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Want to Be a Better Lover? Get Rid of Bedroom Clutter in 4 Easy Steps

With most couples sex is a very important part of the relationship, as well as where the sex takes place. Many people like to be adventurous and try new things and new places. That was great before careers, cameras, and kids came into the picture.   Now, in our adult reality, we all know the most intercourse between couples takes place in the bedroom. So get ready to be a better lover, because we are about to help you get rid of the clutter!
Your bedroom should be an inviting playroom for sex.

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When you look at your bedroom what do you see? Exercise equipment that has turned into a coat rack? Children’s toy’s and other clutter that is preventing you from being the best lover .
What about that brand new flat screen tv?  While all of these things may seem like creature comforts, they are actually mental distractions to what could be amazing, mind blowing sex!
The wonderful design experts at IBB Design Fine Furnishings have some great tips to start a bedroom makeover.
If clothes make the man, then his living space should also be indicative of who he is as well. If you’ve ever visited a potential lover’s house, only to discover that the place is a mess, guess what…Big Turn Off!  Dirty dishes in the sink, clothes on the floor, or worse, critters — roaches, rodents, even the occasional filthy roommate is a big no no.
Your(potential) lover could be the sexiest man alive (Hi Idris Elba), but if that living space is a wreck, you’ve just ruined your chance at intimacy.
There really is something sexy about visiting someone’s home for the first time in anticipation of getting laid.
But, your partner can’t relax in a messy place.

A few tips to tidy up your place to make sure you are the best lover possible.

  1. Fumigate –  If you know that those crawling, disgustingly unwelcome guests (we’re not talking about your roommate) in your house always make an appearance when you are trying to get lucky, and if time time permits, call an exterminator – or just  do it yourself
  2. Dust – Believe it or not, dust collects EVERY day.  Dust the baseboards, TV’s, counters and your dresser.  it will make a huge difference.
  3. Organize – Put away all of your clothes.  If they don’t fit in your closetor dresser where the doors/drawers can close, invest in storage containers to fit your adult lifestlye.
  4. Aromatics – We are visual creatures, yes, but there is nothing more stimulating to the senses than the olfactory delight of a sophisticated and seductive scent to tantalize and entice your lover. Light a candle and set the mood.  Inhale the sensual bouquet and watch the mesmerizing flicker of the flame as your guest warms up to you even more.

We want to hear from you!  Tell us in the comments how you make your room attractive to a potential lover.

Has the Passion Fizzled in Your Relationship? Don’t Let it Happen to You. Put the SIZZLE Back TONIGHT!

Pleasure Your Mate Month

When it comes to satisfying your mate, their pleasure should be your #1 priority. No need to wait for February to display love and affection on Valentine’s day when you automatically get more days in September.  Celebrate Pleasure Your Mate Month in September, for more time to bump and grind.

We, at embracedesires.com want to make sure that you have what you need to give your mate as much pleasure as they can enjoy, not just for a month, but all year round.

New Positions

sex positions Bronzed reverse cowgirl embracedesiresMissionary style sex positions have been performed since you first lost your virginity; at least that is true for us. Break away from ordinary vanilla sex: Try a new position to reignite passion. Embrace the sensual creature that is within you. It is easy to add mystery and intrigue into your bedroom romp. Get some position inspiration from Cosmo’s 28 Mind-Blowing Lesbian Sex Positions, or simply climb on top of your lover, and just as he gazes into your beautiful eyes thinking that he will be entering you while you eyes are locked on each other, turn your body facing away from him giving him a full and wondrous view of all of that junk in your trunk – yes, show off your Badonk! He’ll enjoy a handful of your booty as you ride him Reverse Cowgirl style. Yee Haw!

Talk That Talk

SextingTechnology has made it challenging to engage in stimulating conversations. Use the advancements that are already at your fingertips. Send a flirty text, “I’m thinking of you..guess what I’m doing” or for a more dirty text, send the following, “I need to fuck you“, to your partner.  If time and opportunity allows, Face Time your mate, Android users will have to go for video chat, in the nude and let them watch you fondle yourself or perform a strip tease.  Don’t have the time to chat?  Send them a sultry picture message, don’t worry about prying eyes, there are plenty of apps that can delete your picture and message after it’s sent.

Different Locations

The bedroom is usually the most convenient location to make love. You wake up horny, roll over and jump on your partner.  Change the ambiance if the bedroom is your only option. Do something out of the ordinary. Pleasure your partner with the lights on if the lights are usually off. Notice the sweat dripping from your partner’s skin. ooh, yes…You did that! How’s that for arousal?

Be Aware of Your Surroundings

When you are ready and able to try different locations for your sexual encounters, release your inhibitions and accept your adventurous self (be mindful of any local indecency laws in your area). Try this: Go out for a nice evening –sans panties of course, seize the opportunity for a quick scandalous tryst in a public bathroom, outside, alongside a building, on an empty train car, or a park.Be adventurous

If you are more of an indoors type of lover, ride your mate once you park your car in the garage, or other safe location. But hurry before the parking attendant comes checking on you. If you have a garage attached to your home, you are in luck, because you can just get it in your own garage.

When you finally make it home, you can engage in coitus UN-interruptus right there on the stairs. If you live in an apartment building, you have the heightened adrenaline rush of your neighbors walking up or down the stairs and getting a glimpse of you mid stroke.

Car

Damn those comfy bucket seats that cradles you oh so nicely! They are not the most sex friendly, we know. No one likes having the gearshift pressing so hard against their flesh that it leaves you numb, or your ass honking the horn when it gets sooo good. So it’s climbing into the backseat you two go. (That’s why pick-up trucks were really made).

Because Toys, ARE Us!

“Love has no limits (but it does have a safe word)”.

Sensual restraintsForget sending roses to turn on your partner. Surprise your loved one with a set of sexy restraints made from luxurious sensual silk. The decadent feel of soft, smooth fabric against her skin as you bind her hands is intoxicating. Make your lover your sex slave, even if it is only for the night. Remember your safe word. Once you have your partner tied up, reach for a powerful, yet quiet vibrator and stimulate her clitoris, varying the intensity. Ladies, you can blindfold you man and slip a comfortable ring on his (no, not his finger) already stiffening manhood and enjoy his cockiness.

Pleasuring your partner made easy, by embracedesires.com 😉

Open Up – Advice

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Share Your Thoughts – Open Up with Embracedesires.com

So we’ve been asked this question by more than one person and realized that it needed an answer.  While we are not psychiatrists, nor are we psychologists, we do have a bit of experience in relationships.

You can always open up with us.

Q: I’m a woman in her mid twenties and was asked by this guy that I just started seeing (we haven’t even had sex yet but he had the nerve to ask)  how many sexual partners have I had. I thought that was an inappropriate and invasive question and I stop talking to him. Am I  overreacting? I don’t think that is any of his business.

A:  In this day and age of increasing cases of H.I.V., and other STI’s on the rise, it is important to have the discussion of previous partners and past sexual activity.  That being said, disclosure of past exposures or contractions of STI’s should be a conversation to have with any potential partner before you become intimate.  It is the responsible thing to do.

Tell us what you think this woman should do.  Is she being immature for cutting this guy off?

New Release We-Vibe Passionate Play Collection

It seems the idea of having better sex is a popular one. Around the world, millions of people are already enjoying the growing line of elegant, high-quality and body-safe sexual wellness products. We-Vibe® is a global sensation, garnering rave reviews, massive media coverage and major awards. From sexual health and relationship experts to industry insiders and opinion-makers — everyone loves We-Vibe.

We Vibe Passionate Play collection

Now We-Vibe releases the Passionate Play Collection and you can get yours now .  The perfect gift for a happy couple, the We-Vibe Passionate Play Collection includes a limited-edition aqua blue We-Vibe 4 Plus, pearl white Tango and Silky Sash for fun play. This kit makes a fantastic wedding, anniversary, bridal shower or birthday gift for those who are tired of the ordinary. The We-Vibe 4 Plus provides 10 modes plus custom vibration playlists and a wireless remote control that can also be used with the We-Connect app. The rechargeable Tango offers powerful, quiet vibrations in 8 modes and can also be matched with any of the We-Vibe Dusk or Glow. The bonus Silky Sash can be used as a blindfold or gentle restraint.

6 Tips for Great Anal Sex – Rear Door Entry Lovemaking

anal sex, rear door entry, couples pleasureYou’ve heard the girls whispering about it. Anal sex. It’s true, every day people are engaging in and enjoying anal sex. You wonder what is soooo good about anal sex that is driving people to incredible depths of ecstasy. Rear entry love is supposed to be taboo and it’s supposed to hurt, right? Wrong!

First things first when it comes to having great anal sex. Relax; the anus is full of sensitive nerve endings that feel amazing when stimulated by a tongue, finger, penis, or toy. Before engaging in anal sex, you should be completely prepared – mentally and physically. Foreplay before anal sex is not only fun, but downright necessary.

Before you engage in anal sex or any sexual activity, there are a few basic rules.

Cleanliness is next to, well you know the rest.

You want your sexual encounters to be memorable. You remember what the person had on and you remember their scent. Ever have someone walk by and their enticing scent made you want to be closer to them? Some people have a naturally appealing smell. But there is nothing worse than having someone near you, let alone on top of you smelling horrific!

 LUBRICATION – Lube Me or Leave Me Alone

We cannot stress this enough.  Use plenty of lube.  Unlike the vagina and the mouth, the anus does not provide its own lubrication.  We recommend using a silicone based lube.  Silicone lasts longer than water based lubes and does not dry out or get yucky.  If you are using a latex safe condom, even though it says “lubricated”, for the purpose of anal sex, the lube on the condom isn’t enough, so always add more.

Love Me Long Time. Please.

Before you and your partner get started, foreplay is crucial when it comes to anal sex. Play with your anus.  It’s a great idea to get to know your body and find out what feels good to you ahead of time. Insert a well lubricated object (just make sure there are no jagged edges ie fingernails, damaged toys) inside of you or have your partner massage the rim of your anus.  When you are both ready to take your sex-ploration further, consider safe anilingus activity (oral sex of the anus – or simply put RIMMING) with your partner. Use a dental dam when performing this sexual act or you can cut open a condom and place it over the opening of the anus to protect yourself from bacteria normally found in the anus.

STOP! In The Name of All That is Great!!!

The prospect of having anal sex is as exciting for the giver as well as the receiver.  Make sure your partner proceeds with caution! When you are ready, your anus will relax to let you know when the time is right. When that time comes, your partner should slowly insert a toy, finger, or their penis inside of you.  A penis, even a toy, is a large object to insert inside of an anus, so be patient.  It may seem like it is taking forever to completely enter you, but the rewards are well worth it.  After you are relaxed from wonderful anal foreplay, allow your partner to enter you partially giving your body time to adjust to the size and fit.  Breathe slowly until you are relaxed and you feel yourself opening up more.  When you do open more, allow your partner to go deeper.  Adding additional lubrication if necessary. If you need a break, have your partner withdraw partially, then attempt re-entry going deeper with each stroke.

It Seems Like You’re Ready

If at any time during anal sex, you feel extreme pain or discomfort, STOP.  That is your body telling you that you are at risk for damage.  Let your partner know that you need a break.  Take some time, and when you are ready, add more lube and go for it.  embracedesires.com does not endorse desensitizing products for anal sex.

Now that you have the basic tips for great anal sex, experiment with different sex positions.

We aren’t alone in our excitement of anal sex. The people at Kinkly.com have something to say about great anal sex positions. We’ve shared a couple of our favorite and amazing sex positions with you.

Missionary

You get to look into your lovers eyes while they prepare to enter to enter you from the back, except you are watching their facial expressions. That’s HOT! Relax. Rub on your clit for an incredible experience. In the missionary positions, your back gets curved, making it easier to enter the rectum as it straightens out.

Face Down, A$$ Up!

Ah yes, the classic doggy style position for anal sex. Not only does he get an amazing view of you spread open with his manhood entering you, but in this position, the G-Spot gets an extra treat as it is easier to hit and he gets to go deeper. Yasss, honey!


Most importantly, be safe, be creative any time you are engaging in any sexual act. Make love fun. Incorporating lube and toys can be a fun and sensual accessory to your ana lovemaking experience.

Indulge your passions. Embrace your desires.

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Blow Job 101 – A Beginners Guide to Performing Like a Pro.

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People, people, people!  When you are trying to figure out how to give a man a blow job like a pro, there are some basic techniques that you want to follow. Too many people get caught up in the act of giving head that they forget that they can use the ENTIRE MOUTH: tongue, lips and teeth (only gently).  Become familiar with your man’s entire shaft.  Massage him completely with your tongue.  Hold his penis with a firm grip starting from the base and begin to really show it some attention.  Lick and kiss all over your man, tracing the full length of his manhood with your lips and tongue.

But that’s not all, there is more to expertly giving head than just holding your man in your mouth and sucking.  Discover some important how to tips on how to satisfy your man with an impressive oral sex performance.

Watch your attitude! It’s blow job basics to love a cheerful giver, so be generous and get into the spirit of giving when you’re about to give a man a blow job.

Offer to give head – Be warned:  You must be confident to do this.  Confidence is sexy.  Although this may seem simple enough to do, a lot of men say that they lose interest in a woman if they have to ask for oral pleasure.  So, step up to the mic and tell your man, “drop your pants and gimme 10!” (inches, that is). Besides, when you’re exceptional at your talents, show off! Who can turn down a great offer.

Watch your mouth! Most men don’t  like to have their sensitive skin scraped by sharp teeth when they are in the throes of passion.  Here’s a tip to prevent grinding against your partners magic stick.  Let your mouth fill with spit (yes the wetter, the better).
Really stretch your mouth open as if to make a big O with your lips. Take him inside of your mouth and suck him in. Use your cheek muscles to get the perfect suction and go down, down baby.

Take it to the top – The head of the penis is extremely sensitive.  Use your tongue to firmly caress the entire bulbous mound, then take him in and give him your best wet oral performance.  Unlike some women who prefer a gentle approach, men tend to prefer a more vigorous touch.

Bouncing Balls – Be easy on his balls (the nut sack or scrotum).  The testes are very sensitive.  Tenderly, squeeze his testicles either with your mouth or your hands by cupping them.  Gently, and we cannot stress this enough, gently massage his balls, but too much and you may find your aggressive attempt at seduction leaving your partner quivering in pain.

When you have the skill to delicately massage his balls in your mouth, remember to stroke the shaft.  Keep your well lubricated hands all over him. He’s going to be more receptive to you at this time.

Send a bing-bong to his ding dong.  Once you have him inside the depth of your mouth, send him a message via sound and vibration. Make some Noise!!!!  No, not any kind of noise.  Don’t worry about what your mother said about making noise while you have something in your mouth. Savor the flavor of your partner.  Make a delicious sound of slurping and humming and moaning while you are licking and sucking.  Wait, we need a break… Ok, what were we talking about?  Oh yeah, you want your partner into it, so you need to be into it as well.  A nice hum from your mouth while performing oral sex can simulate the gentle vibration he would get from a mini vibrator.

Go for a happy ending.  Put it in your mouth.  Not into swallowing your partner’s load? Play with his cum in your mouth.  Blow big semen filled bubbles.  Or let him release himself on you.  Embrace the milky shower your partner shared with you.
BONUS:  Rub it in.  Go on, rub his semen on you.  Using his semi erect penis, massage all of his creamy semen all over your face.  This bold seductive act shows him that you love every inch of him.  If you’re daring, you can even lightly tap your face if he is still leaking to get every last drop

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These Stylish and Luxurious Sex Toys Are Made to be Seen in Public

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Luxurious and stylish sexy accessories to enjoy in and out of the bedroom.

Gone are the days of hiding your sex toys. Innovative and forward-thinking companies have designed sex toys and accessories that are made to be viewed and enjoyed out in public.

Now when you get ready for your evening out, you don’t have to hide all of your sexy accoutrements.

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Temporary Tattoos

We know that temporary tattoos aren’t necessarily a sex toy, but they certainly are sexy!


Desir Metallic – Gold Collar

When Bijoux Indiscrets came onto the scene years ago, we knew they were going to be a hit.  This  provocative and sophisticated brand of erotic products from Spain has many luxe looking and affordable pieces for women.

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Bijoux Indiscrets – Desir Metallique

BELLA Couture Lingerie Ladies Harness

ladies harness, couture lingerie spareparts bella harnessBella is a distinctly dangerous blend of sensuality, sophistication, and drama—and the most intoxicating lingerie harness we have seen yet!  From the midnight rendezvous to the morning motorcycle ride, Bella’s ready. With BELLA, everything smolders: delicate stretchable lace, a cascading bow, and the perfect peek of rear cleavage. Bella cuts a stunning silhouette—and casts a spell impossible to shake. Bella’s breathable, barely-there fabric is luxuriously soft and ideal for all-day wear.


50 Shades of Grey Christian Grey Necktie

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No rendezvous is complete without a little bit of role play. Let the fantasy become a reality with Christian Grey’s Tie. Made from luxurious silver and grey quilting, it’s a soft and versatile accessory that can be enjoyed both in and out of the bedroom.

 

 

 

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Cock Rings 101 or Why a Man Should wear A Cock Ring – Intense Orgasms, of Course!

Cock Ring 101. Intense Orgasms, Look Bigger.  Yes,  A Cock Ring Will Do That for YOU!

If you or your man ever wanted to experience more intense orgasms, he should wear a cock ring. Here are some basic rules why a man should wear a cock ring.  Some men who have never worn a cock ring before (gasp!  I know)  wonder why should they.  We are here to give you reasons why you should wear a cock ring.

Cock rings are designed to maintain erections and possibly create more intense orgasms.  They are worn around the base of the penis, or around the penis and testicles, and restrict the blood flow from leaving the penis.  Awesome, Right?  Cock rings can also be a fun and exciting addition to anyone’s sex life, whether with a parnter or flying solo.

But you want us to tell you WHY you should wear a cock ring?  What are good reasons to wear one.  Ok, read on…

feels good 150x150 Cock Rings 101 or Why a Man Should wear A Cock Ring   Intense Orgasms They feel good.  It’s almost like the penis and testicles have a firm grip around them.

It can make the penis look – dare we say –  BIGGER and maybe even LONGER

Cock rings can help the man who has trouble staying hard.
Gives you more intense orgasms. Gives you longer, firmer erections.

Now for some of the fun stuff.  Do you know that there is a method to measuring yourself or your man for the perfect fit?  Yes!  Just as women need to be sized for the perfect engagement/wedding ring, men should be properly fitted for a cock ring.

MEASURING

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To find the right ring size, take a piece of string (the same way if you needed to sneak at finding her ring size) and wrap it around the base of an ERECT penis, giving you the circumference.  For rings worn around the penis and testicles, measure and wrap around behind

the testicles and as close to the body as you can while the penis is ERECT for the circumference.  Because ring sizes are given in diameter, you will need to divide this number by Pi (3.14 – don’t worry if you were cutting class that day, we will help you figure it out).

For example:  If the penis measures 6″ ÷ 3.14 =1.91. You will need a ring that is smaller that 1.91″ but within .25″ – .5″ to ensure a comfortable fit without constricting too much.

STYLE OF COCK RING

The style of the cock ring that you select should have a firm enough grip around the penis to restict blood flow, yet comfortable enough so that it does not completely cut blood circulation of entirely.

PUTTING ON A COCK RING

Adjustable cock rings can be put on any time during an erection by simply strething or strapping the ring so that it fits snuggly around the base of the penis or behind the testicles.  Since they are flexible, they can also be removed easily at any time.

Firm non-adjustable rings:

Always start with a flaccid (non erect) penis

Holding the ring under the testicles, insert one at a time

Pull the penis through the ring and adjust for comfort.

To remove the ring, the penis must be flaccid, and simply reverse the process.

HOW LONG SHOULD I WEAR A COCK RING?

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To prevent damage or bruising to the penis, a ring should not completely restrict the blood flow for longer than 20 minutes at a time.  If discomfort is felt at any time, the ring should be removed as quickly and gently as possible.

We are pleased to offer both Adjustable and Non Adjustable style cock rings in a variety of materials.  Visit our Men’s Store to find cock rings, penis jewelry and other sensual accessories just for men at The Men’s Store

Adjustable – great for beginners.  They allow the user to experience what a penis ring can offer, while being able to remove them quickly if the sensations become too intense. These styles can be worn at the base of the penis or behind the testicles.

Non-Adjustable – Firm ring that have little or no flexibility for more advanced users who have experimented with rings before and are familiar with how intense the sensations can get.  These are usually worn behind the testicles.

Sex Buddy Coming Over? Shut the Front Door – Just make sure it is unlocked!

She doesn’t really like him that much. To be truthful, when they were together as an exclusive couple during their college years, they were incompatible, to say the least.

The rekindling of their “relationship” quickly turned them into becoming sex buddies.  It was the typical “I will call you when I want sex from you”.  It has worked for them many years after their exclusive relationship ended.

He wasn’t all that bad.  He did have one remarkable thing about him.  He knew how to go down on her, and he was great at it.  There’s nothing wrong with just wanting a man because he can eat good pussy is it? Her thoughts are, men keep women around for similar reasons so why shouldn’t she be able to as well.  Anyway, they’ve known each other a long time, four years to be exact and even though they hardly speak on the phone, they manage to remain friendly towards one another.

Their sex buddy agreement was she gets to decide when, how, where, and how, he was simply there for her pleasure.

Earlier in the week, they agreed to meet, she was horny and he was in willing. He missed her taste.  Her curves.  He missed her scent. Suffice it to say that he anticipated her visit as much as she anticipated his.  She took her hot bubble bath to get the seductive scent she knew turned him on, to soak into her skin, swallowed her Sweeten69 secretion sweetener pills so her juices taste sweeter,

(after all, he was coming for a meal) had a couple glasses of wine to mellow out, (the thought of looking at him required her to be a bit less than sober) the red vines were firmly in place (a sexy trick she picked up) and for once was on time and headed out of the door.

Once inside of the car, she called and told him that she was on her way and an approximate time that she expected to be there.

All of the traffic lights were green (a good sign from the Universe, she thought), made it to his house in record time AND found parking close to their designated meeting.

She gets out, of the car, takes extra care in how she struts to the door – he always enjoyed watching her breasts jiggle when she walked besides, you never know who is watching – there could be a potential suitor looking, then discovers…. The fucking door is Locked!!!!

After all the time that you have been waiting and wanting her, get her to agree to come over and you leave the door locked?

Since when does he lock the damn door?!?!?  The door has never been locked for any of their other meetups.  Why now?  Do you expect her to stand out there ringing the bell like some desperate teenager?  This is a grown ass Woman!  What does she do?

No worries.

She does what any woman would do.

She left. She turned around, with her head held high, walked confidently back to her car and drove off.

He gets upset and says she was wrong.  Was she?

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