Improving Relationships, One Fucking Couple at a Time

Improving Relationships, One Fucking Couple at a Time



Male Menopause – When Your Man is on His Period

He’s tried performance enhancing pills and nothing works.  He’s tired.  He’s moody.  He  won’t get into the mood. And now he’s acting like a grumpy old man.

We have been saying it for years.  Men go through some form of menopause as they age. Their testosterone levels decrease, and they start acting funny.  Whether it’s mood swings, unexplained aches and pains or change in sexual function, men still go through what doctors call Andropause.

Man oh Manopause
Man oh Manopause

There is hope!  Just as women have treatments to ease the symptoms of menopause, so do men.  Men can talk to their physicians and ask their doctors for an exam to test whether or not their testosterone levels are low.  If that is the case, they can consider Testosterone Replacement Therapy.  A combination of antidepressants and  TRT will help relieve decreases in libido, depression and fatigue.  Keep in mind this treatment combination does have adverse side effects especially if you suffer from prostate cancer that you may want to discuss with your doctor.

What do you think?  Do you know of any men who act like they go through “periods”?  Let us know.

10 Aphrodisiac Foods To Make Yummy Libido Boosting Dishes

Exotic, Erotic Romantic Dishes

The next time you are in the supermarket, think about what types of aphrodisiac foods to add to your cart so you could turn ordinary dinner into finger licking libido boosting sexy dishes.

Say goodbye to plain ol’ meatloaf and say hello to exotic dishes to get your blood and your partner pumping.

Maybe you can make a meal of each other…

The Dish: Badam KheerLibido Boosting Recipe
The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Almonds and Cardamom

This is a nutritious Indian sweet served with a meal as a sweet or as a dessert.

It has all the goodness of almonds and the milk and the flavor of saffron and the cardamom. It is also a very easy to make among the almond recipes.

Almonds provide you Vitamin E and help you look younger and to keep fit. They are also good for your skin, reduce cholesterol and boost immunity. It is believed that the aroma stimulates passion.  So much so, that it has been reported that Samson enticed Delilah with these testicular looking nuts, and word also has it that Cleopatra dined on an Almond based drink.

Cardamom is a nicely aromatic spice. In many cultures and mystic circles it is viewed as an intensely powerful aphrodisiac, used to cast love spells and also beneficial in treating impotency (mix with maca, Peru’s natural Viagra, for some ‘interesting results’). Maca is high in cineole, which can increase blood flow in certain important areas!


  • Raw Almonds – 1 cup
  • sugar – 1 cup
  • saffron – few strands
  • cardamom powder – 1/2 teaspoon
  • water – 1/2 cup
  • Ghee (or clarified butter) – 1 tablespoon
  • Milk – 1 quart

Soak almonds in water for about 1 hour.

Peel almonds and grind them to paste using the water. Do not add any extra water.

Cooking Method 
1 Heat ghee in a thick bottomed pan. Add almond paste and fry on low flame for 4-5 minutes stirring all the while.

2 Add sugar. Mix well and cook for 5 minutes.

3  Add milk and boil for 15 minutes. Add cardamom powder and saffron strands. It will enhance flavor and color too.
Serve hot or chilled. Enjoy this in the hot summer afternoons, as a cool snack, or as a dessert.



The Dish: Marinated Shrimp in Avocado HalvesLibido boosting foods

The Libido Boosting Ingredient:  Avocado
High in B6 – said to increase male hormone production.  The Mayans and Aztecs called the avocado tree, the Testicle tree because they  believed the avocados hang in pairs and resembled testicles hanging from the tree.  Avocado’s nutrition actually delivers a mash up of nutrients essential to sexual health, including beta carotene, magnesium and vitamin E, (which is sometimes called the “sex vitamin“).  It’s been reported to have been a traditional remedy for erectile dysfunction.  As if that isn’t enough for you to grab a nice big avocado the next time you are in the grocery,  it also delivers more potassium than a raw banana.  Offering 2.4 grams of protein for every 1/2 cup of fruit, an essential ingredient for a successful late night powwow.


1 lb small shrimp, poached and peeled
1/2 cup fresh tomato juice
3 Tbsp cilantro, chopped
2 clove garlic, minced
3 slices sweet onion, finely diced
1 small jicama, diced
1 Jalapeno pepper, seeded, finely diced (optional)
2 lime, juiced
salt and pepper to taste
2 ripe Avocados


-Thoroughly mix together all ingredients except the avocados. Refrigerate 30 minutes.
-Just before serving, cut each avocado into halves and take out the seed.
-Spoon marinated shrimp into the avocado halves and serve

The Dish:  Pineapple Puffs

Libido Boosting Ingredient:  Pineapples libido boosting foods

Pineapples not only improves the taste of semen (Yum!), but it is a good source of manganese and vitamin C, and has been historically used to cure impotence.  But the unique gift the majestic, pineapple boasts of is its protein digestive enzyme Bromelaine which thins the blood and improves circulation to improve sexual performance.

Prep Time: 10 Mins
Cook Time: 20 Mins
Ready In: 30 Mins


  • 1/2 cup butter, softened
  • 1 cup white sugar
  • 1 egg
  • 1 (8 ounce) can crushed pineapple
  • 2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1 teaspoon baking powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon


1  Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease muffin cups or line with paper muffin liners.

2. In a large bowl, cream together the butter and sugar until light and fluffy. Add the egg; beat well. Stir in the crushed pineapple and its juice. In a large mixing bowl, mix together the flour, salt, baking soda, baking powder and cinnamon. Add this mixture to the pineapple mixture; stir well. Scoop batter into prepared muffin cups.

3  Bake 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for 20 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into the center of a muffin comes out clean. Cool for 10 minutes in the pans before removing to a wire rack to cool completely.

The Dish: Pressure Cooker Chili

             The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Chili Libido boosting foods

Chili peppers are aphrodisiacs of choice when you are looking to really spice things up because of the its ability to release endorphins from the chemical Capsaicin.  Capsaisin stimulates the nerve endings and increases your pulse, makes you sweat and increases sensitivity.  Because it mimics what you experience during a stimulating lovemaking session. Besides the spicy taste, chili peppers release endorphins and gives the body a natural high – think of how elated you feel after you’ve climaxed. (on a separate note, you can snack on pineapples sprinkled with chili as a snack for a supercharged boost).

Prep Time: 10 Mins

Cook Time: 20 Mins

Ready In: 35 Mins


  • 1 pound ground beef
  • 2 teaspoons olive oil
  • 1 sweet onion, chopped
  • 1 small green bell pepper, finely chopped
  • 1 jalapeno pepper, seeded and finely chopped
  • 2 cloves garlic, minced
  • 2 (14.5 ounce) cans dark red kidney beans, drained and rinsed
  • 2 (14.5 ounce) cans diced tomatoes, undrained
  • 3 tablespoons tomato paste
  • 1 tablespoon dark brown sugar
  • 2 teaspoons unsweetened cocoa powder
  • 1/4 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes, or to taste
  • 2 tablespoons chili powder
  • 2 teaspoons ground cumin
  • 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt, or to taste
  • 2 cups water


1.  Place the ground beef in the pressure cooker over medium high heat; cook until brown and crumbly, 8 to 10 minutes. Remove the ground beef, and drain off the excess fat.

2.  Return the open pressure cooker to the burner over medium heat, pour in the olive oil, and stir in the onion, green pepper, and jalapeno pepper. Cook and stir for 3 to 4 minutes, until the onion is translucent. Add the garlic, and cook and stir for about 30 more seconds. Return the meat to the pressure cooker; mix in the kidney beans, diced tomatoes, tomato paste, brown sugar, cocoa powder, red pepper flakes, chili powder, cumin, salt, and water.

3.  Lock the lid, bring the cooker up to pressure, reduce heat to maintain pressure, and cook for 8 minutes. Remove cooker from the heat, and let the pressure reduce on its own, 5 to 10 minutes.

4. When the pressure is fully released, remove the lid, stir the chili, and serve

The Dish: Soft Gingersnaps

              The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Ginger and Nutmeg GINGER libido boosting food

Ginger improves circulation and is believed by some to be an aphrodisiac food because of its intoxicating scent.

Nutmeg has been known for its intoxicating, and hallucinogenic properties in Europe.  Studies were conducted on male rodents using the aphrodisiac spice nutmeg and recorded an increase of the males attempting to mount the female rodents.  Gives new meaning to the term, “ooh you dirty rat”.

Prep Time: 30 Mins

Cook Time: 10 Mins

Ready In: 40 Mins


  • 1 1/2 cups butter (no substitutes), softened
  • 2 cups sugar
  • 2 eggs
  • 1/2 cup molasses
  • 4 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 3 teaspoons baking soda
  • 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
  • 1 teaspoon ground ginger
  • 1 teaspoon ground cloves
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg
  • Additional sugar


1.  In a mixing bowl, cream butter and sugar. Add eggs, one at a time, beating well after each addition. Beat in molasses. Combine the flour, baking soda, cinnamon, ginger, cloves, salt and nutmeg; gradually add to creamed mixture. Refrigerate for 1 hour or until dough is easy to handle.

2. Roll into 1-in. balls; roll in sugar. Place 2 in. apart on ungreased baking sheets. Bake at 350 degrees F for 8-12 minutes or until puffy and lightly browned. Cool for 1 minute before removing to wire racks.

The Dish: Spiced Figs

The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Figs  fig-libido boosting foodThis  sweet, purple fruit is already a sexy ass fruit in appearance and texture.  Plump, succulent looking, and velvety skin. When sliced open, its luscious flesh drips with a floral honey scent, revealing a juicy resemblance to the female sex organ.  It has been rumored that the fig  has been regarded highly as a  sexual stimulant for ages.

Note: This dish is not for a quick fix-me-up, if you want ’em fresh, you’ll have to wait for summer or early Fall.

  • 2 cups white wine vinegar
  • 1 inch (2.5 cm) piece fresh ginger
  • 3 tablespoons allspice
  • 4 blades of mace or 4 teaspoons ground mace
  • 2 cups sugar
  • Cloves (one per fig)
  • 2 1/2 pounds (1 kg) fresh figs
  • Juice of one lemon
Bring vinegar, ginger, allspice, mace and sugar to a boil, and simmer for 5 minutes. Push one clove into each fig and add figs to syrup. Return to the boil, then remove from heat. Allow to stand overnight.
Using a slotted spoon, transfer figs to sterilized jars. Reserve syrup.
Return syrup to the boil, add lemon juice, mix well and strain over figs to completely cover. Seal while hot.
You may use Balsamic vinegar if you don’t have lemons.

The Dish: Strawberry Bruschetta

                                                  The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Strawberries    strawberries libido boosting food     

There’s a good reason strawberries are a popular aphrodisiac food.  High in Vitamin C –  lush, fragrant strawberries’ have long had a place in romance literature.  it is a symbol of sensuality, representing a female nipple, the French used to give newlywed couples strawberry soup to increase their sexual desire.  Who knows more about love than the French?

Prep Time: 10 Mins
Cook Time: 5 mins
Ready In: 15 Mins


  • 24 slices French baguette
  • 1 tablespoon butter, softened
  • 2 cups chopped fresh strawberries
  • 1/4 cup white sugar, or as needed


1. Preheat your oven’s broiler. Spread a thin layer of butter on each slice of bread. Arrange bread slices in a single layer on a large baking sheet.

2. Place bread under the broiler for 1 to 2 minutes, just until lightly toasted. Spoon some chopped strawberries onto each piece of toast, then sprinkle sugar over the strawberries.

3. Place under the broiler again until sugar is caramelized, 3 to 5 minutes. Serve immediately.

The Dish: Stuffed Bell Peppers

                                      The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Garlic and Pine Nuts aphrodisiac foods peppers libido foods

This dish has a double whammy of ingredients, the Pine Nuts are rich in Zinc, and the garlic contains high levels of Allicin, a compound that can improve blood flow to the sexual organs. But note – just don’t munch on big cloves of raw garlic! Allicin is only produced once garlic has been chopped as it is produced through an enzyme reaction.  According to Session Magazine, garlic is the third most powerful aphrodisiac in the world.

Use different colored peppers with this stuffing flavored with onion, garlic, anchovies, raisins, pine nuts, and olives. It is a tantalizing mixture of salty, sweet, savory, and crunchy ingredients. It is served lukewarm, at room temperature.

Prep Time: 15 minutes

Cook Time: 50 minutes

Total Time: 65 minutes


•4 bell peppers of different colors

•4 Tablespoons, plus 2 Tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil (divided use)

•1 medium white onion, finely diced

•2 garlic cloves, finely chopped

•1 Tablespoon Italian parsley, finely chopped

•4 anchovies, finely chopped

•1 Tablespoon raisins

•1 Tablespoon pine nuts

•2 ounces olives, pitted, drained, and finely ground

•6 Tablespoons bread crumbs

•Salt and pepper

Preparation:Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 C).

Wash the bell peppers, cut them in half, and remove the seeds.

In a skillet, pour 4 tablespoons of the extra-virgin olive oil and turn heat to medium.

Saute the onion and garlic, until onion is soft and translucent. Remove the skillet from the heat. Stir in the parsley, anchovies, raisins, pine nuts, ground olives, bread crumbs, salt, and pepper. Drizzle with remaining 2 tablespoons of extra-virgin olive oil. Mix all the ingredients thoroughly.

Fill the bell peppers with the mixture. Place the filled bell peppers side by side in an oiled oven pan. Bake for about 40 minutes, or until the surface is golden.

Remove pan from the oven and let the stuffed peppers cool at room temperature. Serve lukewarm.

The Dish: Vanilla Slice    

The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Vanilla Vanilla-Bean-Bundle-beanilla-aphrodisiac foods

There is nothing plain about vanilla as a flavoring.  The aroma is reported to soothe and stimulate the female libido.  The Aztecs and Mayans knew about the euphoric effects on the brain.  It was believed that vanilla made you hot, and ready for sex.

Prep Time: 10 Mins

Cook Time: 20 Mins

Ready In: 30 Mins


  • 1 (17.25 ounce) package frozen puff pastry, thawed
  • 1 cup white sugar
  • 1/2 cup custard powder
  • 3/4 cup cornstarch
  • 5 1/4 cups milk
  • 1/4 cup butter
  • 2 egg yolks
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 1 cup confectioners’ sugar
  • 1 tablespoon milk
  • 1 dash vanilla extract


1.  Preheat the oven to 400 degrees F (200 degrees C). Unfold puff pastry sheets, and place flat onto baking sheets. Bake for 10 to 15 minutes, or until lightly browned and puffed. Set aside.

2.  Combine the sugar, custard powder and cornstarch in a large saucepan. Mix in just enough milk to form a paste, then gradually mix in the rest. This will prevent lumps from forming. Add the butter. Cook over medium heat, stirring frequently until thick. You may need to use a whisk to ensure a smooth consistency. When the mixture comes to a simmer, cook stirring constantly for 2 minutes. Remove from the heat, and stir in the egg yolks and vanilla.

3.  Line a 9 inch baking dish with aluminum foil. Place one of the baked pastry sheets in the bottom of the dish. Spread the custard filling in an even layer over the pastry, and top with the other sheet.

4. Mix the confectioners’ sugar with 1 tablespoon of milk, and a dash of vanilla to make an icing. Spread over the top of the pastry. Refrigerate until the custard layer is firm. Remove from the pan and slice.

 The Dish: Watermelon and Feta Salad with Arugula and Spinach

                           The Libido Boosting Ingredient(s): Arugula and Watermelon watermelon arugula libido boosting aphrodisiac boosting food

Arugula, called the rocket seed has been used as far back as the first century A.D to improve male performance. This love drug contains trace minerals and antioxidants to  keep everything nice and tight from the inside out.  Keeping anti libido bad guys from blocking your mojo.

Watermelon has the power of Viagra in its phytonutrients, citrulline.  When citrulline converts to argenine, watch out!.  The effects are a cheaper, healthier method to boost nitric oxide which relaxes blood vessels.

One note: citrulline is actually found in higher concentrations in watermelon rind than in the flesh, but there’s still plenty citrulline in the delicious flesh to make eating it worthwhile.

Prep Time: 20 Mins

Ready In: 20 Mins


  • 3 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
  • 2 teaspoons white balsamic vinegar
  • 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
  • 2 cups arugula
  • 2 cups baby spinach leaves
  • 1 cup thinly sliced red onion
  • 1 cup grape tomatoes, halved
  • 1/2 cup crumbled feta cheese
  • 2 cups bite sized watermelon chunks


1. Whisk the olive oil, white balsamic vinegar, and salt together in a small bowl; set aside.

2. Combine the arugula, spinach, onions, and tomatoes in a large salad bowl. Drizzle the vinaigrette over the salad mixture; toss to coat. Add the feta cheese and watermelon to serve. 

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Oh No We Don’t!

embrace desiresOne of the interesting things about working with the embracedesires team, besides discovering new and exciting playthings for our boudoirs, would be our conversations.  We recently talked about the variety of sex toys on the market and how improved they have become over the years.  One of our friends joined the conversation and brought up the old, hard plastic and jelly-type dildos from decades ago (*gasp!  Do people still use these?) and asked “Why doesn’t embracedesires carry them as a cheaper option for our consumers.”  After being picked up off of the floor from passing out (OK, so we were a little bit dramatic), and with all of the glam and fabulosity of our inner drag queen, we said…

People care about what goes into their bodies and we’re not talking about calories.

That’s why the team at follows the rule of Oh No, we don’t! We don’t carry cheap quality merchandise. Period. We don’t carry low-grade porous products. You won’t find those jiggly, wiggly jelly dongs or other silly “insertables” you often find at some adult parties.  We don’t apologize for being adults who care.

diva embrace desiresCall us divas, but we have standards.

For one, we don’t carry products that contain potentially harmful chemicals, like phthalates.

We don’t carry products that remove sensation during sex.  You are supposed to feel every delectable, nuance that being intimate offers.  If, during sex, something hurts or you are uncomfortable doing something, stop doing it.  It’s your body’s natural reaction to danger.

We only carry products from manufacturers that use high quality materials such as medical grade, body safe silicone, erotic glass, stainless steel, and yes, even wood. Many products found on our site are also free from parabens.

We tell you this to let you know: We do care.  We care about you. That is why we offer high quality sensual products to enhance your sex life at affordable prices.

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Cheat on Your Mate Without Getting Caught – Tips from the Cheaters

Committed relationships are not for everyone.  Occasionally you may find that your partner is lacking in one area or more but you aren’t totally ready to call it quits.  So you begin your search.  It’s like sending out your resume while you still have a job.  Lucky you!  Now you find yourself involved with two people.  Or maybe you know of someone in a similar situation but was caught too soon or was accused of  cheating and you thought, “Man! They should have done this or that”.  Well now here is your go to guide from cheaters to help keep from getting caught while cheating.

  1. Putting pass codes on your cell phones are a no-brainer nowadays, just don’t do it in front of your partner.

A.  When browsing the ‘net, be sure to use the “private browse” function on your computer.  It doesn’t store your history.

2. Make sure to put your cell phone on vibrate before you get around your lover, it is less conspicuous.  If your phone has a “silent” function, even better.  Sometimes the “vibrate” mode is too strong and you can actually ”hear” the vibrations.  It would suck to be you if you don’t respond.

3.  If you met your partner on any of the dating sites, or any social media site where others can leave comments on your page, make sure you:
A.  Let other people know you are in a relationship and acknowledge your commitment/devotion to your partner occasionally, this keeps your partner at bay for a while.
B.  Do not arrange dates with someone from the same site.   People have been known to plant bait – other people acting interested to see if their partner would fall for it.

Know your place and play your position.  You are the extra – the jump-off, not the main squeeze.  If you are the one they are cheating with, then make sure you and your partner have a plan mapped out in case of suspicion and/or confrontation and stick to your stories.

This will avoid conflict if ever you are contacted by the  main partner.  Do not say you are a cousin, or any type of relative.  That information can be too easily verified.

If you are ever caught together, use the “former colleague/boss when you were in high school” or in some cases, earlier story.

5.  If you are ever accused of cheating, do not admit guilt, ever. Accusations mean nothing.  Now if you do get busted (it’s because you didn’t read our tips on how NOT to get caught) accept responsibly for your actions and move on forward.

Never insult your mate’s intelligence by saying:

a.  it wasn’t you, but someone else, or

b.  it’s not what you think

6.  If your partner ever gives you electronic devices as a gift, disable them before you head out to meet your lover. GPS tracking capabilities are installed in virtually Everything.

7.  If you are cheating, this cannot be stressed enough. CASH is Not just KING, but an absolute REQUIREMENT.  Do not make purchases for your lover with your credit or debit card; do not pay for tickets or dinner with your card, EVER.  Taking the extra time to stop at the bank and make a withdrawal large enough, around the time you need to make a withdrawal just to have cash on hand so you don’t raise any eyebrows.

8.  Get a pre-paid cell phone that you can dump after your affair.  Keep it on silent and keep the phone away from your home.

9.  Avoid communications on social networking sites like Facebook with known former lovers. Facebook and the other sites have become the way for lonely individuals to attempt to reunite with old high school crushes. Even better – Do not even add them.

10.  Establish an alternate email address.  Use one of the many free email service providers not one you already use.  Ie, if you are known to use hotmail, create an msn email account, if you have msn, use yahoo!, and so on.

11.  Stop saving messages!  Yeah it’s nice and fun and sometimes erotic, to re-read and look at them, but get rid of the messages. Period. End of story.  You will avoid lots of headaches if your lover discovered them.

12.  If you live with your partner and make arrangements to go out with your lover, do not put on the good looking undergarments.  Put on the everyday ones. Take an extra set of underwear.  Find an excuse to go to the bathroom and change your underwear out your lovers view. Put on the “special underwear” you want to wear for your partner.  When you are finished with your rendezvous, put your regular undies back on and Mail your “special underwear” to yourself.  Ladies, wear a pantyliner in your regular “going back home” panties in case your love juices still happen to flow out of you.  Worried about smelling like sex or the condom?  Simple. Buy a sample sized bar of the soap you normally use at home, take it with you, use it after your loving, then Toss it away.

Hey, having extra lovers is more costly than you think.

13.  Condoms are a must.  For any sexual experience. Oral – use dental dams, or slice a condom lengthwise and cover the vagina or anus.  You don’t want to risk even  the slightest bit of suspicion.  Give head with the condom on.  Don’t get caught up in the moment thinking you want to taste your partner.  They are there for one purpose, to let you get off, not think they’re in love.

Make sure you use the same condoms with your new partner as you use with your boyfriend or girlfriend.  Buy Lots of them. It’s easier to count the number missing from a 3pack of condoms than it is to count those missing from several dozen.
Also, it’s ok, to:

  • Drop an open condom on the floor or have some other mishap with it.
  • accidentally put-on a condom the wrong way.  This way, the unexplained used condoms can be shrugged off by saying, oh baby, we sure went crazy.

14.  Keep your hairstyle low maintenance.  Ladies, we all know you want to look extra sexy for your intimate interludes, however, it’s one thing to throw your clothes back on, but it’s easier to jump in your car with your hair in a ponytail and still look coiffed.

Take it with you!  Your fluids.  Didn’t we learn anything from the Monica Lewinski/Bill Clinton scandal?  Any trysts outside of your relationship demands the additional purchase of portable sex gear!  Invest in moisture proof bedroom accessories that can be collected after your passionate night out.  No wet spots on the bed, no raised eyebrows.

Following these methods won’t guarantee you won’t get caught ever, it is how to get away with cheating on your mate a little longer.

It is a Lot of work maintaining covert relationships.  Communicate with your current partner.  Let them know what you really want.  Be sure you are really ready for the commitment to be in a relationship and the work it requires to maintain one.

Coming Soon:  How do you tell the person you think you love that their sexual performance is trash

Coconut Oil for Your Coochie?

Did you know that Coconut oil has been described as “the healthiest oil on earth.”  I am all for all things natural or healthy, and naturally healthy and usually only apply coconut oil to my body and hair.  So I did a little Googling and discovered that coconut oil is good for ALL of your skin.  So I began a little experiment, and to my pleasure found that applying coconut oil to your pubic area is a nice addition to your sexual health.

Take a trip to your favorite organic/health food store and purchase Extra Virgin COCONUT Oil.  After your shower, apply liberally over your thirsty vagina.  You will be amazed at how your skin absorbs the oil.

Coconut oil contains lauric acid, capric acid and caprylic acid, and it has properties such as antimicrobial, antioxidant, antifungal, antibacterial, soothing, etc.  Coconut oil is an excellent massage oil for the skin, as well as an effective moisturizer on all types of skins including dry skin. There are no adverse side effects on the skin with the application of coconut oil. Coconut oil therefore is a safe solution for preventing dryness and flaking of skin. It also delays wrinkles, and sagging of skin which normally becomes prominent with age. Coconut oil also helps in preventing premature aging and degenerative diseases due to its antioxidant properties. Coconut oil also helps in treating various skin problems including psoriasis, dermatitis, eczema and other skin infections. So why not use it on your pubic area?  It gives it a nice tropical scent.

  • Applied topically helps to form a chemical barrier on the skin to ward of infection.
  • Softens skin and helps relieve dryness and flaking.
  • Promotes healthy looking hair and complexion.
  • Reduces inflammation.
  • Supports tissue healing and repair.
  • Functions as a protective antioxidant.
  • Supports the natural chemical balance of the skin.
  • Prevents wrinkles, sagging skin, and age spots.
  • Provides protection from damaging effects of ultraviolet radiation from the sun.
  • Kills viruses that cause herpes, measles, hepatitis C, SARS, AIDS, and other illnesses.
  • Kills bacteria that cause ulcers, throat infections, urinary tract infections, gum disease and cavities, pneumonia, and gonorrhea, and other diseases.
  • Kills fungi and yeasts that cause candidiasis, thrush, and other infections.

Disclaimer: This article is for information purposes only and should not be used for the diagnosis or treatment of medical conditions. *Do not use coconut oil if you are allergic to nuts.

8 Sex Essentials for your Sexy Santa

For those who enjoy variety with your partner, we are giving you a list of eight sensual goodies for a Sexy Santa.


Reduce your risk of infections. Wipe your toys clean before and after each use.

You never can be too certain which direction you will go into first, so it’s best to be prepared ahead of time. Make sure you and your partner are well lubed and let the adventure begin.

Well this is what you were waiting for. Have your favorite dils, vibrators, strap-ons, etc. Just make sure it is clean and nearby.

We all need to reduce the risk of infection (plus you can have so much fun with all of the new ones out there), so have an assortment handy.

Ever find yourself fantasizing about someone other than your current partner? Ever close your eyes during passion and wonder who is really pleasing you? Well, a blindfold can make the possibility a reality in your mind. If you open your eyes too soon, you won’t be disappointed since you will still be in the dark with this amazing “stranger”.

Perfect during role play for when you want to discipline or be disciplined for being oh so naughty.

Does your partner wriggle all over the place during throes of passion? Take Control!!! Tie them up! Cuff them to something, just don’t let them enjoy freedom.

Once you and your partner have satisfied after another, before either of you roll over to fall asleep, spritz a bit of breath freshener in your mouth. When you awaken from your blissful slumber, you can roll over and start fresh all over again.

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