A Month by Month Plan for a Sex-Sational New Year

New Years, brings new things! 365 new chances to live the life you have always wanted to live! For the New Year, remember to make your sex resolutions. Don’t waste another day-in fact, don’t waist another moment! When considering how to improve your health and well-being in 2013, make sure to plan for a  sex-sational New Year and New You! Go for more orgasms! Yes, yes, yes and oh yes! More orgasms can improve your physical, mental and emotional health! When you indulge in your passions, you open the door to embracing your desires which may help you to achieve your entire resolution list! Wouldn’t that be great! To get started, all you need is a month-by-month plan. Here are 6 ways for the next 6 months to change your life forever, enhance sexual pleasure and improve your overall health over the next six months.  Stay tuned for more!

  1. Just Do It January

It’s the beginning of the New Year! Let your inhibitions down and like the athletic giant says, Just do it! According to Dr. Laura Berman, a leading sex and relationship therapist on OWN, the Oprah Winfrey Network, make a resolution to stay open to the promise of sex even if you aren’t immediately in the mood. Kiss your partner, enjoy his touches, and let your mind delve into fantasy. Stay open to sex and tune into the pleasure of being touched and kissed. You will likely find that your body responds and that you are in the mood after all!

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Benefit: Burn calories

Have more sex, more often. Depending on your sex position, experts say 30 minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. (Ladies, you will burn more calories during sex when you are on top). It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Wow! Orgasm plus weight loss!  Doubling up, you could drop that pound just by having sex for a few weeks.

2.   Freaky February

February is the shortest month to try something new! Think of the freakiest thing you’ve ever wanted to try and go for it! Try a new sexual position – Need a bit of inspiration? Check out the erotic, instructional and informative readings on Embracedesires.com to get you started. You might discover a new favorite…or two or three or more!  Buy some new lingerie. Use a new toy. Have you ever tried a Sex Swing? A Lovemaking Lounger? Do you want to be tied up? Has the book series 50 Shades of Grey left you wanting to be…Dominated? You must tell your partner what interests you! Say, “Spank Me”. Be bold and daring, just make sure you tell your partner. Write it down and leave it as a little love note or text, if you can’t say it. Life is too short – indulge your passions and embrace your desires.  Be as uninhibited as you desire! And oh, have fun with it! Embracedesires.com has just what you need to help you unleash your inner temptress — 50 Shades of Pleasure, Sexual Pleasure Items, Bondage Play, Anal toys, Vibrating toys & so much more!

Benefit: Improves Your Heart Health

Having sex may be good for your heart. A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex twice or more a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month.

3.    Masturbate March

Masturbate much?  It’s ok. Go on, make love to yourself! Really get to know the one person you’ve been with your entire life!  Self-stimulation is normal, healthy and a wonderful way to get in touch with your hot spots. Be sure to use a high quality lube when pleasuring yourself to make each stroke wonderful. Go for mutual masturbation. Simultaneously, stimulate each other during Masturbate March.  For a unique and erotic experience, stimulate each other without penetration and see who comes to climax first. Winner gets to dominate. For stimulation without risk of a fatigued hand, use toys – grab the batteries and your favorite vibrator or introduce yourself to a new toy friend for clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Men can benefit from the use of a onacup (male masturbation sleeve) with a vibrating bullet. If you don’t know how to love yourself, nobody else will…

Benefit: Reduce Stress

Natural endorphins released during self-stimulating pleasure can improve your overall mood by improved circulation and relieving stress.

4.      Anal April

Let’s get to the bottom of anal sex and straight men. Many straight guys have preconceived notions about anal play. Mainly, if you derive pleasure from anal stimulation, you must somehow be gay. Guys, you can still have the raging heterosexuality of an NFL offensive line and explore your all of your erogenous zones. The anus is full of sensitive nerve tissue that, when stimulated can bring immense pleasure. Sexual orientation doesn’t change based on pleasure zones. We recommend that you start by experimenting with a well silicone –  lubed finger.  If you are worried about residue, wear sterile gloves, and then lube your finger with a quality silicone lube.  When you and your partner are ready, then you can graduate to anal plugs. Anal plugs with a flare at the end are best if you want to avoid a trip to the ER…”uh, Doc, I was reading this blog a few hours ago and…, well you get the idea.  We highly suggest the use of silicone-based lubricants highest for pleasure during anal sex. The silicone will not be absorbed into your skin as would water-based lubes thus reducing friction and increasing pleasure. Word to the wise – START OFF SLOW! Your ass isn’t going anywhere!  If it hurts, take a break.

Benefit: Boost Immunity

Having sex, whether anal or vaginal, boosts your immunity. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.

 5.      Mind-Blowing May

Give your partner mind-blowing pleasure throughout the year, but especially during May. Dedicate this month to perfecting your oral skills. Oral sex is one of the most delightful ways couples can give each other pleasure without saying a word. Most men are fans of the blow job as it gives them intense sexual sensations and can bring him to a pretty intense orgasm. To make him go weak at the knees, when giving him a blow job linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive – the tip of his penis, his testicles and his perineum – the secret spot between the testicles and the anus. To get you started, read How to Give a Mind-blowing Blowjob by Linda Sussman. Ladies, this must read will teach you just how to make him moan with pleasure!

Some studies suggest that women love receiving oral sex also. In fact, 30 to 50 percent of women say they can’t reach an orgasm through intercourse alone. A woman’s clitoris is the most pleasure-sensitive part of her vagina and that’s where you’ll want to devote your attention. In fact, the tiny little clitoris has more sensory nerve endings than the entire penis! Stimulating your partner’s vulva, clitoris and entrance to the vagina using your tongue, lips and mouth will drive her wild, resulting in a super intense orgasm! So, relax and share the pleasure – both giving and receiving to experience a new dimension of sensuality…mmh, mmmh, good!

Benefit: Improve your mood

Orgasms increase estrogen and endorphin levels which makes you feel good and naturally improves your mood.

 6.     G-spot June

Want to find your infamous G-spot? Search for it! Seriously, enjoy discovering your deepest pleasure spot! Insert about two well lubed fingers inside of your vagina (glycerin and paraben free water-based lube works best), turn your hand so your fingers are pointed up and towards your belly, and motion with as if you are beckoning the orgasm to you. You’ve lived with your body all your life; take the time to get to know yourself! The physical truth: There’s a mass of spongy tissue that surrounds the urethra, called the urethral sponge. And like other parts of the body, the tissue is full of blood vessels and nerve endings. “We know something is there − way too many women have had pleasure by stimulating… that area of the vagina,” says Amy Levine, NYC certified sexual educator.  “We also know some women ejaculate when there’s pressure applied to the same area.” Every woman’s vulva and vagina is not the same, and bundles of highly sensitive nerve endings may be in different places. Which may explain why some respond well to a certain technique or position and others don’t.  While some women’s G-spot is located about two inches from the entrance of the vagina, another woman’s g-spot might be further from the entrance of her vagina and that’s why she needs you to hit her cervix! It is time that we all start getting more of what we want! Embrace your desires in 2013. Have better sex!  It will improve your life and your health.

Benefit: It’s your sex life, make it better!