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Open Up – Who are you calling a FREAK? Sometimes, you need to set the record straight

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I wanted to get this off of my chest.  Why aren’t people truly comfortable with their sexuality?

In hushed whispers, and secret online groups, people will discuss how much of a “freak” they are, yet don’t own any sex toys.  Not to say that owning sex toys (or a sex toy company) automatically makes you a “freak” it just shows that you are open to alternative sexual adventures.  I love sex toys and all of the sensual accessories that compliment them, but I don’t consider myself to be a “freak”. That term really puts my panties in a bunch.  I’m sexually explorative.  As long as it doesn’t involve children, animals or illegal acts, I’ll try it at least once.  And very proud of that fact.  I have embraced my desire to explore sexually stimulating and pleasure enhancing activities.  Shit, I’m grown. Or so, I am told.

But when I meet someone new and they discover the products that I have in my stash, all of a sudden, I’m a freak.  Get over it already.  Thanks to the internet, most people I know that are sexually active do far more exploring than I have ever done.  Ever.  And then there are those who haven’t done a third of what I’ve done.

I have discovered that some cultures embrace the natural progression from innocence to knowledge when it comes to sexual experiences, whereas others simply do not.

I recall reading this Awesome book filled with many Great stories and one of the stories told was of this Man who said “let he who is without sin, cast the first stone” and surprisingly no stone was tossed.  Let this be a lesson.

New Year. New You. Why You Should Plan For Healthier Relationships

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Cherry blossoms – a symbol of new beginnings, feminine dominance and beauty

It’s that time again and with the New Year upon us, the New Year brings new things! So many people say “new year, new me” because you get 365 new days to reset the clock and live the life you have always wanted to live! For the New Year, remember to include resolutions to improve your relationship.

Don’t waste another day–in fact, don’t waist another moment! It isn’t necessary to wait for the beginning of the year to start afresh. As a matter of fact, start now!  Decide that today is the day and now is the time to focus on enhancing the best you that there is to make you happy and your relationship thrive.

Starting a new workout regimen is great for the new year.  When incorporating your workout schedule into your daily life, consider ways to  plan for a  sex-sational New Year and New You! While you’re pushing yourself to go harder in the gym, think about how much sexier you will look during your orgasms. Yes, yes, and oh yes! More orgasms can improve your physical, mental and emotional health! When you embrace your passionate self, you open the door to undiscovered desires.

Set aside some quiet time to connect with the intellectual beauty that you are, either alone or with your partner.  Meditation is great to relieve stress while allowing you to experience a more intimate connection with your lover without penetration.

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While lying in bed together, face each other and entwine your legs so the legs are resting scissor style with one another and allow his genitals to rest on her genitals.  Relax, breathe deep, and focus on the space the two of you are sharing for a few moments.

Make your workout, part of foreplay

It’s the beginning of the New Year! Let your inhibitions down and like the athletic giant says, “Just Do It”, but do it together!  Look at that body! See how hard your partner is working on developing strength and muscles?  Yes, now imagine those ripped abs and muscular chest sweating all over your body.  Shoot a few knowing glances at your partner.  Let him know that after this workout, there will be a post workout at home (unless you can sneak a tryst in on the way). According to Dr. Laura Berman, a leading sex and relationship therapist on OWN, the Oprah Winfrey Network, make a resolution to stay open to the promise of sex even if you aren’t immediately in the mood. Kiss your partner, enjoy his touches, and let your mind delve into fantasy. Stay open to sex and tune into the pleasure of being touched and kissed. You will likely find that your body responds and that you are in the mood after all!

Have more sex, more often. Depending on your sex position, experts say 30 minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. (Ladies, you will burn more calories during sex when you are on top). It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Wow! Orgasm plus weight loss!  Yeah, that is a workout by itself!

Spice things up

February is the shortest month to try something new! Think of the freakiest thing you’ve ever wanted to try and go for it! Try a new sex toy – Need a bit of inspiration? Check out Embracedesires.com to get started. Do you want to be restrained? Has the book series 50 Shades of Grey left you wanting to channel your inner Anastasia? You must tell your partner what interests you! Say, “Spank Me”. Be bold and daring, either way, tell your partner. Write it down and leave it as a little love note or, if you can’t leave an actual note, send a text message. Life is too short.  Be as uninhibited as you desire with your lover! And oh, have fun with it!

As an added bonus, having sex may be good for your heart. A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex twice or more a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month.

Spend Time Getting to Know What YOU Like

As the old saying goes, “how are you going to love someone if you can’t love yourself” – ok so we paraphrased a bit.  Really get to know the one person you’ve been with your entire life!  Self-stimulation is a normal, healthy and a wonderful way to get in touch with your hot spots. Be sure to have clean hands and  use a high quality lube when pleasuring yourself to make each stroke wonderful. Once you’ve become familiar with what you like, go for mutual masturbation. Simultaneously, stimulate each other.  For a unique and erotic experience, stimulate each other without penetration and see who comes to climax first. Winner gets to dominate. For stimulation without risk of a fatigued hand, use vibrating toys just grab the batteries or make sure everything is clean and charged, for clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Men can benefit from the use of a onacup (male masturbation sleeve) with a vibrating bullet. If you don’t know how to love yourself, nobody else will…

What better way to reduce stress than making yourself happy.  Natural endorphins released during self-stimulating pleasure can improve your overall mood by improved circulation and relieving stress.

Be Bold and Daring in the Bedroom

Let’s get to the bottom of anal sex and straight men. Many straight guys have preconceived notions about anal play. Mainly, if you derive pleasure from anal stimulation, you must somehow be gay. Guys, you can still have the raging heterosexuality of an NFL offensive line and explore your all of your erogenous zones. The anus is full of sensitive nerve tissue that, when stimulated can bring immense pleasure. Sexual orientation doesn’t change based on pleasure zones. We recommend that you start by experimenting with a well silicone –  lubed finger.  If you are worried about residue, wear sterile gloves, and then lube your finger with a quality silicone lube.  When you and your partner are ready, then you can graduate to anal plugs. Anal plugs with a flare at the end are best if you want to avoid a trip to the ER…”uh, Doc, I was reading this blog a few hours ago and…, well you get the idea.  We highly suggest the use of silicone-based lubricants for pleasure during anal sex. The silicone will not be absorbed into your skin as would water-based lubes thus reducing friction and increasing pleasure. Word to the wise – START OFF SLOW! Your ass isn’t going anywhere!  If it hurts, take a break.

Having sex, whether anal or vaginal, boosts your immunity. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.

But, What Does That Mouth Do?

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Give your partner mind-blowing pleasure throughout the year. Dedicate a time to perfecting your oral skills. Oral sex is one of the most delightful ways couples can give each other pleasure without saying a word. Many men are fans of blow jobs as it gives them intense sexual sensations and can bring him to a pretty intense orgasm. To make him go weak at the knees, when giving him a blow job linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive – the tip of his penis, his testicles and his perineum – the secret spot between the testicles and the anus. To really turn him on, include a quiet, yet powerful vibrating toy in your oral play.  Then, blindfold him and tie him up.  Gently place the toy under his scrotum (the balls) before you go down on him, then deep throat your man. Ladies, this make him moan with pleasure!

Some studies suggest that women love receiving oral sex also. We have to agree.  In fact, 30 to 50 percent of women say they can’t reach an orgasm through intercourse alone. A woman’s clitoris is the most pleasure-sensitive part of her vagina and that’s where you’ll want to devote your attention. In fact, the tiny little clitoris has more sensory nerve endings than the entire penis! Stimulating your partner’s vulva, clitoris and entrance to the vagina using your tongue, lips and mouth will drive her wild, resulting in a super intense orgasm! So, relax and share the pleasure – both giving and receiving to experience a new dimension of sensuality…mmh, mmmh, good!

Why Not Improve Your Mood

Orgasms increase estrogen and endorphin levels which makes you feel good and naturally improves your mood.

 

 

These Stylish and Luxurious Sex Toys Are Made to be Seen in Public

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Luxurious and stylish sexy accessories to enjoy in and out of the bedroom.

Gone are the days of hiding your sex toys. Innovative and forward-thinking companies have designed sex toys and accessories that are made to be viewed and enjoyed out in public.

Now when you get ready for your evening out, you don’t have to hide all of your sexy accoutrements.

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Temporary Tattoos

We know that temporary tattoos aren’t necessarily a sex toy, but they certainly are sexy!


Desir Metallic – Gold Collar

When Bijoux Indiscrets came onto the scene years ago, we knew they were going to be a hit.  This  provocative and sophisticated brand of erotic products from Spain has many luxe looking and affordable pieces for women.

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Bijoux Indiscrets – Desir Metallique

BELLA Couture Lingerie Ladies Harness

ladies harness, couture lingerie spareparts bella harnessBella is a distinctly dangerous blend of sensuality, sophistication, and drama—and the most intoxicating lingerie harness we have seen yet!  From the midnight rendezvous to the morning motorcycle ride, Bella’s ready. With BELLA, everything smolders: delicate stretchable lace, a cascading bow, and the perfect peek of rear cleavage. Bella cuts a stunning silhouette—and casts a spell impossible to shake. Bella’s breathable, barely-there fabric is luxuriously soft and ideal for all-day wear.


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No rendezvous is complete without a little bit of role play. Let the fantasy become a reality with Christian Grey’s Tie. Made from luxurious silver and grey quilting, it’s a soft and versatile accessory that can be enjoyed both in and out of the bedroom.

 

 

 

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Cock Rings 101 or Why a Man Should wear A Cock Ring – Intense Orgasms, of Course!

Cock Ring 101. Intense Orgasms, Look Bigger.  Yes,  A Cock Ring Will Do That for YOU!

If you or your man ever wanted to experience more intense orgasms, he should wear a cock ring. Here are some basic rules why a man should wear a cock ring.  Some men who have never worn a cock ring before (gasp!  I know)  wonder why should they.  We are here to give you reasons why you should wear a cock ring.

Cock rings are designed to maintain erections and possibly create more intense orgasms.  They are worn around the base of the penis, or around the penis and testicles, and restrict the blood flow from leaving the penis.  Awesome, Right?  Cock rings can also be a fun and exciting addition to anyone’s sex life, whether with a parnter or flying solo.

But you want us to tell you WHY you should wear a cock ring?  What are good reasons to wear one.  Ok, read on…

feels good 150x150 Cock Rings 101 or Why a Man Should wear A Cock Ring   Intense Orgasms They feel good.  It’s almost like the penis and testicles have a firm grip around them.

It can make the penis look – dare we say –  BIGGER and maybe even LONGER

Cock rings can help the man who has trouble staying hard.
Gives you more intense orgasms. Gives you longer, firmer erections.

Now for some of the fun stuff.  Do you know that there is a method to measuring yourself or your man for the perfect fit?  Yes!  Just as women need to be sized for the perfect engagement/wedding ring, men should be properly fitted for a cock ring.

MEASURING

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To find the right ring size, take a piece of string (the same way if you needed to sneak at finding her ring size) and wrap it around the base of an ERECT penis, giving you the circumference.  For rings worn around the penis and testicles, measure and wrap around behind

the testicles and as close to the body as you can while the penis is ERECT for the circumference.  Because ring sizes are given in diameter, you will need to divide this number by Pi (3.14 – don’t worry if you were cutting class that day, we will help you figure it out).

For example:  If the penis measures 6″ ÷ 3.14 =1.91. You will need a ring that is smaller that 1.91″ but within .25″ – .5″ to ensure a comfortable fit without constricting too much.

STYLE OF COCK RING

The style of the cock ring that you select should have a firm enough grip around the penis to restict blood flow, yet comfortable enough so that it does not completely cut blood circulation of entirely.

PUTTING ON A COCK RING

Adjustable cock rings can be put on any time during an erection by simply strething or strapping the ring so that it fits snuggly around the base of the penis or behind the testicles.  Since they are flexible, they can also be removed easily at any time.

Firm non-adjustable rings:

Always start with a flaccid (non erect) penis

Holding the ring under the testicles, insert one at a time

Pull the penis through the ring and adjust for comfort.

To remove the ring, the penis must be flaccid, and simply reverse the process.

HOW LONG SHOULD I WEAR A COCK RING?

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To prevent damage or bruising to the penis, a ring should not completely restrict the blood flow for longer than 20 minutes at a time.  If discomfort is felt at any time, the ring should be removed as quickly and gently as possible.

We are pleased to offer both Adjustable and Non Adjustable style cock rings in a variety of materials.  Visit our Men’s Store to find cock rings, penis jewelry and other sensual accessories just for men at The Men’s Store

Adjustable – great for beginners.  They allow the user to experience what a penis ring can offer, while being able to remove them quickly if the sensations become too intense. These styles can be worn at the base of the penis or behind the testicles.

Non-Adjustable – Firm ring that have little or no flexibility for more advanced users who have experimented with rings before and are familiar with how intense the sensations can get.  These are usually worn behind the testicles.

Just a Quick Note About Us

What inspires you, inspires Us.

The inspiration for Embracedesires started with white sheets covered in rose petals… candle flames dancing eagerly against the shadows. The vision continued with a bottle of massage oil and strong hands pressed against waiting flesh… flesh held taught by tantalizing nipple clamps and tongue tingling nip balm. The moment continued with a vibrating probe eagerly reaching and teasing wet mounds. A massaging couples ring adding to the penetrating pulse of the moment.

Since 2003 we’ve specialized in intimate products and sensual accessories that are designed to indulge your most passionate moments. We believe the visual imagery of any product is just as important as the performance. So instead of gaudy, we sought out gorgeous. We looked for luscious and sensuous.

Products that not only bring you to the brink of eyes rolled back, but that look delightful… taste delicious… and seat you first-class within your favorite fantasies. Over the years, the product lines we carry have always reflected these values.

We embrace free spirits, be you male or female, who seek sumptuous choices in their sex product collection. Those midnight riders who know that one way to man’s heart is sliding seductively down a stripper pole. Those seeking domineering delights filled with arms handcuffed to the headboard… feet spread eagle and bondage taped… and a Please Sir flogger stinging to sweet submission.

If this is you, the door is open. Step inside and be delighted…

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Oh No We Don’t!

embrace desiresOne of the interesting things about working with the embracedesires team, besides discovering new and exciting playthings for our boudoirs, would be our conversations.  We recently talked about the variety of sex toys on the market and how improved they have become over the years.  One of our friends joined the conversation and brought up the old, hard plastic and jelly-type dildos from decades ago (*gasp!  Do people still use these?) and asked “Why doesn’t embracedesires carry them as a cheaper option for our consumers.”  After being picked up off of the floor from passing out (OK, so we were a little bit dramatic), and with all of the glam and fabulosity of our inner drag queen, we said…

People care about what goes into their bodies and we’re not talking about calories.

That’s why the team at embracedesires.com follows the rule of Oh No, we don’t! We don’t carry cheap quality merchandise. Period. We don’t carry low-grade porous products. You won’t find those jiggly, wiggly jelly dongs or other silly “insertables” you often find at some adult parties.  We don’t apologize for being adults who care.

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For one, we don’t carry products that contain potentially harmful chemicals, like phthalates.

We don’t carry products that remove sensation during sex.  You are supposed to feel every delectable, nuance that being intimate offers.  If, during sex, something hurts or you are uncomfortable doing something, stop doing it.  It’s your body’s natural reaction to danger.

We only carry products from manufacturers that use high quality materials such as medical grade, body safe silicone, erotic glass, stainless steel, and yes, even wood. Many products found on our site are also free from parabens.

We tell you this to let you know: We do care.  We care about you. That is why we offer high quality sensual products to enhance your sex life at affordable prices.

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Tattoo Your Taboo – Being Freak-y is Fabulous

Why aren’t people really comfortable with their sexuality?
In hushed whispers, people will discuss how much of a “freak” they are, but don’t own any sex toys. Not to say that owning sex toys (or a sex toy company) automatically makes you a “freak”, it just shows that you are open to alternative sexual experiences. I love sex toys and all of the sensual accessories that compliment them, but I don’t consider myself to be a “freak”. That term really puts my panties in a bunch. When I was growing up, the only reference to freaks were either in the circus or other sideshow anomaly. I’m no circus performer, nor do I swallow deadly stainless steel swords. (Swallowing other large objects… well, that is another story).  I’m a lover of erotic pleasures. I’m sexually explorative, and very proud of it.  I have embraced my desire to explore sexually stimulating and pleasure enhancing activities. Shit, I’m grown. At least my age says that I am.

The one thing that I marvel at are people who act like they don’t indulge in sex or those people who act like sexcessories are taboo.

Go to any adult novelty store or party and you will find hordes of horny adult women, all of various ages, giggling like little girls over the extensive variety and massive dildos, the sensual oils (perhaps the fantasy of a pair of strong hands rubbing all over their body does wonders) and tasty edibles (are we really still grossed out by the taste of sperm?  Masque it already)

So you know what I say? ”Tattoo your Taboo!” (figuratively of course, however, whether you choose to actually do so is ENTIRELY up to you). Wear it like a badge of honor, own up to it. Let’s dress it up and take the sting out of the word and make it ours.
And let’s face it, circus freaks are called ”freaks” because they are out of the ordinary, uncommon, and entertaining. So when you’re considered ”freak-y” you’re extraordinary! No sexual encounter of any kind leaves a lasting impression if it has been the same old thing. But If you want to do away with the label altogether all you have to do is remember this one thing. The next time someone calls you a “Freak” simply tell them: “No… you’re just boring”.

I’m feeling like a kid in a candy store.  Or perhaps more like a sex addict in a sex toy shop.  Man, was I excited to find out that we would be carrying the Booty Parlor brand once again.  Especially that Pink Caviar Body Scrub with Pheromones!  Image

I mean, I love eating caviar.  It reminds me of the lavish holiday parties my former fiance’ would take me to and I would find the servers with the tiny cucumber rounds with a dollop of creme fraiche, topped with caviar and sipping on champagne all while wearing over priced lingerie. mmmmm.  deliciously decadent.

Every time I think of caviar, or have some to snack on, I anticipate incredible sex.  Go figure.  Perhaps that is why I became so turned on when I saw the caviar scrub by Booty Parlor.  Caviar AND pheromones, together?  What better combination?  After all, caviar is filled with essential minerals and nutrients as it makes your skin look great.  Then you have the pheromones attracting the attention of a potential suitor, hey, what could be better?

Ok, so I love the decadent, the luxurious, and the extravagant.  I deserve it all and so do you.  That is why we are proud to offer Booty Parlor to you.

indulge.

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