I need to open up. My best friend is always in love with every man she gets with, we argue all the time that she doesn’t know what love is and that she’s in love with the idea of being in love. I don’t want our friendship to end, but we need help.
What should this person do? Open up to this person. Have you ever been in love with the idea of being in love? Are you the type of person to fall in love easily? Let us know.
Cherry blossoms – a symbol of new beginnings, feminine dominance and beauty
It’s that time again and with the New Year upon us, the New Year brings new things! So many people say “new year, new me” because you get 365 new days to reset the clock and live the life you have always wanted to live! For the New Year, remember to include resolutions to improve your relationship.
Don’t waste another day–in fact, don’t waist another moment! It isn’t necessary to wait for the beginning of the year to start afresh. As a matter of fact, start now! Decide that today is the day and now is the time to focus on enhancing the best you that there is to make you happy and your relationship thrive.
Starting a new workout regimen is great for the new year. When incorporating your workout schedule into your daily life, consider ways to plan for a sex-sational New Year and New You! While you’re pushing yourself to go harder in the gym, think about how much sexier you will look during your orgasms. Yes, yes, and oh yes! More orgasms can improve your physical, mental and emotional health! When you embrace your passionate self, you open the door to undiscovered desires.
Set aside some quiet time to connect with the intellectual beauty that you are, either alone or with your partner. Meditation is great to relieve stress while allowing you to experience a more intimate connection with your lover without penetration.
While lying in bed together, face each other and entwine your legs so the legs are resting scissor style with one another and allow his genitals to rest on her genitals. Relax, breathe deep, and focus on the space the two of you are sharing for a few moments.
Make your workout, part of foreplay
It’s the beginning of the New Year! Let your inhibitions down and like the athletic giant says, “Just Do It”, but do it together! Look at that body! See how hard your partner is working on developing strength and muscles? Yes, now imagine those ripped abs and muscular chest sweating all over your body. Shoot a few knowing glances at your partner. Let him know that after this workout, there will be a post workout at home (unless you can sneak a tryst in on the way). According to Dr. Laura Berman, a leading sex and relationship therapist on OWN, the Oprah Winfrey Network, make a resolution to stay open to the promise of sex even if you aren’t immediately in the mood. Kiss your partner, enjoy his touches, and let your mind delve into fantasy. Stay open to sex and tune into the pleasure of being touched and kissed. You will likely find that your body responds and that you are in the mood after all!
Have more sex, more often. Depending on your sex position, experts say 30 minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. (Ladies, you will burn more calories during sex when you are on top). It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Wow! Orgasm plus weight loss! Yeah, that is a workout by itself!
Spice things up
February is the shortest month to try something new! Think of the freakiest thing you’ve ever wanted to try and go for it! Try a new sex toy – Need a bit of inspiration? Check out Embracedesires.com to get started. Do you want to be restrained? Has the book series 50 Shades of Grey left you wanting to channel your inner Anastasia? You must tell your partner what interests you! Say, “Spank Me”. Be bold and daring, either way, tell your partner. Write it down and leave it as a little love note or, if you can’t leave an actual note, send a text message. Life is too short. Be as uninhibited as you desire with your lover! And oh, have fun with it!
As an added bonus, having sex may be good for your heart. A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex twice or more a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month.
Spend Time Getting to Know What YOU Like
As the old saying goes, “how are you going to love someone if you can’t love yourself” – ok so we paraphrased a bit. Really get to know the one person you’ve been with your entire life! Self-stimulation is a normal, healthy and a wonderful way to get in touch with your hot spots. Be sure to have clean hands and use a high quality lube when pleasuring yourself to make each stroke wonderful. Once you’ve become familiar with what you like, go for mutual masturbation. Simultaneously, stimulate each other. For a unique and erotic experience, stimulate each other without penetration and see who comes to climax first. Winner gets to dominate. For stimulation without risk of a fatigued hand, use vibrating toys just grab the batteries or make sure everything is clean and charged, for clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Men can benefit from the use of a onacup (male masturbation sleeve) with a vibrating bullet. If you don’t know how to love yourself, nobody else will…
What better way to reduce stress than making yourself happy. Natural endorphins released during self-stimulating pleasure can improve your overall mood by improved circulation and relieving stress.
Be Bold and Daring in the Bedroom
Let’s get to the bottom of anal sex and straight men. Many straight guys have preconceived notions about anal play. Mainly, if you derive pleasure from anal stimulation, you must somehow be gay. Guys, you can still have the raging heterosexuality of an NFL offensive line and explore your all of your erogenous zones. The anus is full of sensitive nerve tissue that, when stimulated can bring immense pleasure. Sexual orientation doesn’t change based on pleasure zones. We recommend that you start by experimenting with a well silicone – lubed finger. If you are worried about residue, wear sterile gloves, and then lube your finger with a quality silicone lube. When you and your partner are ready, then you can graduate to anal plugs. Anal plugs with a flare at the end are best if you want to avoid a trip to the ER…”uh, Doc, I was reading this blog a few hours ago and…, well you get the idea. We highly suggest the use of silicone-based lubricants for pleasure during anal sex. The silicone will not be absorbed into your skin as would water-based lubes thus reducing friction and increasing pleasure. Word to the wise – START OFF SLOW! Your ass isn’t going anywhere! If it hurts, take a break.
Having sex, whether anal or vaginal, boosts your immunity. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.
But, What Does That Mouth Do?
Give your partner mind-blowing pleasure throughout the year. Dedicate a time to perfecting your oral skills. Oral sex is one of the most delightful ways couples can give each other pleasure without saying a word. Many men are fans of blow jobs as it gives them intense sexual sensations and can bring him to a pretty intense orgasm. To make him go weak at the knees, when giving him a blow job linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive – the tip of his penis, his testicles and his perineum – the secret spot between the testicles and the anus. To really turn him on, include a quiet, yet powerful vibrating toy in your oral play. Then, blindfold him and tie him up. Gently place the toy under his scrotum (the balls) before you go down on him, then deep throat your man. Ladies, this make him moan with pleasure!
Some studies suggest that women love receiving oral sex also. We have to agree. In fact, 30 to 50 percent of women say they can’t reach an orgasm through intercourse alone. A woman’s clitoris is the most pleasure-sensitive part of her vagina and that’s where you’ll want to devote your attention. In fact, the tiny little clitoris has more sensory nerve endings than the entire penis! Stimulating your partner’s vulva, clitoris and entrance to the vagina using your tongue, lips and mouth will drive her wild, resulting in a super intense orgasm! So, relax and share the pleasure – both giving and receiving to experience a new dimension of sensuality…mmh, mmmh, good!
Why Not Improve Your Mood
Orgasms increase estrogen and endorphin levels which makes you feel good and naturally improves your mood.
Remember the simple days of chatting when you were proud to know what HRU actually meant?
According to CNN teens have become more covert in their online lingo. It’s time the parents knew what they were talking about.
CNN has come up with a list of 28 codes teens are now using some of which adults can use while they’re chatting with their own friends.
IMHO, the shortened versions of chatting drives me nuts, but hey, WDIK?
Here is the complete list of acronyms that CNN insists are sexy code messages.
Here are the three codes that we’ve used:
HRU – How Are You
IMHO – In My Honest Opinion
WDIK – What Do I Know
Have you seen any of these sexting codes before? Which ones have you used? Let us know on Facebook and Twitter.
Focus, Partner, Achieve: An AIDS-Free Generation
On December 1, people throughout the world observe World AIDS Day, an opportunity for the global community to honor those living with HIV; the families, friends, caregivers, and communities who support them; and those who have lost their lives to AIDS.
The theme for 2014 – “Focus, Partner, Achieve: An AIDS-Free Generation” – reflects the drive to focus on interventions that work and partner with a broad range of stakeholders to achieve control of the epidemic and move closer to an AIDS-free generation.
Currently, an estimated 34 million people around the globe are living with AIDS, and 35 million have died from the virus.
“World AIDS Day is a day dedicated to raising awareness of the AIDS pandemic caused by the HIV virus through education on its prevention and control.” qweerty.com
It was the the brain child of two public information officers for the Global Programme at the World Health Organization in Geneva Switzerlan, James W. Bunn and Thomas Netter. They presented heir idea to the Director of the Global Programme of AIDS (UNAIDS in August 1987 who approved it and agreed with Mr. Bunn’s recommendation that the first observance should be December 1. 1988. The date was chosen to maximize coverage of World AIDS Day by western media as it was long enough after the US elections and far enough in advance of the Christmas holidays.
On November 25, 2014, the United States Centers for Disease Control released its latest report on the HIV Continuum of Care in a new edition of Vital Signs, which includes a Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report (MMWR), Vital Signs: HIV Diagnosis, Care, and Treatment Among Persons Living with HIV — United States, 2011, and an accompanying fact sheet, HIV Care Saves Lives, Viral Suppression is Key. Visit the Vital Signs website to learn more. According to the Vital Signs report, of the 1.2 million Americans living with HIV in 2011, less than a third had their virus under control through effective care and treatment.
To find out more about the CDC and it’s efforts, in the fight against AIDS, click here
Initially the theme of World AIDS Day was on children and young people to help remove some of the stigma surrounding AIDS and boost recognition of it as a family disease. It has been very effective in doing just that. In 1997 UNAIDS began a campaign to focus on year round communications, prevention and education. The campaigns have been so effective that Popes John II and Benedict XVI have each released greeting message for patients and doctors on World AIDS Day.
Since 2007, The United States White House has been observing the day with a 28 foot red ribbon, the symbol AIDS, displayed on the buidings’ North Portico. Read and share the U.S Presidential Proclamation recognizing World AIDS Day 2014.
The red ribbon, the familiar symbol of AIDS, was created by a New York based group of artist and AIDS Activists called Visual AIDS Artists Caucus. Their goal was to create a symbol that would demonstrate compassion for people both those who were living with AIDS and their caregivers. Red was chosen because of its “connection to blood and the idea of passion” – anger and love.
Each year the World AIDS Campaign chooses World AIDS Day theme. In 2012 a four year theme was adopted for Worlds Aids Day; Getting To Zero; Zero new HIV infections, Zero deaths from AIDS-related illness, Zero discrimination. The themes are used year long to further awareness and become better educated about this disease. It been very effective as different organizations, governments and individuals are rethinking their idea and treatment of AIDS, AIDS patients and their families.
An example of the Getting to Zero theme being applied is seen in “90-90-90 Initiative” launched by UNAIDS in September of this year to end the AIDS epidemic. The “90-90-90” initiative sets global goals for countries to increase HIV testing so that 90% of all people in that country living with HIV know their status, 90% of those who are HIV positive are offered treatment and 90% of those on antiretoviral medicine are virally suppressed by 2020.
We are so grateful for their efforts and hope that soon, because of their efforts AIDS will be cured.
To find out how you can get more information, including where to get tested and treatment, visit aids.gov
You woke up this morning and realized….it’s over. There’s no going back. You are no longer half of a couple, you are now single.
Single.. in a world of couples. While it may seem like the end of the world, IT. IS. NOT. THE. END. OF. THE. WORLD.
But how would anyone know how to move on after the relationship is over?
First don’t play the blame game. It wasn’t either one’s fault. You simply weren’t meant to be each others ‘forever’ person. It doesn’t’ matter if one was faithful and the other wasn’t, if one was abusive or abused (and abuse occurs whenever a person is made to feel less than of human by another person), or if the relationship stopped ‘feeling’ like a relationship. The simple truth is.. IT’S OVER.
What do you do now? Accept the fact that you haven’t YET met your soulmate. Work on improving YOU so you will be ready when you do meet your ‘forever” person.
Secondly, do not speak negatively to anyone about your ex.
Third, do not wallow in self pity and hurt.
Fourth, do not play the coulda, woulda, shoulda game. There is NOTHING you ‘coulda’ done, ‘woulda’ done or ‘shoulda’ done that would have changed the ultimate demise of the relationship. Most importantly, do not play any games at all. That only hurts and stagnates your emotional and mental growth.
Lastly, do not hold onto every last memento you ever received from your ex. Getting rid of some things helps in the healing process. It is a process where you alone determine the length of the process and its success.
You see, the power is in you to change and grow beyond the raw emotion you feel now.
Avoid emotional suicide; you need time to recover from this temporary situation. Do NOT under any circumstances, jump into another relationship right away! Resist the desire to replace your partner with another until you are emotionally prepared.
Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.
So what do you do? You set a goal for yourself.
YOUR goal is growth – a deeper more powerful positive growth mentally, physically and emotionally.
♥ Take an honest, objective 20/20 hindsight look at the relationship, recognize the good parts of it and if necessary take notes on a legal pad. Embrace the wonderfully cathartic release of emotions this can be.
♥ Think kindly of your ex and all that was brought into the relationship by her/him. These are traits that are dominant in your future soulmate. Learn to appreciate those qualities. But don’t romanticize your ex. After all if it was that good, your ex wouldn’t be your ex right?
♥ Take a deep breath and realize that it is okay to be single. Recognize that you really need the time to recharge your emotional batteries as well as readjust your focus on life. This way you can better equip yourself for your beautiful future.
♥ Work on improving YOU in order for your soulmate to recognize you.
♥ Make changes in your lifestyle.
It’s never too late to make you a better you. And you deserve it, you wonderful person you.
Share with us ways that you were able to move on after your relationship was over
When it comes to satisfying your mate, their pleasure should be your #1 priority. No need to wait for Valentine’s day in February to display love and affection when September is Pleasure Your Mate Month. We, at embracedesires.com, want to make sure that you have what you need to give your mate as much erotic pleasure as they can enjoy — not just for a month, but all year round.
Missionary style sex positions have been performed since you first started having intercourse. Break away from ordinary vanilla sex. Try a new position to reignite passion. Embrace the sensual creature that is within you. It is easy to add mystery and intrigue into your bedroom romp. Get some inspiration from Cosmo’s 28 Mind-Blowing Lesbian Sex Positions. Or simply climb on top of your lover, and just as he thinks he will be entering you as he gazes into your beautiful eyes, turn your body facing away from him giving him a full and wondrous view of all of that junk in your trunk – yes, girl, show off your Badonk! He’ll enjoy a handful of your booty as you ride him 
Reverse Cowgirl style. Yee Haw
Technology has made it challenging to engage in stimulating conversations. Use the advancements that are at your fingertips. Send a flirty (or dirty!) text message to your partner. While you are in the nude, FaceTime your mate, Android users will have to go for video chat, and let them watch you fondle yourself. Don’t have the time to chat? Send them a sultry picture message, don’t worry about prying eyes, there are plenty of apps that can delete your message and your picture after it’s sent.
The bedroom is usually the most convenient location to make love. Change the ambiance is the bedroom is your only option. Pleasure your partner with the lights on if the lights are usually off. Notice the sweat dripping from your partner’s skin. How’s that for arousal?
When you are ready and able to try different locations for your sexual encounters, release your inhibitions and accept your adventurous self (be mindful of any local indecency laws in your area). Try this: Go out for a nice evening –sans panties of course, seize the opportunity for a quick scandalous tryst in the bathroom, alongside a building, on an empty train car, or a park.
If you are more of an indoors type of girl, ride your mate once you park your car in the garage. But hurry before the parking attendant comes checking on you. If you have a garage attached to your home, you are in luck, because you can just have coitus un-interruptus in your own garage.
When you finally make it home, you can have sex right there on the stairs. If you live in an apartment building, you have the heightened adrenaline rush of your neighbors walking up or down the stairs and getting a glimpse of you mid stroke.
Damn those comfy bucket seats that cradles you oh so nicely! They are not the most sex friendly, we know. No one likes having the gearshift pressing so hard against their flesh that it leaves you numb, or your ass honking the horn when it gets soooo good. So it’s climbing into the backseat you two go.
“Love has no limits (but it does have a safe word)”.
Forget sending her roses to turn her on. Surprise her with a set of sexy restraints made from sensual silk. The decadent feel of soft, smooth fabric against her skin as you bind her hands is intoxicating. Make your lover your sex slave, even if it is only for the night. Once you have your partner tied up, reach for a powerful, yet quiet vibrator and stimulate her clitoris, varying the intensity. Ladies, you can blindfold you man and slip a comfortable ring on his (no, not his finger) already stiffening manhood and enjoy his cockiness.
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“To be a gentleman does not depend upon the tailor or the toilet. Good clothes are not good habits. A gentleman is just a gentle – man, — no more, no less; a diamond polished, that was first a diamond in the rough” — William Croswell Doane
When I became a husband, showing affection and treating my wife with kid gloves were things that came naturally. I never realized that my father had planted those ideas in my head years ago. At least I didn’t until my son has started paying attention to the way I treat, not only my wife, but any person of the opposite persuasion.
My son is 9 years old. I first noticed that he was paying attention last year when my wife tore her Achilles. I came home from work and he was tirelessly putting pillows under her ankle and waiting on her every need. I asked him if he was in trouble. Nope. I asked him if he was pushing for an addition to his allowance. Nope. Then why? “Because that’s what you do”, he said. Now I notice when we are out in public that my son regularly opens doors for women. And he will readily note when his kindness is not returned with a thank you.
It makes me 
wonder when I see some of the intolerable behavior men display towards women. And, sadly, I wonder why women put up with it. I’m not just talking about giving flowers on Valentine’s Day. Or picking up the towels after you take a shower. But I mean things like having a candlelight dinner ready before she comes home from work, kids or not. Sneaking little displays of affection like stealing a kiss in the kitchen or a little pat on the backside when you think no one is watching. But that’s the thing. They are. I was. And I loved it. And I’m assuming my son does, too. I see him around other people, especially girls, and he is kind and gentle and almost bashful. And I’m proud of that! He doesn’t need to be a chest thumping macho stud. Just be yourself little man.
Now let’s talk about flowers. I’m not a dozen roses kinda guy. But I will explain one example of how I like to give flowers. My wife was in grad school a few years ago. She had some math problems to do about cows for some kind of research. It was time for her exams so I thought some flowers might make her day. So I went to the florist which was in a strip mall. Next door was a toy store and in the window was the most adorable little stuffed cow. Now I had my wow factor. I went to the florist and told her my idea to see if she could help. No problem. So I went to a book store and found a math word problem about a cow. I went to a gift store and found a greeting card with a cow on it. I made a copy of the cow word problem and pasted it in the cow greeting card. I bought the little toy cow and took it and the card to the florist. She put the cow in a country style basket with daisies and different wildflowers. She had found a little yellow ribbon and put around its neck with a little bell. My wife melted. That basket of flowers with the little cow, which we still have today, meant more to her than any dozen roses for Valentine’s. The long story is, go the extra mile to make it personal.
I have no doubt that my son is watching my actions at home. As I get older, I think about the same thing when my father was alive and how he was with my mom. And I’m thankful that I grew up in that environment. And I’m thankful that my son is watching me. And now that I know he is, my wife is reaping the rewards! Because I’m sure that when my son becomes old enough to start dating, he will know how to treat his girl. Right now the most important thing in his life is his FIFA 14 Xbox game. I tell him to treat Mommy like he treats that video game. I told him you’re always gentle so it doesn’t get broken, you always keep it safe and secure, and you would do anything not to lose it. Yeah, he’s got it.
I wonder about the generations of young men who weren’t so lucky as to learn from their fathers. Because who else are they going to learn from? And I see some of the fathers today with their sons and the behavior or lack thereof. And I say a quiet “thanks, Dad.”
It seems that most people are really turning up their flirting skills. If you are unsure if you have what it takes in your flirting game, do not despair! We will show you three simple techniques to find the love of your life just by flirting!
For those of us who are not yet in a relationship but yearn to have someone to gaze lovingly into our eyes, we have to do some work! Now is the time to put our big girl panties on and get ready to turn the love mojo way up!
You want to get THE one, right? Right! It’s time to put that work in! You have to FLIRT. There is no way around it. Who wants a shy, demure woman out in public when she is trying to catch a man? Sure be a freak in the bed, but by all means, be a lady in the streets! Class is in session and you are about to learn the basics of flirting to find love.
Flirting can be subtle, or it can be blatant; it all depends on the situation. And to perfect your technique, there’s nothing like practice, practice, and more practice. Just have fun with it. Make this your mindset and go about your day taking advantage of every opportunity. Don’t get all hung up on the idea that you’ll look foolish, love is a fool’s game and you got to get in the game!
Eye Contact
Have you ever noticed that when you look at someone long enough, even if they’re facing away from you, they’ll turn and look at you within a minute or so? Well it’s because you’ve sent out your vibe, they feel your gaze. So pick your target, and gaze away until they turn around. And when they do you’ve got to flash your pearly whites and give a huge smile, looking them straight in the eye. What you do next is up to you. If you’re the guy, and they’re alone and smiling back, it’s time to make your move. But if you’re the gal and he’s alone and smiling back, then let him approach you. If he doesn’t then move on, he’s not in the game.
Body Language
Never underestimate the power of body language! We have all been told time and time again when we were younger, “Sit up Straight” or “Pay Attention when I am talking to you”. That also holds true when you are flirting. If you are looking to make a love connection, it is important to have posture that conveys the message “hey, I like you” and “I am interested in what you are saying”. If a possible mate approaches you, whether you are standing or sitting, make sure that your arms are not folded across your chest. That is a sure sign that says “back off – I am sooo not interested”. Instead of having your arms at your sides like a soldier, relax. If they extend their hand to shake yours, gently and gingerly (remember to be ladylike) place your hand in theirs and let it rest long enough to give the message that you like how your skin feels next to yours. This is not the time to show off a firm handshake, this is you searching for love, not a job.
Grooming
What does grooming have to do with the basics of flirting? You are flirting to find love, yes. But you want to look and smell good doing it. You are seeking to attract, not offend. Don’t take the little things for granted. Before going out to meet someone, keep in your desk or handbag the following items:
Now that you have mastered the three basic skills of flirting, you will need a new smartphone to store all of your contacts.
Improving Relationships, One Fucking Couple at a Time 