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Everybody Should Know This About Anal Sex

Once upon a time, Bob wanted his girlfriend, Sally to engage in Heterosexual Anal Intercourse. Sally, being the good 20 something girl that she is, said, oh no, I can’t do that – it’s bad, none of my friends are into that!.  Well, hold on for a second, Sally, recent discoveries in the National Institute of Health Library of Medicine say otherwise.

Anal sex. Butt Fucking.  Digging down in the brown eye.  No matter what term you use for Rear Entry Intercourse, anal sex is very popular among heterosexual women between the ages of 15 – 44.

Anal Sex Popular Among This Group

In the past 12 months, researchers have discovered that heterosexual anal intercourse is prevalent in women with higher incomes and education levels.  Hey now! No one ever tells you that on college tours.  Enjoying anal sex is another reason to go to college and get that degree.

Via Giphy

So for all of you Sally’s out there, ride Sally ride! Why? Because the anus if full of sensitive nerve endings that feel amazing when stimulated with a well- lubricated finger, anal specific pleasure item, or penis.

 

 

Open Up – Advice

relationship advice column, embrace desires
Share Your Thoughts – Open Up with Embracedesires.com

So we’ve been asked this question by more than one person and realized that it needed an answer.  While we are not psychiatrists, nor are we psychologists, we do have a bit of experience in relationships.

You can always open up with us.

Q: I’m a woman in her mid twenties and was asked by this guy that I just started seeing (we haven’t even had sex yet but he had the nerve to ask)  how many sexual partners have I had. I thought that was an inappropriate and invasive question and I stop talking to him. Am I  overreacting? I don’t think that is any of his business.

A:  In this day and age of increasing cases of H.I.V., and other STI’s on the rise, it is important to have the discussion of previous partners and past sexual activity.  That being said, disclosure of past exposures or contractions of STI’s should be a conversation to have with any potential partner before you become intimate.  It is the responsible thing to do.

Tell us what you think this woman should do.  Is she being immature for cutting this guy off?

A Few of Our Favorite Things

People have asked us what are some of our all time favorites.  Now that isn’t really fair, because we believe that all of the products we offer are great and we would definitely try each one of them as soon as we could.  But, we must admit we do have our favorites and decided to share them with you.

Liberator Fascinator Throe (“Big Red” as we affectionately call it)

This lil cover really sucks!  In a good way.  It disguises itself as a boudoir throw blanket.  But it is so much more.  It’s soft.  It’s sensual fabric makes you want to lay on it.  It’s THIRSTY!  It absorbs your love juices the way you wish your sheets would.  Just lay your throe on top of your bed before playtime and it really absorbs the juices that your or your matter have squirted, or skeeted. We love it because when you want to recuperate in between sex rounds, you can just move the Fascinator Throe and no one has to lay in the wet spot.  When your up for round 2 (or more – lucky you!) Your Liberator Fascinator Throe is ready and eager to drink you up.

Kyng condoms.
We were a little skeptical at Lifestyles coming out with its own line of condoms made specifically for larger men.  The packaging looked like it was going to be a regular size condom, with a regular size fit.  But when he put it on and said that it was more comfortable and had less residue than the Trojan brand Magnum condom (“I don’t know what type of lube they put on the Magnums, but you gotta use gasoline to get It off”)  we used to use, I knew this was going to be the King in our condom stash.

Vajazzle Body jewelry
Of our many sensual addictions, we have to admit, getting a Brazilian wax is definitely one of them, followed by us adorning our lady bits with rows and rows of a temporary tattoo made up of sparkling studs. There is something sensually exciting about being able to view the entire vagina in all of its plump moistness during foreplay.  Having your vajayjay accented by Vajazzling it with Swarovski crystals is very High on our list.

Swiss Navy Lube
Nothing says loving like a healthy dose of anal sex.  And when we indulge, we reach for two products:

1. Adventure Fresh Orange Anal Relaxing Spray.

It must be the delicious sultry scent of Oranges and Clove that really relaxes us or maybe, it works that well.  Anywho, we love it

2.  The Bottle of Swiss Navy Lube.  Hell, if the boys out to sea were to use this… Ok, must stay focused.  But Swiss Navy lube is the TRUTH!!!!

It lubes up that ass and you don’t have to constantly reapply – that just destroys the fun anyway!

When it comes to Restraints, we have a “tie”
LELO Etherea Silk Cuffs (right)

Incoqnito Neck Tie (below)

These are just a few of our favorite things.  We will surely update our list as we add more awesome “sexcessories” to the website.

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Anal Sex Tips

You’ve been considering giving anal sex a try, but you weren’t sure if you will enjoy it.  We know the feeling.  We were there once before and wanted to share some of our experiences we’ve had with you. The most important thing you can do is
Relax!   The anus is full of sensitive nerve endings that can feel amazing when stimulated by a tongue, finger, penis, or toy.
Before engaging in any anal sex activity, you should be completely prepared – mentally and physically.  Foreplay before anal sex is not only fun, but downright necessary.
Here are our top ten tips for enjoying anal sex:

1.     Cleanliness is…Important
You want all of your intimate moments to be memorable, especially your anal sex experience.   You just don’t want to remember any brown residue after your partner withdraws from your anus.  This residue could be fecal matter and/or a combination of fecal matter and mucus membranes.  There isn’t much you can do to eliminate your mucus membranes, but you can control your bowels.    Prior to engaging in anal sex include a diet high in fiber to keep your colon clean.  Short on time?  Try using an anal douche or enema about an hour before intercourse.  This will allow any remaining fluid from the enema or douche to exit your body making your experience more comfortable.  Remember, you can jump into the shower afterward to refresh yourself and your partner.

2.     Keep it Wet
By wet, we mean your intestines.  Drink plenty of water.    This may sound silly but, when you don’t drink enough water, your body becomes dehydrated.  Water hydrates your intestines and helps elimination by producing softer stools.  If you are dehydrated you may become constipated.  Constipation = Uncomfortable sex.  No one wants sex to be uncomfortable.

3.     LUBE LUBE LUBE
We cannot stress this enough.  Use plenty of lube.  Unlike the vagina and the mouth, the anus  does not provide its own moisture.  We recommend using a silicone based lube.  Silicone lasts longer than water based lubes and does not dry out or get yucky.  If you are using a latex safe condom, and it says “lubricated”, for the purpose of anal sex, the lube isn’t enough, so always add more.

4. Foreplay
Before you and your partner get started, play with your anus.  Insert a well lubricated object (just make sure there are no jagged edges ie fingernails, damaged toys) inside of you or have your partner massage the rim of your anus.  When you are both ready, consider exploring safe analingus (oral sex of the anus) with your partner – you can cut open a condom and place it over the opening of the anus to protect yourself from bacteria normally found in the anus.

5.  Watch those signs!

The prospect of having anal sex is as exciting for the giver as well as the receiver.  Make sure your partner proceeds with caution! When you are ready, your anus will relax to let you know, your partner should slowly insert a toy or their penis inside of you.  A penis, even a toy, is a large object to insert inside of an anus, so be patient.  It may seem like it is taking forever to completely enter you, but the rewards are well worth it.  After anal foreplay and you are relaxed enough allow your partner to enter you partially giving your body time to adjust to the size and fit.  Breathe slowly until you are relaxed and you feel yourself opening up more.  When you do open more, allow your partner to go deeper.  If you need a break, have your partner withdraw partially, then attempt re-entry going deeper with each stroke.

6.    The Experience
If at any time during anal sex, you feel extreme pain or discomfort, STOP.  That is your body telling you that you are at risk for damage.  Let your partner know that you need a break.  Take some time, and when you are ready, add more lube and go for it.  embracedesires.com does not endorse desensitizing products for anal sex.

7.  Play Time
Another way of preparing yourself for anal sex is to stretch your muscles yourself.  You can use butt plugs.  This is a wonderful way to easily welcome your partner inside of you.

8. Move
Anal sex doesn’t have to be performed in one position.  It is crucial that you find the position that is most comfortable for you to receive your partner.  For anal sex beginners, try starting out flat on your stomach.  Once you have accepted your partner and the pleasure takes over, switch positions, you may be surprised to find your anal sex experience is more pleasurable in a position different from the one you started out with.

9.     Rest Room
If after enjoying anal sex, you feel like going to the bathroom, Go.  Just don’t strain.

10.     Back to basics
After you and your partner revel in the pleasure that is anal sex, you see some “leftovers”, don’t panic.  This is natural.  Just go clean yourself off, better yet, make it a prelude to more.  Shower together and clean each other off.

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