Improving Relationships, One Fucking Couple at a Time

Improving Relationships, One Fucking Couple at a Time


Valentines Day

Want to Be a Better Lover? Get Rid of Bedroom Clutter in 4 Easy Steps

With most couples sex is a very important part of the relationship, as well as where the sex takes place. Many people like to be adventurous and try new things and new places. That was great before careers, cameras, and kids came into the picture.   Now, in our adult reality, we all know the most intercourse between couples takes place in the bedroom. So get ready to be a better lover, because we are about to help you get rid of the clutter!
Your bedroom should be an inviting playroom for sex.

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When you look at your bedroom what do you see? Exercise equipment that has turned into a coat rack? Children’s toy’s and other clutter that is preventing you from being the best lover .
What about that brand new flat screen tv?  While all of these things may seem like creature comforts, they are actually mental distractions to what could be amazing, mind blowing sex!
The wonderful design experts at IBB Design Fine Furnishings have some great tips to start a bedroom makeover.
If clothes make the man, then his living space should also be indicative of who he is as well. If you’ve ever visited a potential lover’s house, only to discover that the place is a mess, guess what…Big Turn Off!  Dirty dishes in the sink, clothes on the floor, or worse, critters — roaches, rodents, even the occasional filthy roommate is a big no no.
Your(potential) lover could be the sexiest man alive (Hi Idris Elba), but if that living space is a wreck, you’ve just ruined your chance at intimacy.
There really is something sexy about visiting someone’s home for the first time in anticipation of getting laid.
But, your partner can’t relax in a messy place.

A few tips to tidy up your place to make sure you are the best lover possible.

  1. Fumigate –  If you know that those crawling, disgustingly unwelcome guests (we’re not talking about your roommate) in your house always make an appearance when you are trying to get lucky, and if time time permits, call an exterminator – or just  do it yourself
  2. Dust – Believe it or not, dust collects EVERY day.  Dust the baseboards, TV’s, counters and your dresser.  it will make a huge difference.
  3. Organize – Put away all of your clothes.  If they don’t fit in your closetor dresser where the doors/drawers can close, invest in storage containers to fit your adult lifestlye.
  4. Aromatics – We are visual creatures, yes, but there is nothing more stimulating to the senses than the olfactory delight of a sophisticated and seductive scent to tantalize and entice your lover. Light a candle and set the mood.  Inhale the sensual bouquet and watch the mesmerizing flicker of the flame as your guest warms up to you even more.

We want to hear from you!  Tell us in the comments how you make your room attractive to a potential lover.

4 Simple Steps for Attracting and Keeping Love (before and after Valentine’s Day)

Ahh, Valentines Day; a day devoted to displays of affection. Yet it can be a depressingly heart-wrenching day of the year if  you are not in a passionate relationship. Uggh. You wish there was a magic spell to cast for finding true love and happiness.

“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.” — Ann Landers

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You’ve done it all. Blind dates, supermarket stakeouts, and the online dating scene, yet you still strike out when it comes to finding l’amour.  We go to extremes trying to attract the perfect mate: tucking things, plucking thing, taping things, dying and frying things to get that special someone to notice you.  It’s frustrating to say the least. What’s worse is that even the mean cross-eyed receptionist in the doctors office is now engaged.

Your last resort would be to try and conjure up a love spell. Do they work?  Who knows.

Take heart.  Love requires planning and maneuvering.   Now is the time that you take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself, what signals am I sending out?

But before you cross the enchanted bridge and begin to entice the divine powers, envision the person you want to become in order to attract the love that you want.

  • Light a soft pink candle.
  • Relax in a tub filled with sea salt and essential oils, like chamomile, Jasmine, lavender, rosemary, or rose.
  • Visualize white light surrounding you and begin meditating on how you can improve yourself.
  • Cover your bed in red or pink petals, and enjoy all of you, that you have to offer.

We’ve done crazy things to invoke the love goddess and did everything we could to welcome Cupid into our life.  What have you done to attract love?  Tell us:




Aphrodisiac Drinks to Stimulate Your Senses

Aprodisiac : n – arousing sexual desire. From the Greek word relating to love or desire.

Aphrodisiac drinks are a great way to add naturally stimulating ingredients to boost your libido.  Adding alcohol to your libations help you relax and get you in the mood.  Make a toast with that special someone, even if that special someone is YOU, with any one of these seductive concoctions.  With ingredients like cardamom, ginger, these drinks are sure to arouse sexual desires.

Cupid’s Kiss

Courtesy of  Lords of the Drinks

Cupid's Kiss image -Lords of the Drinks
Cupid’s Kiss image -Lords of the Drinks

How can a cocktail with this name not lead to success right?!? The first girl that doesn’t like chocolate, the main ingredient of this drink, probably still hasn’t been born. Chocolate is also a major aphrodisiac – just like cherries – and in combination with alcohol you have a dangerous weapon on your hands.
1.5 parts wild cherry infused vodka
1.5 part coconut flavored vodka
1.5 part dark chocolate liqueur
1 splash of chocolate syrup
cocoa powder
Preparation: Put the vodka’s, chocolate and chocolate syrup in an iced shaker and shake it vigorously. Pour in a chocolate rimmed cocktail glass and add cocoa to the rim to finish this drink off.

How can you resist the alluring scent of cardamom?  Cardamom is a nicely aromatic spice. In many cultures and mystic circles it is viewed as an intensely powerful aphrodisiac.  These ingredients combined turn this sophisticated drink into a romantic soft pink shade.

Cardamom Rose Cocktail: cardamom rose drink design spong

courtesy Design Sponge


1.5 oz of Hendrick’s gin (this is a rose and cucumber infused gin)

.75 oz of rose water syrup

.25 oz of fresh lemon juice

.75 oz of fresh grapefruit juice (ruby red preferably)

2 dashes of Peychauds bitters

1 cardamom pod


1) Lightly muddle 1 cardamom pod at the bottom of shaker (not too much muddling or it will overpower the drink)

2) Add the rest of the ingredients

3) Add ice

4) Shake for 20 seconds

5) Strain over fresh ice to remove the cardamom pod

6) Add a splash of seltzer water

7) Garnish with rose petals or fresh lemon wedge (use organic if possible)

Honeymoon honey wineHoneymoon Martini

courtesy of Honeymoon Honey Wine

3 oz Honeymoon Honey Wine
2 Maraschino Cherries
1.5 oz Premium Vodka
2 Dashes Grenadine
Pour Honeymoon Honey Wine®, Premium Vodka and Two Dashes of Grenadine into a cocktail shaker half-filled with ice. Place the cherries into a chilled cocktail glass. Shake well and strain the honeymoon mixture
over the cherries. The Honeymoon Martini is Pink & Sweet

Honeymoon Honey Wine Martini
Honeymoon Honey Wine Martini
Looking for more?  Check out these Libido Boosting Recipes to compliment your aphrodisiac drinks.
After all is said and done, remember, the best aphrodisiacs are words.  Tell your significant other how much they mean to you.
Leave a comment below on your favorite aphrodisiac to get you in the mood.

Celebrate Love Before Valentine’s Day

September is Pleasure Your Mate Month


When it comes to satisfying your mate, their pleasure should be your #1 priority. No need to wait for Valentine’s day in February to display love and affection when September is Pleasure Your Mate Month. We, at, want to make sure that you have what you need to give your mate as much erotic pleasure as they can enjoy — not just for a month, but all year round.

New Positions

Missionary style sex positions have been performed since you first started having intercourse. Break away from ordinary vanilla sex. Try a new position to reignite passion. Embrace the sensual creature that is within you. It is easy to add mystery and intrigue into your bedroom romp. Get some inspiration from Cosmo’s 28 Mind-Blowing Lesbian Sex Positions. Or simply climb on top of your lover, and just as he thinks he will be entering you as he gazes into your beautiful eyes, turn your body facing away from him giving him a full and wondrous view of all of that junk in your trunk – yes, girl, show off your Badonk! He’ll enjoy a handful of your booty as you ride him sex positions Bronzed reverse cowgirl embracedesires Reverse Cowgirl style. Yee Haw

Different Locations

Talk That Talk

Technology has made it challenging to engage in stimulating conversations. Use the advancements that are at your fingertips. Send a flirty (or dirty!) text message to your partner.  While you are in the nude, FaceTime your mate, Android users will have to go for video chat, and let them watch you fondle yourself.  Don’t have the time to chat?  Send them a sultry picture message, don’t worry about prying eyes, there are plenty of apps that can delete your message and your picture after it’s sent.

The bedroom is usually the most convenient location to make love. Change the ambiance is the bedroom is your only option. Pleasure your partner with the lights on if the lights are usually off. Notice the sweat dripping from your partner’s skin. How’s that for arousal?



Be Aware of Your Surroundings

When you are ready and able to try different locations for your sexual encounters, release your inhibitions and accept your adventurous self (be mindful of any local indecency laws in your area). Try this: Go out for a nice evening –sans panties of course, seize the opportunity for a quick scandalous tryst in the bathroom, alongside a building, on an empty train car, or a park.


If you are more of an indoors type of girl, ride your mate once you park your car in the garage. But hurry before the parking attendant comes checking on you. If you have a garage attached to your home, you are in luck, because you can just have coitus un-interruptus in your own garage.


When you finally make it home, you can have sex right there on the stairs. If you live in an apartment building, you have the heightened adrenaline rush of your neighbors walking up or down the stairs and getting a glimpse of you mid stroke.



Damn those comfy bucket seats that cradles you oh so nicely! They are not the most sex friendly, we know. No one likes having the gearshift pressing so hard against their flesh that it leaves you numb, or your ass honking the horn when it gets soooo good. So it’s climbing into the backseat you two go.


Because Toys, ARE Us!

“Love has no limits (but it does have a safe word)”.

Forget sending her roses to turn her on. Surprise her with a set of sexy restraints made from sensual silk. The decadent feel of soft, smooth fabric against her skin as you bind her hands is intoxicating. Make your lover your sex slave, even if it is only for the night. Once you have your partner tied up, reach for a powerful, yet quiet vibrator and stimulate her clitoris, varying the intensity. Ladies, you can blindfold you man and slip a comfortable ring on his (no, not his finger) already stiffening manhood and enjoy his cockiness.

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Simple and Easy Steps to Make Chocolate Vodka Infused Strawberries

Chocolate Vodka Infused Strawberries

“Do Not Arouse or Awaken Love until it so Desires”

One of the sweetest things about Valentine’s day is our desire to indulge in some of nature’s greatest gifts: Chocolate, Strawberries and Cream.

Strawberry dripping cream off spoon_embracedesiresAh, you’ve seen them in store windows, and you’ve drooled over the shiny chocolate that envelops the juicy, succulent berry.  Perhaps you thought about making your own version.  This is where we come in.  Instead of trying to make the perfect blend of oil and chocolate to cover your strawberry, savor the flavor with each bite of the chocolate INSIDE of the fruit.  This is a simple five step process to make and enjoy chocolate soaked strawberries.

You will need:

  • Strawberries
  • Fork
  • Large clean jar with lid
  • Favorite chocolate infused vodka
  • Cream (either whipped or fresh)
  1. Grab a carton of strawberries and wash.  You will need enough to taste along the way.  Strawberries are a delicate fruit, so be careful when washing them.
  2. Gently Poke a few holes in the strawberries to allow the vodka to soak in quicker (yummy).
  3. Place the strawberries in the large clean jar and pour as much of the chocolate infused vodka over the strawberries to cover them.  Place lid on jar.
  4. Refrigerate anywhere from 1 – 24 hours (the longer they soak, the stronger the taste – but sample a berry after an hour or so).
  5. When you are ready to surprise your partner (or indulge in your own decadent treat), remove from refrigerator, drain the strawberries over a coffee liner or strainer and pat dry.

Enjoy with fresh or whipped cream.

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Flirting 101 – Three Simple Techniques to Find Love by Flirting

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and cupid appears to be shooting people in the Finding love on Valentine's Dayass everywhere you turn.  Now is the time when most people really go on the hunt to find love and turn up their flirting skills.  If you are unsure if you have what it takes in your flirting game, do not despair!  We will show you three simple techniques to find the love of your life just by flirting!

For those of us who are not yet in a relationship but yearn to have someone to gaze lovingly into our eyes, we have to do some work, honey!  Now is the time to put our big girl panties on and get ready to turn the love mojo way up!

Find Mr RIGHTYou are tired of settling for just anyone. You want to get THE RIGHT ONE, right.  It’s time to put that work in!  You have to FLIRT.  There is no way around it.  Who wants a shy, demure woman out in public?  Sure be a freak in the bed, but by all means, be a lady in the streets!  Class is in session and you are about to learn the basics of flirting to find love.

Flirting can be subtle, or it can be blatant; it all depends on the situation.  And to perfect your technique, there’s nothing like practice, practice, and more practice.  Just have fun with it.  Make this your mindset and go about your day taking advantage of every opportunity.  Don’t get all hung up on the idea that you’ll look foolish,

Love is a fool’s game and you got to get in the game!

Eye Contact –  Have you ever noticed that when you look at someone long enough, even if they’re facing away from you, they’ll turn and look at you within a minute or so?  Well it’s because you’ve sent out your vibe, they feel your stare.  So pick your target, and gaze away until they turn around.  And when they do you’ve got to flash your pearly whites and give a huge smile, looking them straight in the eye.  What you do next is up to you.  If you’re the guy, and they’re alone and smiling back, it’s time to make your move.  But if you’re the gal and he’s alone and smiling back, then let him approach you.  If he doesn’t then move on, he’s not in the game.

FlirtingBody Language

We have all been told time and time again when we were younger, “Sit up Straight” or “Pay Attention when I am talking to you”.  That same reasoning also holds true when you are flirting.  If you are looking to make a love connection, it is important to have posture that conveys the message “hey, I like you” and “I am interested in what you are saying”.  If a possible mate approaches you, whether you are standing or sitting, make sure that your arms are not folded across your chest.  That is a sure sign that says “back off – I am sooo not interested”.  Instead of having your arms at your sides like a soldier, relax.  If they extend their hand to shake yours, gently and gingerly (remember to be ladylike) place your hand in theirs and let it rest long enough to give the message that you like how your skin feels next to yours.  This is not the time to show off a firm handshake, this is you searching for love, not a job.


What does grooming have to do with the basics of flirting?  You are flirting to find love, yes.  But you want to look and smell good doing it.  You are seeking to attract, not to offend. Don’t take the little things for granted.  Before going out to meet someone, keep in your desk or handbag the following items:

  1. Primping_mirror_Grace-Kelly_embracedesiresA compact mirror – do a double check on your appearance or use your car mirror and make sure that:
  • there isn’t any leftover food stuck in between your teeth
  • your makeup looks great
  • your hair is in place
  • there are no stains on your clothes

2.  Breath mints or small travel sized bottle of mouthwash

3.  Deodorant – you won’t believe how many of us have rushed out of the house forgetting to put on some anti-perspirant/deodorant before leaving the house.

Share with your friends.  Come back and let us know how these three basic techniques for flirting helped you find love.

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Things to do for your partner on Valentines Day

Do it the Write way

Write a love note, or a few simple phrases on a blank card or nice paper and leave it for them to see.

Take a Vacation

Unable to take that fantasy vacation? Find a quiet place somewhere in your house, then transform it with pictures or cushions. Or take a trip to your local botanical garden, beach, lake or park and call it your own “paradise”. Don’t forget to bundle up if it’s cold.

Include the family

For those with children, include them in this special celebration of love.  Give them little candies and cards.  Or set aside time to make cards and special meals together.

Throw caution to the wind

If you don’t mind the crowds or the wait go to your favorite restaurant. If you forgot to or just cannot get reservations to your favorite restaurant, check the local listings of culinary school students who are willing to cater your favorite or new favorite meal.

Most importantly, show your partner and your family love every day.  Don’t wait for a specific date to celebrate. Be affectionate to one another.  Be afraid not of what others will think if you are; concern yourself when you cease to shower your partner with love.

Hope for the single person

You are not alone.  Call up some of your friends who are also without partners or for those whose partners can’t be with them on Valentine’s Day). Have a potluck “Love Celebration”.  Celebrate friendships, companionship, celebrate life.

Toast to all the loves you all have had and toast to the love yet to come.

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