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January 2013

Valentine’s Day Checklist

Valentine’s Day Checklist

Ok, admit it. You lost track of time. It seems as if just last week you were celebrating the New Year. Now Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching and you have no idea if you will have everything ready for your sweetheart. No fear, we’ve created a Valentine’s Day checklist for you so you can come off looking amazing.

♥ Candles

Light Your Lover’s Fire with Candles

Nothing quite sets the mood like candles. The flickering of the flame, the sensual aromas coming from it, is guaranteed to have your honey already thinking of what they will do to you.

Tip: Set up a row of small tea candles along the path to your bedroom.

Align candles on the bathroom counter.

Light some candles and have dinner by candlelight.

♥ Music

Let’s Get It On with Sultry Music

It has been said that music calms the savage beast (this works especially well if you have been naughty), play some seductive, sultry music. Create a sensual playlist for your lover, and let it play (make sure you have it on repeat so the music continuously loops and you don’t need to stop enjoying each others’ company

♥ Lingerie

Put on Something to be Taken Off

Hopefully you have enough time to order something sexy, but if not, take YOUR favorite piece of lingerie that you enjoy seeing your partner in, CLEAN it, and tell your lucky lover how much you enjoy seeing them in it….and then slooooowly remove it (be daring and try doing this with your teeth!!)

♥ Flowers

Roses are Red, Violets are Blue, Use Flowers to say, “I Love You”.

If you don’t have the time, or space, to grow your own roses, go to your nearest supermarket, and buy a bunch. No need to concern yourself about the quality of the petals, you are going to pick the petals off and either place them in a warm, relaxing bath for two, mark the way to your favorite place to make love (it doesn’t always have to be the bedroom) or simply make a heart out of them on top of a freshly made bed.

♥ Massage

Rub Each Other the Right Way

This is where the fun starts. First, grab a large plush towel; you will get a bit messy here. Then reach for your favorite massage oil, or create your own. All you need to create your own massage oil is either: Almond, Virgin Coconut, or Olive Oil (you can find these at your local supermarket) and add some scented fragrance to it. Finally, in slow sensual motions, glide your hands all over each other to your heart’s desire.

♥ Poetry

Say I Love You

You are going for a home run, a touchdown, a knock out with this! Read your lover a verse or two from an erotic novel, poetry or write your own. You are looking for ways to tell your lover in a unique way, that you love them. Of course, you tell them, “I love you” throughout the year, but make the words you say on this day special.

Edible Aphrodisiacs

Boost your libido and sweeten your love life

Cinnamon – Scent your bed with spices. Cinnamon has been around since the ancient times. An oil blend of cinnamon was reportedly used by the Queen of Sheba to seduce King Solomon. Cinnamon has also been reportedly used to perfume a lover’s bed. It has worked since biblical times, so give it a try – no more than a teaspoon. Ingesting too much cinnamon is NOT a good thing may cause vomiting and vomiting is not sexy at all).

Cherries – Ever heard of men seeking younger brides with lips like cherries? So go on, and Pop that cherry right into your lover’s mouth! (Just have a bowl nearby so you can spit out the pits). Aside from the sexy reference to virginity cherries are delicious, especially when paired with chocolate. Certain cherries have musky scents and contain potassium, necessary to stimulate pheromones (the hormone, essential for sexual attraction). Cherries also contain an antihistamine component that aids in physical exertion.

Chocolate – How could we give you a list without including some sensual chocolate? Chocolate has a richness to its color and a smooth silkiness to its texture that is soooo sexy. Liquid chocolate has a seductive fluidity to it that invites you to put it in your mouth. Chocolate contains both Tryptophan the building block of Serotonin and Phenylethylamine –like an amphetamine, released when the body is aroused. These mood enhancing chemicals are found in the brain. The Aztec emperor Montezuma, reportedly had over 600 wives used to drink “copious” amounts of chocolate to keep them satisfied. If you need any more reasons to include chocolate in your Valentine seduction think of Lover extraordinaire, Cassanova, who is said to have given up drinking wine in favor of chocolate before his trysts with his many lovers.

“Twill Make Old Women Young and Fresh

Create New Motions of the Flesh.

And Cause them long for you know what,

If they but taste of chocolate.”

A History of the Nature and Quality of Chocolate

James Wadworth (1768-1844)

January 29, 2013 0

Oh No We Don’t!

One of the interesting things about working with the embracedesires team, besides discovering new and exciting playthings for our boudoirs, would be our conversations. We recently talked about the variety of sex toys on the market and how improved they have become over the years. One of our friends joined the conversation and brought up the old, hard plastic and jelly-type dildos from decades ago (*gasp! Do people still use these?) and asked “Why doesn’t embracedesires carry them as a cheaper option for our consumers.” After being picked up off of the floor from passing out (OK, so we were a little bit dramatic), and with all of the glam and fabulosity of our inner drag queen, we said…

People care about what goes into their bodies and we’re not talking about calories.

That’s why the team at embracedesires.com follows the rule of Oh No, we don’t! We don’t carry cheap quality merchandise. Period. We don’t carry low-grade porous products. You won’t find those jiggly, wiggly jelly dongs or other silly “insertables” you often find at some adult parties. We don’t apologize for being adults who care.

Call us divas, but we have standards.

For one, we don’t carry products that contain potentially harmful chemicals, like phthalates.

We don’t carry products that remove sensation during sex. You are supposed to feel every delectable, nuance that being intimate offers. If, during sex, something hurts or you are uncomfortable doing something, stop doing it. It’s your body’s natural reaction to danger.

We only carry products from manufacturers that use high quality materials such as medical grade, body safe silicone, erotic glass, stainless steel, and yes, even wood. Many products found on our site are also free from parabens.

We tell you this to let you know: We do care. We care about you. That is why we offer high quality sensual products to enhance your sex life at affordable prices.

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January 22, 2013 0

Guide to Oral Sex

We found this pussy eating instructional an awesome bit of helpful information and we wanted to share it with you. We just wish we could give credit to the author.

GUIDE TO ORAL SEX

by an anonymous woman

How to Eat Pussy

Hey, I have a lot of respect for all you guys who like to eat pussy because there are too few of you out there. And I’m not the only woman who says this. Furthermore, some of you guys who are giving it the old college try are not doing too well, so maybe this little lesson will help you out. When a woman finds a man who gives good head, she’s found a treasure she’s not going to let go of too quickly. This is one rare customer and she knows it. She won’t even tell her girlfriends about it or that guy will become the most popular man in town. So, remember, most guys can fuck, and those who can usually do it satisfactorily, but the guy who gives good head, he’s got it made. Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you’ve got the world’s most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she’s going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it’s beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs. Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn’t it? There is nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I’ve seen plenty of them. They come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside like a little girl’s cunnie and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz. Appreciate your woman’s unique qualities and tell her what makes her special. Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you’re petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it. Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of her pussy up until you can find her clit. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have different sized cocks. It doesn’t mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin. Whenever you touch a woman’s pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn’t have any juices of it’s own and it’s extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it’s dry and that hurts. But you don’t want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled. Approach her pussy slowly. Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate it. Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her. After you’ve done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she’s straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit. Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you’re about to eat must be done gently. Tongue-fuck her. This feels define. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit. Check it out. See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of it’s covering. If so, lick it. If you can’t see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up tot he top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience it’s presence. But even if you can’t feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press into her skin. Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This

should cause her legs to shudder. When you sense she’s getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch your lady’s face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don’t fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don’t let go. That’s what she’ll be saying too: ‘Don’t stop. Don’t ever stop!’ There’s a reason for that, most men stop too soon. Just like with cock sucking, this is something worth learning about and worth learning to do well. I know a man who’s a lousy fuck, simply lousy, but he can eat pussy like nobody I know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are falling all over him. But back to your pussy eating session…There’s another thing you can do to intensify your woman’s pleasure. You can finger-fuck her while she’s enjoying your clit-licking talents. Before, curing or after. She’ll really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against when you’re fucking her. Well, since your cock is pretty far away from your mouth, your fingers will have to do the fucking. Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and therefore can’t get deep enough. Make sure they’re wet so you don’t irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing. She’ll let you know what to do. If you’re sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you’re giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she’s getting high on this. If there’s any doubt, check her out for symptoms. Each woman is unique. You may have one who’s nipples get hard when she’s excited or only when she’s having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you’ll be a more sensitive lover. When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven’s sakes, don’t let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now. If you play your cards right, you’ll get some multiple orgasms this way. A woman stays excited for a full hour after she’s had an orgasm. Do you realize the full impact of that information? The potential? One woman was clocked at 56 orgasms at one sitting. Do you know what effect you would have on a woman you gave 56 orgasms too? She’d be yours as long as you wanted her. The last advice I have for you is this: After you’ve made her come, made her your slave by giving her the best head she’s ever had, don’t leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she’s come all the way down. A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex. Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have. But it’s what you make it. Take your time, practice often, pay attention to your lover’s signals, and most of all, enjoy yourself.

January 17, 2013 1

Sex Resolutions For 2013

A Month by Month Plan for a Sex-Sational New Year

New Years, brings new things! 365 new chances to live the life you have always wanted to live! For the New Year, remember to make your sex resolutions. Don’t waste another day-in fact, don’t waist another moment! When considering how to improve your health and well-being in 2013, make sure to plan for a sex-sational New Year and New You! Go for more orgasms! Yes, yes, yes and oh yes! More orgasms can improve your physical, mental and emotional health! When you indulge in your passions, you open the door to embracing your desires which may help you to achieve your entire resolution list! Wouldn’t that be great! To get started, all you need is a month-by-month plan. Here are 6 ways for the next 6 months to change your life forever, enhance sexual pleasure and improve your overall health over the next six months. Stay tuned for more!

Just Do It January

It’s the beginning of the New Year! Let your inhibitions down and like the athletic giant says, Just do it! According to Dr. Laura Berman, a leading sex and relationship therapist on OWN, the Oprah Winfrey Network, make a resolution to stay open to the promise of sex even if you aren’t immediately in the mood. Kiss your partner, enjoy his touches, and let your mind delve into fantasy. Stay open to sex and tune into the pleasure of being touched and kissed. You will likely find that your body responds and that you are in the mood after all!

Karma Sutra 52-A Year’s Worth of the Best Positions for Passion and Pleasure

Benefit: Burn calories

Have more sex, more often. Depending on your sex position, experts say 30 minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. (Ladies, you will burn more calories during sex when you are on top). It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Wow! Orgasm plus weight loss! Doubling up, you could drop that pound just by having sex for a few weeks.

2. Freaky February

February is the shortest month to try something new! Think of the freakiest thing you’ve ever wanted to try and go for it! Try a new sexual position – Need a bit of inspiration? Check out the erotic, instructional and informative readings on Embracedesires.com to get you started. You might discover a new favorite…or two or three or more! Buy some new lingerie. Use a new toy. Have you ever tried a Sex Swing? A Lovemaking Lounger? Do you want to be tied up? Has the book series 50 Shades of Grey left you wanting to be…Dominated? You must tell your partner what interests you! Say, “Spank Me”. Be bold and daring, just make sure you tell your partner. Write it down and leave it as a little love note or text, if you can’t say it. Life is too short – indulge your passions and embrace your desires. Be as uninhibited as you desire! And oh, have fun with it! Embracedesires.com has just what you need to help you unleash your inner temptress — 50 Shades of Pleasure, Sexual Pleasure Items, Bondage Play, Anal toys, Vibrating toys & so much more!

Benefit: Improves Your Heart Health

Having sex may be good for your heart. A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex twice or more a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month.

3. Masturbate March

Masturbate much? It’s ok. Go on, make love to yourself! Really get to know the one person you’ve been with your entire life! Self-stimulation is normal, healthy and a wonderful way to get in touch with your hot spots. Be sure to use a high quality lube when pleasuring yourself to make each stroke wonderful. Go for mutual masturbation. Simultaneously, stimulate each other during Masturbate March. For a unique and erotic experience, stimulate each other without penetration and see who comes to climax first. Winner gets to dominate. For stimulation without risk of a fatigued hand, use toys – grab the batteries and your favorite vibrator or introduce yourself to a new toy friend for clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Men can benefit from the use of a onacup (male masturbation sleeve) with a vibrating bullet. If you don’t know how to love yourself, nobody else will…

Benefit: Reduce Stress

Natural endorphins released during self-stimulating pleasure can improve your overall mood by improved circulation and relieving stress.

4. Anal April

Let’s get to the bottom of anal sex and straight men. Many straight guys have preconceived notions about anal play. Mainly, if you derive pleasure from anal stimulation, you must somehow be gay. Guys, you can still have the raging heterosexuality of an NFL offensive line and explore your all of your erogenous zones. The anus is full of sensitive nerve tissue that, when stimulated can bring immense pleasure. Sexual orientation doesn’t change based on pleasure zones. We recommend that you start by experimenting with a well silicone – lubed finger. If you are worried about residue, wear sterile gloves, and then lube your finger with a quality silicone lube. When you and your partner are ready, then you can graduate to anal plugs. Anal plugs with a flare at the end are best if you want to avoid a trip to the ER…”uh, Doc, I was reading this blog a few hours ago and…, well you get the idea. We highly suggest the use of silicone-based lubricants highest for pleasure during anal sex. The silicone will not be absorbed into your skin as would water-based lubes thus reducing friction and increasing pleasure. Word to the wise – START OFF SLOW! Your ass isn’t going anywhere! If it hurts, take a break.

Benefit: Boost Immunity

Having sex, whether anal or vaginal, boosts your immunity. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.

5. Mind-Blowing May

Give your partner mind-blowing pleasure throughout the year, but especially during May. Dedicate this month to perfecting your oral skills. Oral sex is one of the most delightful ways couples can give each other pleasure without saying a word. Most men are fans of the blow job as it gives them intense sexual sensations and can bring him to a pretty intense orgasm. To make him go weak at the knees, when giving him a blow job linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive – the tip of his penis, his testicles and his perineum – the secret spot between the testicles and the anus. To get you started, read How to Give a Mind-blowing Blowjob by Linda Sussman. Ladies, this must read will teach you just how to make him moan with pleasure!

Some studies suggest that women love receiving oral sex also. In fact, 30 to 50 percent of women say they can’t reach an orgasm through intercourse alone. A woman’s clitoris is the most pleasure-sensitive part of her vagina and that’s where you’ll want to devote your attention. In fact, the tiny little clitoris has more sensory nerve endings than the entire penis! Stimulating your partner’s vulva, clitoris and entrance to the vagina using your tongue, lips and mouth will drive her wild, resulting in a super intense orgasm! So, relax and share the pleasure – both giving and receiving to experience a new dimension of sensuality…mmh, mmmh, good!

Benefit: Improve your mood

Orgasms increase estrogen and endorphin levels which makes you feel good and naturally improves your mood.

6. G-spot June

Want to find your infamous G-spot? Search for it! Seriously, enjoy discovering your deepest pleasure spot! Insert about two well lubed fingers inside of your vagina (glycerin and paraben free water-based lube works best), turn your hand so your fingers are pointed up and towards your belly, and motion with as if you are beckoning the orgasm to you. You’ve lived with your body all your life; take the time to get to know yourself! The physical truth: There’s a mass of spongy tissue that surrounds the urethra, called the urethral sponge. And like other parts of the body, the tissue is full of blood vessels and nerve endings. “We know something is there − way too many women have had pleasure by stimulating… that area of the vagina,” says Amy Levine, NYC certified sexual educator. “We also know some women ejaculate when there’s pressure applied to the same area.” Every woman’s vulva and vagina is not the same, and bundles of highly sensitive nerve endings may be in different places. Which may explain why some respond well to a certain technique or position and others don’t. While some women’s G-spot is located about two inches from the entrance of the vagina, another woman’s g-spot might be further from the entrance of her vagina and that’s why she needs you to hit her cervix! It is time that we all start getting more of what we want! Embrace your desires in 2013. Have better sex! It will improve your life and your health.

Benefit: It’s your sex life, make it better!

January 15, 2013 1

Sexy, sensual, and seductive footwear made for women who want to stand out in a crowd. Each style is a piece of artwork that will make you feel beautiful, sexy, and powerful.

Fab Footwear. Heels. Stilettos. No matter what you call them. What is it about shoes? You can have on the simplest outfit, but when you put on a pair of heels, it makes the entire outfit say Blam!

Ever hear the saying, “Cinderella is proof that a new pair of shoes can change your life”? We have. That’s why we decided to increase our selection of sexy footwear for you to take from the boardroom to the bedroom. Change your life, even if it is only for a few hours. We know that sometimes you want to step out in a pair of sexy stilettos with your skinny jeans. It’s only right.

Embracedesires.com has hand selected the perfect pair of heels to go along with your outfits. All of your sexy outfits.

Find these and more in the Ready to Wear tab under: Stilettos 😉 or just click on the photo

January 7, 2013 0

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