existing. Maybe you believe you have one. But men already know of the power of the pussy and how it can bring him to his knees in ecstasy and in some instances, the poor house.
It’s that moment when your pussy is being stroked, and you hear him moan, “mmm, this is some good pussy” Bamm! That’s your confirmation right there that you have that good good. Sorry to tell you, but… No, it isn’t.
Men put on verbal performances too (yes, men fake pleasure sounds) so, ladies we must pay attention to their body language as well as what we hear.
Read on to discover more ways to make him mean it when he tells you that your pussy is good.
While having intercourse, squeeze, I mean really squeeze those kegel muscles! Squeeze on every up stroke if you can. If you’re too wet or feels too loose, change positions. Make your vagina the victorious one.
There is no such thing as sex just happening. Every morning that you wake up is an opportunity to fuck. Make sure you shower and groom yourself every day in preparation for an impromptu romp. If your daily routine includes the gym after work, keep a fresh pack of cleansing wipes designed specifically for a woman’s delicate and most sensitive area. Give him a sweet treat to eat. Keep some edible dusting powder stored discreetly in a small zippered plastic bag or a stylish compact case. We prefer the small compact case with hidden compartments, but get two, one for our edible powders and another for our condoms.
Go for pussy power! Train your pelvic walls. Do kegel exercises every day, every hour (ok, that may not be possible for some, but on your way to work, in a meeting, during lunch – you get the idea). If you need more resistance for your vaginal walls, purchase pelvic floor exercise tools. They come in different shapes, from eggs to wands, and in a variety of weights.
Keep that kitty pretty. There is no better feeling than undressing and showing off a beautifully adorned kitty cat. As part of your grooming process, consider changing your hair color down there, or trimming your hair in special designs or shapes.
For the woman who loves glitz and glamour, add some sparkling crystals to your pubic area. Don’t worry about the crystals as they have adhesive backings so you can reposition them when they get moved around (and they will) during sex.
Claim your victory for your vagina and you too can have power in your pussy.
If clothes make the man, what does his living space say about him? I’ve wondered this for a while. Think about it, if you’ve ever visited a love interest who said all of the right things, smelled and looked great drove a clean looking ride, and when you get to where they live, you are turned off. The place looks a mess. Wherever you look, you see dirty dishes/laundry/furniture/floor. There is an odor that gets caught in your throat. You dodge vermin and yet they are so comfortable with living like a slob that they are not bothered by your discomfort, at all. They could be the sexiest person on Earth, but if that place is a mess, it doesn’t matter how attractive looking they are, or anything — deals off, I’m out.
Trust me, I am in no way a Felix Unger, nor am I an Oscar Madison, but I do fall happily in the middle, keeping sure my place looks neat and lived in. But what do you do when your potential partner’s place is so unkempt? Do you stay and start to clean up? Or would you think of excuses to leave?
There really is something extra sexy when you visit someone’s home who you are interested in and discover that not only does it look nicely furnished, but it also smells nice. It seems to make the sex incredibly better. Sex is sexier when the place is clean
Seems that I am not the only one who thinks this way. I stumbled across this video recently and it pretty much summed up my thoughts. If the living space is nice, oh yeah, you will be getting some ass. But only if the place is nice.