You’ve heard the girls whispering about it. Anal sex. It’s true, every day people are engaging in and enjoying anal sex. You wonder what is soooo good about anal sex that is driving people to incredible depths of ecstasy. Rear entry love is supposed to be taboo and it’s supposed to hurt, right? Wrong!
First things first when it comes to having great anal sex. Relax; the anus is full of sensitive nerve endings that feel amazing when stimulated by a tongue, finger, penis, or toy. Before engaging in anal sex, you should be completely prepared – mentally and physically. Foreplay before anal sex is not only fun, but downright necessary.
Before you engage in anal sex or any sexual activity, there are a few basic rules.
Cleanliness is next to, well you know the rest.
You want your sexual encounters to be memorable. You remember what the person had on and you remember their scent. Ever have someone walk by and their enticing scent made you want to be closer to them? Some people have a naturally appealing smell. But there is nothing worse than having someone near you, let alone on top of you smelling horrific!
LUBRICATION – Lube Me or Leave Me Alone
We cannot stress this enough. Use plenty of lube. Unlike the vagina and the mouth, the anus does not provide its own lubrication. We recommend using a silicone based lube. Silicone lasts longer than water based lubes and does not dry out or get yucky. If you are using a latex safe condom, even though it says “lubricated”, for the purpose of anal sex, the lube on the condom isn’t enough, so always add more.
Love Me Long Time. Please.
Before you and your partner get started, foreplay is crucial when it comes to anal sex. Play with your anus. It’s a great idea to get to know your body and find out what feels good to you ahead of time. Insert a well lubricated object (just make sure there are no jagged edges ie fingernails, damaged toys) inside of you or have your partner massage the rim of your anus. When you are both ready to take your sex-ploration further, consider safe anilingus activity (oral sex of the anus – or simply put RIMMING) with your partner. Use a dental dam when performing this sexual act or you can cut open a condom and place it over the opening of the anus to protect yourself from bacteria normally found in the anus.
STOP! In The Name of All That is Great!!!
The prospect of having anal sex is as exciting for the giver as well as the receiver. Make sure your partner proceeds with caution! When you are ready, your anus will relax to let you know when the time is right. When that time comes, your partner should slowly insert a toy, finger, or their penis inside of you. A penis, even a toy, is a large object to insert inside of an anus, so be patient. It may seem like it is taking forever to completely enter you, but the rewards are well worth it. After you are relaxed from wonderful anal foreplay, allow your partner to enter you partially giving your body time to adjust to the size and fit. Breathe slowly until you are relaxed and you feel yourself opening up more. When you do open more, allow your partner to go deeper. Adding additional lubrication if necessary. If you need a break, have your partner withdraw partially, then attempt re-entry going deeper with each stroke.
It Seems Like You’re Ready
If at any time during anal sex, you feel extreme pain or discomfort, STOP. That is your body telling you that you are at risk for damage. Let your partner know that you need a break. Take some time, and when you are ready, add more lube and go for it. embracedesires.com does not endorse desensitizing products for anal sex.
Now that you have the basic tips for great anal sex, experiment with different sex positions.
We aren’t alone in our excitement of anal sex. The people at Kinkly.com have something to say about great anal sex positions. We’ve shared a couple of our favorite and amazing sex positions with you.
You get to look into your lovers eyes while they prepare to enter to enter you from the back, except you are watching their facial expressions. That’s HOT! Relax. Rub on your clit for an incredible experience. In the missionary positions, your back gets curved, making it easier to enter the rectum as it straightens out.
Face Down, A$$ Up!
Ah yes, the classic doggy style position for anal sex. Not only does he get an amazing view of you spread open with his manhood entering you, but in this position, the G-Spot gets an extra treat as it is easier to hit and he gets to go deeper. Yasss, honey!
Most importantly, be safe, be creative any time you are engaging in any sexual act. Make love fun. Incorporating lube and toys can be a fun and sensual accessory to your ana lovemaking experience.
Indulge your passions. Embrace your desires.
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