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Torn Between Two Lovers – Talking To Your Partner About An Open Relationship

threesomes, menage a trois, polyamory

Open Relationships; A fantasy some people think of. How do you start talking to your partner about having an open relationship? Being pleased by your lover and another simultaneously is extremely erotic. But what happens when your otherwise reserved partner admits that having a threesome is something they want to experience, not just in their head? So many questions come up? Does my partner want to live out this fantasy because I am not satisfying them sexually? Is this the beginning of the end of our relationship? Could this be an excuse that my partner is using to walk away from our relationship?

Three’s Company.

Not the sassy sitcom with the two female and sole male roommate from the seventies, we’re talking about what happens when people agree to an open marriage or open relationship? When two people make the decision to bring in a third (or more) partner can be both exciting and frightening. To ease that transition, try reading The Threesome Handbook – A practical guide to sleeping with three by Vicky Vantoch. Her book provides a practical guide to sleeping with three. It gives perks of the poly-amorous lifestyle, especially how to prevent jealousy and finding the perfect third partner for BOTH of you.

But here are some basic tips for those interested in exploring the threesome lifestyle:

Don’t include a friend, family member or co-worker. (you have to deal with them on a regular basis and if things didn’t go well, you may have created a mess).
Do NOT include your ex!
Take a trip. Find someone who is willing and someone you won’t have to see on a regular basis.
Remember who the original couple is. Tend to your partner’s needs and keep in mind that the third person is just extra, not a replacement. This means that the third person shouldn’t linger in the bed with you and your partner.
Reassure your partner. What you two are doing is for the pleasure of you both. Tell your partner how much your experience turns you on, Your partner is your main priority, so make sure to tell them.
Practice safe sex. Let’s face it, STI’s are still out there and the person you bring into your relationship may have a dormant infection that they didn’t tell you about. Plus there are so many fun condoms in different textures to choose from.
Set up guidelines on what is acceptable and discuss them with your partner BEFOREHAND.

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June 19, 2015 0

6 Tips for Great Anal Sex – Rear Door Entry Lovemaking

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You’ve heard the girls whispering about it. Anal sex. It’s true, every day people are engaging in and enjoying anal sex. You wonder what is soooo good about anal sex that is driving people to incredible depths of ecstasy. Rear entry love is supposed to be taboo and it’s supposed to hurt, right? Wrong!

First things first when it comes to having great anal sex. Relax; the anus is full of sensitive nerve endings that feel amazing when stimulated by a tongue, finger, penis, or toy. Before engaging in anal sex, you should be completely prepared – mentally and physically. Foreplay before anal sex is not only fun, but downright necessary.

Before you engage in anal sex or any sexual activity, there are a few basic rules.

Cleanliness is next to, well you know the rest.

You want your sexual encounters to be memorable. You remember what the person had on and you remember their scent. Ever have someone walk by and their enticing scent made you want to be closer to them? Some people have a naturally appealing smell. But there is nothing worse than having someone near you, let alone on top of you smelling horrific!

LUBRICATION – Lube Me or Leave Me Alone

We cannot stress this enough. Use plenty of lube. Unlike the vagina and the mouth, the anus does not provide its own lubrication. We recommend using a silicone based lube. Silicone lasts longer than water based lubes and does not dry out or get yucky. If you are using a latex safe condom, even though it says “lubricated”, for the purpose of anal sex, the lube on the condom isn’t enough, so always add more.

Love Me Long Time. Please.

Before you and your partner get started, foreplay is crucial when it comes to anal sex. Play with your anus. It’s a great idea to get to know your body and find out what feels good to you ahead of time. Insert a well lubricated object (just make sure there are no jagged edges ie fingernails, damaged toys) inside of you or have your partner massage the rim of your anus. When you are both ready to take your sex-ploration further, consider safe anilingus activity (oral sex of the anus – or simply put RIMMING) with your partner. Use a dental dam when performing this sexual act or you can cut open a condom and place it over the opening of the anus to protect yourself from bacteria normally found in the anus.

STOP! In The Name of All That is Great!!!

The prospect of having anal sex is as exciting for the giver as well as the receiver. Make sure your partner proceeds with caution! When you are ready, your anus will relax to let you know when the time is right. When that time comes, your partner should slowly insert a toy, finger, or their penis inside of you. A penis, even a toy, is a large object to insert inside of an anus, so be patient. It may seem like it is taking forever to completely enter you, but the rewards are well worth it. After you are relaxed from wonderful anal foreplay, allow your partner to enter you partially giving your body time to adjust to the size and fit. Breathe slowly until you are relaxed and you feel yourself opening up more. When you do open more, allow your partner to go deeper. Adding additional lubrication if necessary. If you need a break, have your partner withdraw partially, then attempt re-entry going deeper with each stroke.

It Seems Like You’re Ready

If at any time during anal sex, you feel extreme pain or discomfort, STOP. That is your body telling you that you are at risk for damage. Let your partner know that you need a break. Take some time, and when you are ready, add more lube and go for it. embracedesires.com does not endorse desensitizing products for anal sex.

Now that you have the basic tips for great anal sex, experiment with different sex positions.

We aren’t alone in our excitement of anal sex. The people at Kinkly.com have something to say about great anal sex positions. We’ve shared a couple of our favorite and amazing sex positions with you.

Missionary

You get to look into your lovers eyes while they prepare to enter to enter you from the back, except you are watching their facial expressions. That’s HOT! Relax. Rub on your clit for an incredible experience. In the missionary positions, your back gets curved, making it easier to enter the rectum as it straightens out.

Face Down, A$$ Up!

Ah yes, the classic doggy style position for anal sex. Not only does he get an amazing view of you spread open with his manhood entering you, but in this position, the G-Spot gets an extra treat as it is easier to hit and he gets to go deeper. Yasss, honey!

Most importantly, be safe, be creative any time you are engaging in any sexual act. Make love fun. Incorporating lube and toys can be a fun and sensual accessory to your ana lovemaking experience.

Indulge your passions. Embrace your desires.

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Why you should take Your Lovelife to the Next level during the Springtime

We are sensual beings. Be prepared. Take your love life to the next level. I did. Take yoga to increase your strength, stamina and flexibility. Try a pole dancing class or buy a pole along with a how-to dvd on technique and practice practice practice. Learn strip tease techniques, give your partner a private show and end with a lap dance. Get a Kegels training dvd and practice practice practice. They can be done anywhere and any time. As your pelvic muscles are strengthened you and your partner will thank you for it. Learn how to properly give an erotic massage on the body including the genitals.The ecstasy gotten from that type of massage is amazing and tremendously satisfying. Oral sex is better when you have a greater knowledge of what to do, how to do it and how long to do it. Learn your partners body response to your tongue, teeth and lips. Then learn how to take your time, and you will have a long, sensual oral session and give your partner multiple orgasms. Who wouldn’t enjoy that?? I found a dvd on penis enlargement and tried some techniques on my lover during our love making sessions; without his knowledge I might add. His already long strong cock grew longer, wider and harder for longer periods of time. His ejaculations became stronger and harder and his stamina is like that of an Olympic champion. Eat foods that are good for you and good to you.

April 3, 2015 1

Floggers vs Whips – Which One is Right?

Floggers Whips BDSM

flog [flog, flawg]
verb (used with object), flogged, flogging.

To beat with a whip, stick, etc., usually in the BDSM lifestyle as punishment; whip; scourge.

We’ve been asked, “if they do the same thing, what is the difference between whips and floggers and how do I know which one is right for me”?

In a nutshell, a whip is a general, umbrella term that covers many sub- categories: Canes, floggers, crops, paddles, and whips. The main difference in these subcategories is in their flexibility. Canes , crops, and paddles are typically inflexible objects made from solid materials like wood, steel, or even bamboo, but floggers and whips are much more flexible.

They are all designed to strike or inflict pain upon the recipient. Both floggers and whips come in a wide variety of materials: leather, faux leather, chains, rubber, fake fur, pretty much any material that can move freely with a flick of your arm.

Keep in mind, that floggers typically have multiple tails or strands (usually more than nine). And whips generally have a single tail or strand.

The main difference between being flogged and whipped is in your stance.

The sound achieved from flogging can sound like a thud and you can enjoy a stinging sensation which can be described as being as soft as a feather to being as sharp as a knife cutting your skin.

Whichever striking method you choose, always remember to have a safe word so your partner can go as intense as you can handle and a safe word to know when to ease back.

March 26, 2015 0

4 Truths About Female Ejaculation: The Debate Continues by Amy Jo Goddard

Amy Jo Goddard – Sexual Empowerment Coach

Female ejaculation is still a hot button topic as demonstrated by the response to the research study just published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine that was then misappropriated by the popular website I Fucking Love Science.

In the 90s when “female ejaculation” became “a thing” I questioned the use of the word “female”. Why is it not just ejaculation? Why do we need the female modifier, as if it’s a lesser version of the “real thing”? People with penises ejaculate. People with vulvas ejaculate. People ejaculate as a sexual response to things that make them feel good. At the end of the day, that’s what is most important.

It’s called “female” because many people find it incomprehensible that men and women—people with all matter of genitalia—ejaculate. Some seem to maintain that ejaculation shall remain a marvel of man, untouchable and unachievable by the ladies.

It got to a point where women who ejaculate were making videos teaching other women how to do it. The pressure was on. And that’s exactly what we don’t need. But well-meaning female ejaculators wanted more women to experience the gush.

Studies have been done in order to figure out just what this “female ejaculate” that so-called squirters propel into the faces and eyes of their beloveds is made of. The Federation of Feminist Women’s Health Centers published their groundbreaking book A New View of a Woman’s Body in 1991 because they were done with the male bias in research that had rendered us disabled in our scientific information about female sexuality. They did their own dissections and renamed many female genital parts based on that research. Other small-scale studies have been done examining female ejaculate, which Rebecca Chalker outlines in The Clitoral Truth.

The recent study is no different. It’s small. It’s not a significant sample (7 women to be exact), and there is bias in the way the findings are discussed. But we love pop science and IFLS put out a headline that even the research didn’t state: “Study Concludes That Women Who Squirt During Sex Are Actually Peeing.” Nope. That’s not what the research says. It says urine is “indicated”. Along with prostatic fluid. Yep, female bodies make that too.

Sex Educator and Nurse-Midwife Sheri Winston proposes that female ejaculation is antimicrobial and designed to keep potential infection-producing agents out of the urethra.Given that women often get UTIs from sex it makes a whole lot of sense that our body would have a function to prevent infections that can cause dangerous kidney and full-body infections. Our bodies are amazing with immunity. Where’s the research on that? It’s a really good research question.

Let’s break down what’s really important about “female ejaculation”.

Number one: There is not nearly enough real science about healthy sexuality because healthy sexuality will never fill the pockets of big pharma. Our science on female sexuality is light years behind the science of male sexuality because it doesn’t get funded. Unless there is a sexual “dysfunction” involved that might require some pills—or that we could spin so people think they need more pills.

Two: Ejaculation is real in both males and females. Women report ejaculating and indeed it has been documented in old Chinese texts, The Kama Sutra, and by Aristotle. It’s not new and it’s not a myth. Ask any woman who experiences it. Seriously, why are some folks so avidly trying to discredit the ejaculate? #Ejaculatehappens

Three: Regardless of the content of the fluid, which does contain prostatic fluid from the paraurethral and Skene’s glands, it results from a sexual event. Calling it “bedwetting” or attempting to shame women because it contains urine is totally dismissive of the arousal that creates it. Amy Luna Manderino of the Sex Evolution proposes we call it an “orgasmic flush.” This highlights the fact that sexual arousal produces the fluid. It is also likely that ejaculation has a function, as Winston purports.

Four: Women don’t need to feel pressure to ejaculate. We’ve got enough pressure about sex. If things are working and you are having pleasure, enjoy it. And if it’s important to you to learn this sex skill, then go to a workshop or check out the “How to Female Ejaculate” video and have at it. Avoid concluding that something about you is inadequate if you don’t seem to ejaculate. You could be You could be ejaculating in small amounts that are harder to detect or maybe you don’t. What’s important is that you are happy with your sexual functioning. Keep the pressure off.

If you are a woman who does ejaculate, please don’t let this poorly done research and research reporting shame you into holding back or altering how you come. If it feels good, enjoy it. Ejaculate is not the same as urine and even if it were? Urine is mostly water. If you ejaculate, fantastic. Keep having those orgasmic flushes and enjoy the ride.

Amy Jo Goddard is a Sexual Empowerment Coach who thrives on helping people have the delicious sex and relationships they desire. With 20 years of experience in the sexuality field, she works virtually with private clients, and holds sumptuous VIP Days in the beautiful Napa Valley. She facilitates a 9-month unique Women’s Sexual Empowerment Program where women have opportunities to deeply explore, heal and celebrate their sexuality and desire. Amy Jo travels as a speaker, and teaches classes that help people connect to their sexuality, make more money, and enjoy greater abundance and pleasure in their lives. She is working on a forthcoming book about sexual empowerment and writes about practical, real-world sexuality at amyjogoddard.com. You can subscribe to her weekly ezine to receive her sexual empowerment articles and videos, and for information on upcoming classes & trainings.

March 11, 2015 1

Do Numbers Lie? Good News for the Average Guy

Size doesn’t matter anymore.

According to a new study conducted by British researchers, there’s a new truth about penis size.

A recent study published online March 2, 2015 in the British Journal of Urology International says you just may be one of the men with a big dick in a room, if you were to be standing in a room full of dicks.

Now you may not be as endowed as Jonah Falcon, the man with the largest penis, but chances are likely that you are now considered to be above average.

Remember the days of yore when you would use any device – your mothers’ sewing kit measuring tape, ruler, soda can just to name a few, to see how you measured up and compared yourself to the older boys?

Now that never-ending question of, “How Do I Measure Up”, has an answer. A real scientific answer. So get out your measuring devices and prepare to be amazed.

The average length of an erect penis is 5. 16 inches (13.12 centimeters) and the average circumference is 4.59 inches (11.66 centimeters), according to a new study of penis length involving over 15,000 men aged 17 – 91 from around the world.

When soft, the average man is 3. 16 inches ( 9.16 centimeters) in length. These volunteers were men who were previously measured in other studies in Europe, Asia, Africa and North America.

Gentlemen, we thank you for your hard work.

To be fair and honest, most of the participants were of European and Middle Eastern descent. And the study didn’t find evidence that penis size was linked to race. So if you think that there’s any truth to the “Big feet, Big meat” myth, sorry, the researchers didn’t find any convincing correlation between a man’s foot size and the size of his manhood either.

According to the study, how do you measure up?

March 4, 2015 0

Aphrodisiac Drinks to Stimulate Your Senses

Cardamom rose drink

Aprodisiac : n – arousing sexual desire. From the Greek word relating to love or desire.

Aphrodisiac drinks are a great way to add naturally stimulating ingredients to boost your libido. Adding alcohol to your libations help you relax and get you in the mood. Make a toast with that special someone, even if that special someone is YOU, with any one of these seductive concoctions. With ingredients like cardamom, ginger, these drinks are sure to arouse sexual desires.

Cupid’s Kiss

Courtesy of Lords of the Drinks

Cupid's Kiss image -Lords of the Drinks — Cupid’s Kiss image -Lords of the Drinks

How can a cocktail with this name not lead to success right?!? The first girl that doesn’t like chocolate, the main ingredient of this drink, probably still hasn’t been born. Chocolate is also a major aphrodisiac – just like cherries – and in combination with alcohol you have a dangerous weapon on your hands.
Ingredients:
1.5 parts wild cherry infused vodka
1.5 part coconut flavored vodka
1.5 part dark chocolate liqueur
1 splash of chocolate syrup
cocoa powder
Preparation: Put the vodka’s, chocolate and chocolate syrup in an iced shaker and shake it vigorously. Pour in a chocolate rimmed cocktail glass and add cocoa to the rim to finish this drink off.

How can you resist the alluring scent of cardamom? Cardamom is a nicely aromatic spice. In many cultures and mystic circles it is viewed as an intensely powerful aphrodisiac. These ingredients combined turn this sophisticated drink into a romantic soft pink shade.

Cardamom Rose Cocktail:

courtesy Design Sponge

Ingredients:

1.5 oz of Hendrick’s gin (this is a rose and cucumber infused gin)

.75 oz of rose water syrup

.25 oz of fresh lemon juice

.75 oz of fresh grapefruit juice (ruby red preferably)

2 dashes of Peychauds bitters

1 cardamom pod

Preparation:

1) Lightly muddle 1 cardamom pod at the bottom of shaker (not too much muddling or it will overpower the drink)

2) Add the rest of the ingredients

3) Add ice

4) Shake for 20 seconds

5) Strain over fresh ice to remove the cardamom pod

6) Add a splash of seltzer water

7) Garnish with rose petals or fresh lemon wedge (use organic if possible)

Honeymoon Martini

courtesy of Honeymoon Honey Wine

3 oz Honeymoon Honey Wine

2 Maraschino Cherries

1.5 oz Premium Vodka

2 Dashes Grenadine

Pour Honeymoon Honey Wine®, Premium Vodka and Two Dashes of Grenadine into a cocktail shaker half-filled with ice. Place the cherries into a chilled cocktail glass. Shake well and strain the honeymoon mixture

over the cherries. The Honeymoon Martini is Pink & Sweet

Honeymoon Honey Wine Martini

Looking for more? Check out these Libido Boosting Recipes to compliment your aphrodisiac drinks.

After all is said and done, remember, the best aphrodisiacs are words. Tell your significant other how much they mean to you.

Leave a comment below on your favorite aphrodisiac to get you in the mood.

February 2, 2015 0

Blow Job 101 – A Beginners Guide to Performing Like a Pro.

People, people, people! When you are trying to figure out how to give a man a blow job like a pro, there are some basic techniques that you want to follow. Too many people get caught up in the act of giving head that they forget that they can use the ENTIRE MOUTH: tongue, lips and teeth (only gently). Become familiar with your man’s entire shaft. Massage him completely with your tongue. Hold his penis with a firm grip starting from the base and begin to really show it some attention. Lick and kiss all over your man, tracing the full length of his manhood with your lips and tongue.

But that’s not all, there is more to expertly giving head than just holding your man in your mouth and sucking. Discover some important how to tips on how to satisfy your man with an impressive oral sex performance.

Watch your attitude! It’s blow job basics to love a cheerful giver, so be generous and get into the spirit of giving when you’re about to give a man a blow job.

Offer to give head – Be warned: You must be confident to do this. Confidence is sexy. Although this may seem simple enough to do, a lot of men say that they lose interest in a woman if they have to ask for oral pleasure. So, step up to the mic and tell your man, “drop your pants and gimme 10!” (inches, that is). Besides, when you’re exceptional at your talents, show off! Who can turn down a great offer.

Watch your mouth! Most men don’t like to have their sensitive skin scraped by sharp teeth when they are in the throes of passion. Here’s a tip to prevent grinding against your partners magic stick. Let your mouth fill with spit (yes the wetter, the better).
Really stretch your mouth open as if to make a big O with your lips. Take him inside of your mouth and suck him in. Use your cheek muscles to get the perfect suction and go down, down baby.

Take it to the top – The head of the penis is extremely sensitive. Use your tongue to firmly caress the entire bulbous mound, then take him in and give him your best wet oral performance. Unlike some women who prefer a gentle approach, men tend to prefer a more vigorous touch.

Bouncing Balls – Be easy on his balls (the nut sack or scrotum). The testes are very sensitive. Tenderly, squeeze his testicles either with your mouth or your hands by cupping them. Gently, and we cannot stress this enough, gently massage his balls, but too much and you may find your aggressive attempt at seduction leaving your partner quivering in pain.

When you have the skill to delicately massage his balls in your mouth, remember to stroke the shaft. Keep your well lubricated hands all over him. He’s going to be more receptive to you at this time.

Send a bing-bong to his ding dong. Once you have him inside the depth of your mouth, send him a message via sound and vibration. Make some Noise!!!! No, not any kind of noise. Don’t worry about what your mother said about making noise while you have something in your mouth. Savor the flavor of your partner. Make a delicious sound of slurping and humming and moaning while you are licking and sucking. Wait, we need a break… Ok, what were we talking about? Oh yeah, you want your partner into it, so you need to be into it as well. A nice hum from your mouth while performing oral sex can simulate the gentle vibration he would get from a mini vibrator.

Go for a happy ending. Put it in your mouth. Not into swallowing your partner’s load? Play with his cum in your mouth. Blow big semen filled bubbles. Or let him release himself on you. Embrace the milky shower your partner shared with you.
BONUS: Rub it in. Go on, rub his semen on you. Using his semi erect penis, massage all of his creamy semen all over your face. This bold seductive act shows him that you love every inch of him. If you’re daring, you can even lightly tap your face if he is still leaking to get every last drop

January 14, 2015 0

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