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Blow His Mind – 8 Surefire Tips to Give a Toe Curling Blow Job

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We still have discussions about it even to this day.  What is the one complaint that men have when it comes to receiving oral sex?  This topic even had a few us girls at happy hour wondering if we were performing it perfectly (we all think we are Super Duper at it) or are our partners just there for the ride. So we’ve asked a few real men in our Facebook page what would be the perfect way for a woman to perform fellatio.  The top complaint men had were TEETH.  Do people still have problems buffering those pearly whites?  Apparently so.  So here’s what the fellas are saying:

  • Watch your teeth!  Must you still be reminded?  OK. Many people don’t  like to have their sensitive skin scraped against when they are in the throes of passion.  Here’s a tip to prevent grinding against your partners magic stick.  Let your mouth fill with spit (yes the wetter, the better).  Pull your lips under your teeth as if you need to shave your upper lip and go down, down baby.
  • Offer to give head – Be warned:  You must be confident to do this.  Confidence is sexy.  Although this may seem simple enough to do, but a lot of men still feel like they have to ask for oral pleasure.  Besides, when you’re exceptional at your talents, show off! Who can turn down a great offer.
  • Take it to the top – The head of the penis is extremely sensitive.  Use your tongue to firmly caress the entire bulbous mound.  Unlike some women who prefer a gentle approach, men tend to prefer a more vigorous touch.
  • Juggling acts belong in the circus – But ball juggling in the bedroom is ok. Just be easy on his nuts.  We hear they are very sensitive.  You can gently, and we cannot stress this enough, gently massage his balls with your hands (this is the juggling part), but too much and you may find your aggressive attempt at seduction leaving your partner quivering in pain. Think more like shifting his balls in one hand.
  • Please keep your hands inside the ride When you have the skill to delicately massage his balls in your mouth, remember to stroke the shaft.  Keep your well lubricated hands all over him.
  • Send a bing-bong to his ding dong.  When you have him inside of your hot, wet mouth make some noise.  No, not any kind of noise.  Don’t worry about what your mother said about making noise while you have something in your mouth.  Make a delicious sound of slurping and humming and moaning you get while you are licking and sucking.  Wait, we need a break… Ok, what were we talking about?  Oh yeah, you want your partner into it, so you need to be into it as well.  A nice hum from your mouth while performing oral sex can simulate the gentle vibration he would get from a male vibrator.
  • Go for a happy ending.  Put it in your mouth.  Not into swallowing your partner’s load? Play with his cum in your mouth.  Blow big semen filled bubbles.  Or let him release himself on you.  It’s like they get to see their hot naughty fluids for the first time.
  • BONUS:  Rub it in.  Go on, rub his semen on you.  Using his semi erect penis, massage all of his creamy semen all over your face.  This bold seductive act shows him that you love every inch of him.  If you’re daring, you can even lightly tap your face if he is still leaking to get every last drop

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4 Truths About Female Ejaculation: The Debate Continues by Amy Jo Goddard

Amy Jo Goddard –  Sexual Empowerment Coach

Female ejaculation is still a hot button topic as demonstrated by the response to the research study just published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine that was then misappropriated by the popular website I Fucking Love Science.

In the 90s when “female ejaculation” became “a thing” I questioned the use of the word “female”. Why is it not just ejaculation? Why do we need the female modifier, as if it’s a lesser version of the “real thing”? People with penises ejaculate. People with vulvas ejaculate. People ejaculate as a sexual response to things that make them feel good. At the end of the day, that’s what is most important.

It’s called “female” because many people find it incomprehensible that men and women—people with all matter of genitalia—ejaculate. Some seem to maintain that ejaculation shall remain a marvel of man, untouchable and unachievable by the ladies.

It got to a point where women who ejaculate were making videos teaching other women how to do it. The pressure was on. And that’s exactly what we don’t need. But well-meaning female ejaculators wanted more women to experience the gush.

Studies have been done in order to figure out just what this “female ejaculate” that so-called squirters propel into the faces and eyes of their beloveds is made of. The Federation of Feminist Women’s Health Centers published their groundbreaking book A New View of a Woman’s Body in 1991 because they were done with the male bias in research that had rendered us disabled in our scientific information about female sexuality. They did their own dissections and renamed many female genital parts based on that research. Other small-scale studies have been done examining female ejaculate, which Rebecca Chalker outlines in The Clitoral Truth.

The recent study is no different. It’s small. It’s not a significant sample (7 women to be exact), and there is bias in the way the findings are discussed. But we love pop science and IFLS put out a headline that even the research didn’t state: “Study Concludes That Women Who Squirt During Sex Are Actually Peeing.” Nope. That’s not what the research says. It says urine is “indicated”. Along with prostatic fluid. Yep, female bodies make that too.

Sex Educator and Nurse-Midwife Sheri Winston proposes that female ejaculation is antimicrobial and designed to keep potential infection-producing agents out of the urethra.Given that women often get UTIs from sex it makes a whole lot of sense that our body would have a function to prevent infections that can cause dangerous kidney and full-body infections. Our bodies are amazing with immunity. Where’s the research on that? It’s a really good research question.

Let’s break down what’s really important about “female ejaculation”.

Number one: There is not nearly enough real science about healthy sexuality because healthy sexuality will never fill the pockets of big pharma. Our science on female sexuality is light years behind the science of male sexuality because it doesn’t get funded. Unless there is a sexual “dysfunction” involved that might require some pills—or that we could spin so people think they need more pills.

Two: Ejaculation is real in both males and females. Women report ejaculating and indeed it has been documented in old Chinese texts, The Kama Sutra, and by Aristotle. It’s not new and it’s not a myth. Ask any woman who experiences it. Seriously, why are some folks so avidly trying to discredit the ejaculate? #Ejaculatehappens

Three: Regardless of the content of the fluid, which does contain prostatic fluid from the paraurethral and Skene’s glands, it results from a sexual event. Calling it “bedwetting” or attempting to shame women because it contains urine is totally dismissive of the arousal that creates it. Amy Luna Manderino of the Sex Evolution proposes we call it an “orgasmic flush.” This highlights the fact that sexual arousal produces the fluid. It is also likely that ejaculation has a function, as Winston purports.

Four: Women don’t need to feel pressure to ejaculate. We’ve got enough pressure about sex. If things are working and you are having pleasure, enjoy it. And if it’s important to you to learn this sex skill, then go to a workshop or check out the “How to Female Ejaculate” video and have at it. Avoid concluding that something about you is inadequate if you don’t seem to ejaculate. You could be You could be ejaculating in small amounts that are harder to detect or maybe you don’t. What’s important is that you are happy with your sexual functioning. Keep the pressure off.

If you are a woman who does ejaculate, please don’t let this poorly done research and research reporting shame you into holding back or altering how you come. If it feels good, enjoy it. Ejaculate is not the same as urine and even if it were? Urine is mostly water. If you ejaculate, fantastic. Keep having those orgasmic flushes and enjoy the ride.

Amy Jo Goddard is a Sexual Empowerment Coach who thrives on helping people have the delicious sex and relationships they desire. With 20 years of experience in the sexuality field, she works virtually with private clients, and holds sumptuous VIP Days in the beautiful Napa Valley. She facilitates a 9-month unique Women’s Sexual Empowerment Program where women have opportunities to deeply explore, heal and celebrate their sexuality and desire. Amy Jo travels as a speaker, and teaches classes that help people connect to their sexuality, make more money, and enjoy greater abundance and pleasure in their lives. She is working on a forthcoming book about sexual empowerment and writes about practical, real-world sexuality at amyjogoddard.com. You can subscribe to her weekly ezine to receive her sexual empowerment articles and videos, and for information on upcoming classes & trainings.

Blow Job 101 – A Beginners Guide to Performing Like a Pro.

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People, people, people!  When you are trying to figure out how to give a man a blow job like a pro, there are some basic techniques that you want to follow. Too many people get caught up in the act of giving head that they forget that they can use the ENTIRE MOUTH: tongue, lips and teeth (only gently).  Become familiar with your man’s entire shaft.  Massage him completely with your tongue.  Hold his penis with a firm grip starting from the base and begin to really show it some attention.  Lick and kiss all over your man, tracing the full length of his manhood with your lips and tongue.

But that’s not all, there is more to expertly giving head than just holding your man in your mouth and sucking.  Discover some important how to tips on how to satisfy your man with an impressive oral sex performance.

Watch your attitude! It’s blow job basics to love a cheerful giver, so be generous and get into the spirit of giving when you’re about to give a man a blow job.

Offer to give head – Be warned:  You must be confident to do this.  Confidence is sexy.  Although this may seem simple enough to do, a lot of men say that they lose interest in a woman if they have to ask for oral pleasure.  So, step up to the mic and tell your man, “drop your pants and gimme 10!” (inches, that is). Besides, when you’re exceptional at your talents, show off! Who can turn down a great offer.

Watch your mouth! Most men don’t  like to have their sensitive skin scraped by sharp teeth when they are in the throes of passion.  Here’s a tip to prevent grinding against your partners magic stick.  Let your mouth fill with spit (yes the wetter, the better).
Really stretch your mouth open as if to make a big O with your lips. Take him inside of your mouth and suck him in. Use your cheek muscles to get the perfect suction and go down, down baby.

Take it to the top – The head of the penis is extremely sensitive.  Use your tongue to firmly caress the entire bulbous mound, then take him in and give him your best wet oral performance.  Unlike some women who prefer a gentle approach, men tend to prefer a more vigorous touch.

Bouncing Balls – Be easy on his balls (the nut sack or scrotum).  The testes are very sensitive.  Tenderly, squeeze his testicles either with your mouth or your hands by cupping them.  Gently, and we cannot stress this enough, gently massage his balls, but too much and you may find your aggressive attempt at seduction leaving your partner quivering in pain.

When you have the skill to delicately massage his balls in your mouth, remember to stroke the shaft.  Keep your well lubricated hands all over him. He’s going to be more receptive to you at this time.

Send a bing-bong to his ding dong.  Once you have him inside the depth of your mouth, send him a message via sound and vibration. Make some Noise!!!!  No, not any kind of noise.  Don’t worry about what your mother said about making noise while you have something in your mouth. Savor the flavor of your partner.  Make a delicious sound of slurping and humming and moaning while you are licking and sucking.  Wait, we need a break… Ok, what were we talking about?  Oh yeah, you want your partner into it, so you need to be into it as well.  A nice hum from your mouth while performing oral sex can simulate the gentle vibration he would get from a mini vibrator.

Go for a happy ending.  Put it in your mouth.  Not into swallowing your partner’s load? Play with his cum in your mouth.  Blow big semen filled bubbles.  Or let him release himself on you.  Embrace the milky shower your partner shared with you.
BONUS:  Rub it in.  Go on, rub his semen on you.  Using his semi erect penis, massage all of his creamy semen all over your face.  This bold seductive act shows him that you love every inch of him.  If you’re daring, you can even lightly tap your face if he is still leaking to get every last drop

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I had this wonderful realization about head. It is so much more enjoyable when you actually give a damn about the person (go figure)! I get quite turned on knowing that he is enjoying himself and I am the cause. He loves it especially when I venture down to his nether regions without him hinting, or asking, or begging or…you get the picture,
Back then, head was never a big deal to me, I was neither for or against it. I now find myself enjoying it more and more the longer he and I are together. In the bedroom– or any room we vacate at the moment– I immediately take charge, I usually switch up my methods of attack each time we do ”the do”, but slobbin’ the knob is one of the best ways to go! 
Already confident in my technique (’cause practice makes perfect) I straddle him, and make sweet little trails of kisses, nips and nibbles downward til I reach my destination. I take him in my mouth all sexy like, looking at him, my eyes commanding his to watch me. I don’t do the spit thing like they do in porn, it grosses me out, however I do believe that dry or even a semi dry erection is horrible, so I let it sit in my mouth while it builds up saliva and I am literally SALIVATING over him. Once he’s nice and moist, I continue to go to work.
I make real good sloppy slurping noises, and moan like he is the most delicious thing I have ever tasted, but proceed with caution though, too much enthusiasm causes excitement and he will buck and thrust in your mouth (trust me) but remember, you’re in control, and you can nip that in the bud by placing a firm– not crushing– grip with your hand to remind him who’s boss.
And since we have now added the almighty hand into the equation, it would only be fair to call on a little teamwork. I keep my hand in a steady rhythm, not too fast, just enough to keep him vocal. Now that we’re in the rhythmic simualtion stage, my mouth becomes the most powerfully used in combination with my hand, with my attention mainly focused on the tip and the frenulum, the most sensitive part of the penis (on a side note ladies and maybe a few gentlemen: the frenulum is the thin. nerve-rich membrane that attaches- or – attached if he’s been circumsized – the foreskin to the head and shaft of the penis.)
I maintain my firm grip on the base and keep my lips over the tip, as I start working my head up and down over aforementioned frenulum, little known fact, but that action will naturally create suction. No need for deep throating here, cause that trick alone already has him jerking and twisting and stifling moans!
The moment of truth, he let’s me know he’s almost there and my pace doesn’t let up. Now many people don’t like it but as I mentioned before, I’ve come to enjoy pleasing him, so he let’s me have it, and I take it all in, and what really puts the nail on the coffin is to keep sucking for a few seconds after he’s finished, and looky, looky 8..9…10 DING it’s a knockout!

How Brushing My Teeth Improved My Blow Job Skills

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People ask all the time, “How do you give good head?” and “How do you keep from gagging?”  I tell them that I learned from unusual sources.  I’m no expert on oral sex, but I  learned mostly by brushing my teeth.

I had a hairy partner who used to give so much instruction on how he wanted it done that I felt like I

was in school.  After what I thought was a less than mediocre fellatio performance, I would always go into the bathroom to brush my teeth to get his little hairs and him out of my mouth.  I brushed and brushed and brushed.   Not so much for oral hygiene, although I did want to get him out of my mouth, but partly because I could practice my gag reflex while brushing my tongue.  It was either practice in private, or practice on too many guys who would not appreciate my efforts.  So armed with my toothbrush and my ego, I  would take my toothbrush and brush the back of my tongue so far back, I would almost throw up.  I did it so much that eventually, I was able to hit the little bally thing in the back of my throat without gagging.

Next, I would wet my mouth to get my lips and entire mouth dripping wet.  Yes it is sexy they way the water drips down.  Then I would stretch my lips and open my mouth as wide as I could while trying to look sexy.  Don’t waste your time, there’s nothing sexy about that look.

Then came the part my dentist could appreciate.  I brushed my teeth.  You know some people would keep the foam from building in their mouth because it looks nasty?  Well that wasn’t me.  The foamier, the better.  That’s when I practiced my “slurps”  I would spit the frothy spit over the sink, then slurp it back up.  Yep, it was that simple.

After all of that diligent oral hygiene, I was ready for the next time.  When the next time came, I was nervous I had dry mouth.  So I popped a curiously strong mint into my mouth and went to town.  I forgot to spit the mint out.   WHOA!  As soon as my mouth went down on his head, I knew that I had him! He moaned in what could only be ecstasy and I watched his toes curl, his hips thrust strongly and his moaning grunts of passion urging me to keep going.  My ego had skyrocketed and I remembered the tips I got from my dear Gay friends.  Boldly I put both hands on him and they went to work stroking him like I was twisting and churning butter.  My hands had a mind of their own.  It was as if they were working independently , yet together with my mouth.  Again my dear ego jumps in and want to show off.  I suck in my cheeks to get a mouthful of spit, cup my hands and fill them with all the wetness my mouth can produce and spit, not that dainty dribble either, I mean really spit all that moisture on him so I can stroke his head and shaft smoothly.  That’s when I would confidently, with the experience of a pro, delight and entertain him by lifting his penis ever so gently and inhaled his balls in my mouth.  Captivating him with my newly

Gently place the balls in your mouth and hum

found blowjob skills. Caressing his nuts in my mouth as if they were delicate quails’ eggs all while moaning, slurping & humming to my own beat.

Did I look up at him like they did in the porno’s?  Well, before I was armed with this powerful oral awareness — No, I mean what would I look at him for?  But now?  Hell yeah.  I glance up, not to really look to see “if” I’m doing a good job or “if” he is enjoying my performance.  I glance up to look at him and let my eyes tell him, “yeah, I know I’m amazing”.

I guess you’re wondering what happens when he finishes?  Do I swallow?  The answer depends on my mood.  Sometimes, I like to see my handiwork and let him shoot it wherever (I, too believe it’s great for the skin)  and rub it in or play with it.  Other times, I swallow.  The trick to that is, let him see it in your mouth first.  Your mouth will naturally water up the longer you hold it in your mouth, which will make it easier to swallow.  After you got it all down, open wide and show, “All gone.”

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